I've thought about getting a tummy tuck for years, but kept putting it off for money reasons and because I wanted to be in better shape before doing it. I wish I'd been able to scrape up the money sooner and just done it as soon as I put in a deposit last year. I went in for a consultation and didn't want to book the appointment right away because, once again, I figured I'd lose some more weight before. Then the pandemic hit and I'm now 15lbs heavier (but probably more so because I lost a lot of muscle as well). Last month I finally set the date to July 19 to try and kick my butt into gear and hit the gym hard again like I used to and at least get back to the weight I was when I had my consultation, but things keep getting in the way almost daily. It's been a real struggle and I haven't made any progress and now it's only a month and 2 weeks away. I'm seriously considering postponing it, but I'm afraid of that being a mistake too. I'm a little lost on what to do or if the time I have left until my date is enough to make any real progress.
Updated on 4 Jun 2021:
So, I was assigned a surgeon during my first and only consultation a year ago. I only recently booked my surgery date (July 19) and found this site (real self). I'm nervous because on here he only has 6 reviews, 1 which was for Botox and he's not rated, and another in which he was rated 1 star for a breast reduction. The other four are 5 stars for breast augmentations but were done 3-5 years ago (the 1 star was 1 year ago). I'm getting a tummy tuck with him and there are no reviews for him for that. He does have his own site, and the tummy tuck gallery of his work there does look good, but I don't know how recent they are and if he's maybe only showcasing his best work. I've read stories of people's messed up work by other surgeons and I'm scared I'll end up having a similar experience and dislike or hate my results. I'll be getting a tummy tuck with light lipo of the hips, flanks, and upper abdomen. The cost is $10,500. I had tried getting consultations with other surgeons, but it's always a few hundred just for a consultation (even if it's virtual) and I don't know if I'll even be choosing the surgeon I have the consultation with. And going off reviews, it seems those same doctors I'm curious about, for the same procedures, would cost me at least another $5k. I don't want to be spending hundreds on various doctors just for a consultation when I might not choose them and then on top of that be paying a ton more for the procedure. I don't know if I can shell out that kind of money, but I also know you get what you pay for. At the same time, I've seen other people here get the same procedures for less than what I will be paying too and they came out phenomenal. I'm just not sure what to do.
Updated on 11 Jun 2021:
Just wanted to have some pictures to compare to later. This is one month prior to my procedure date. I couldn't take a great picture from the side but I wanted to show how I look with my pants holding in that excess skin and how I look with that excess skin hanging over them. It might be hard to tell, but those pictures are of the flab of skin hanging over and on top of my pants.
Updated on 14 Jul 2021:
Had my pre-op appointment this past Friday 7/9/21. Basically made the payment and talked about how to prepare:
- have plenty of protein in the days leading up to the big day
- take iron pills daily (I'm anemic)
- no painkillers other than Tylenol 10 days prior
--night before/ day of--
- no eating or drinking for 8 hours before surgery, not even water or ice chips. NOTHING.
- shower with antibacterial soap the night before or morning of (they suggested Dial soap)
- no lotions, deodorant, creams, makeup, nail polish, hair products, nothing
- no jewelry
- wear loose comfortable clothing when I come in
--afterward--
-take Arnica (muscle soreness and bruising), Keflex (antibiotic), and Norco (pain) as directed for the following week
I got some Arnica gel as well and I'll probably be buying something to help with the scarring after the bandages and stitches come out. Other than that, I don't really know how what else to do. My regular physician told me I'll likely be sleeping propped up/sitting up on pillows the first several days and she said I NEED to get a walker. So I'll be looking to get one from a thrift store or something.
I'm not going to lie, a big part of me is terrified. I was reading the disclaimers and whatnot on the forms I was signing and I couldn't help but think the big"what if" questions. "What if I'm one of those extremely rare cases that ends being totally aware of everything happening during surgery while still being immobile? What if the anesthesia doesn't work like it should and I can feel everything?" Or, "What if I'm one of those rare but possible cases of fatality?" I'm trying to be positive, but this is my surgery and I guess I'm not used to doing things for myself either. The thought of me finally having something nice seems kind of unreal. My other, less severe thought, is what if I'm one of those people that ends up hating their results? What if it doesn't turn out right and it's just disappointing. I've been saving for so long as well as trying so hard to lose weight through diet and exercise. If this doesn't come out well, it would be awful.
Well, enough of the negative thoughts! I'm really hoping for the best and I'll post a bit more before my op day. I've managed to lose a little more weight, so I'll post some more before pics before the procedure. If anyone has more suggestions on preparations (physically or mentally) please share!
Updated on 21 Jul 2021:
So, I finally had the procedure done yesterday. Originally I was going to have a tummy tuck with some lipo of the upper back, flanks, and upper abdomen, but unfortunately I'm anemic and my levels didn't get into range in order to be able to do all of that. I was given the option to have either the tummy tuck OR the lipo. Being that my loose, lower belly flab was my main concern, I chose the tummy tuck. Anyway, Dr. Berger and the anesthesiologist (unfortunately I cannot remember her name) made me feel at ease, as did the nurses, Maddie and Krista, that assisted me before getting into the op room. This was my first surgery of any kind ever and I let them know how nervous I was about the whole thing. They did not sugar coat anything and answered my questions, being very patient with me. I only have one drain and have only had to empty it out twice so far. My sister and my son have been my nurses at home, helping me up and onto the bed and bringing me drinks or food. There is definitely pain, but so far it's not nearly as bad as I was expecting. A cough did sneak up on me and ???????????????? hurt like hell. I've also had to remind my sister not to make me laugh because that is also painful (she's a jokester, so it's been hard). I'm taking Norco sparingly, but the Keflex , arnica, and iron pills are routine, of course. I started taking a stool softener two days ago but haven't had a bowel movement since the night before last. That's making me a little nervous. I've been sleeping intermittently in a propped up/inclined position with my knees up as well. It's honestly hard to keep that position since I keep slowly sliding down and it isn't the most comfortable for my neck. Oh! My throat also hurt like hell yesterday. I'm assuming it is from being intubated. I should've drank some hot tea or something, but I haven't asked for it. At times I sort of feel like I want the garment (faja?) tighter, more pressure on my stomach. I try to apply some pressure myself, but it's difficult to keep it up. Well, that's all I can think to say for now. Time for another Norco!
Updated on 26 Jul 2021:
So, most everything has been going well. I'm moving around more easily and the pain has definitely lessened. I did have some leaking from where the tube of my drain is coming out of me, but I was told it's nothing to be concerned about and I did noticed it happens when I "push" or bear down a little due to gas. It isn't a lot and I'm not too worried about it. I do have three concerns, though. One is that when I finally took my first shower (6 days po) and took my compression garment off for the first time, I noticed that I have a bulge just above my panty line on the left side. The second is that after that shower, I started getting sharp pains just above that spot (about 2 inches above it). It's not necessarily constant, but any little thing sets off the pain. It's actually hindering my mobility more than anything else related to my procedure at this point. I don't know if it is something normal that just has to heal, something gone wrong during surgery, or that maybe I injured myself. To be clear, from the time I got home after surgery to the time of my shower, I was literally only getting up to walk over to use the restroom (and once to sit in the living room for a little while [5days Po]). I took it so easy. The only thing I can think may have caused injury is the first and second time I had a BM (3 & 4 days po). NOT from strain or anything having to do with actually using the bathroom, but from WIPING. And this is something I hadn't thought of before that first moment- how are you supposed to safely do this and why does NO ONE mention it? At least in the profiles I've read and followed, I haven't seen it mentioned at all. Maybe I missed posts somewhere? Maybe this issue was just me??? Anyway, when it came time to wipe I could not find a way to comfortably squat/stand/sit in order to get my body to twist for me to properly reach back there to wipe adequately. Like, I spent time struggling and trying to figure out the best angle and execution and just couldn't do it. Upon twisting my body (not even that it was a whole lot of course) and reaching back, I felt a sudden sharp pain on the left side of my abdomen. So sharp and throbbing I had to stop and just sit there and take some deep breaths before trying again. I finally managed to wipe (yay me), but the same thing happened the next day. I called and asked the doctor (I'm not so lucky as other people who got their surgeons cell phone numbers, I called the office) about both the bulging and the pain and he said it was fine, and to just come in on my next scheduled follow up this Thursday (7/29/21) for them to remove my drain. I don't know, he may very likely be right, but I'm still worried. Third concern is that I'm still having issues with shortness of breath at 7 days po. I have to take frequent deep breaths just to feel like I'm getting enough oxygen. There's no pain when I breathe, no coughing or wheezing, but it does feel more laborious than usual to take those deep breaths.
I'll try to get pictures next time I take the garment off. Aside from the odd bulge, I think it looks good and I'm hoping that bulge can be fixed easily and doesn't require more surgery. If I have to wait until Thursday to address all this with my surgeon, then I guess we'll just have to wait and see what happens. If anyone has any insight or tips, they are more than welcome.
Updated on 4 Aug 2021:
So, I had the drain taken out this past Thursday (7/29/21) and my surgeon had a chance to look at how things are going. My belly button is apparently starting to scar pretty badly and he recommended their medical grade scarring cream to reduce the scar ring I'll have. It would be $80 for a small bottle and I am just kind of over spending money right now, so I didn't get it (but I'll probably regret it later). I did ask him about the bulging on my lower left side and he did seem a bit concerned about it but said that we would wait until the next appointment in three weeks to see if maybe it adjusts with more healing or whether it may be fluid or something else that needs to be addressed. I check on it every time I shower and it bugs me. I'm thinking more and more that I am going to have to go through this process again because that looks like not enough tummy was tucked. I am moving about much better, still wearing a faja 24/7 except to shower, and sleeping much better. I still get some small pains some times and it still hurts when I cough or sneeze, but not as badly (still dread every time I feel one coming though). I still can't seem to stand up totally straight when I'm walking, and it is frustrating to me, but I'm trying to be patient with myself. If I have to grab something that fell on the floor I also get a little nervous to bend all the way down to get it (I do so very carefully), but I think it's mostly me psyching myself out. The steri strips still haven't come off even tho I read they typically fall off after about a week or so. I'm wondering if the faja is helping them stay despite my showers and whatnot. I'm not in any rush to have them off, so if it's not a problem, I'm fine with it. I guess I also hadn't realized how far back my incisions would go. Guess it's normal for some people tho?? Anyway, I'm still glad I did it despite the bulging and the likely scaring of my belly button. I didn't get any lipo, so I still have work to do to reach my body goals. I do have lots of pretty bad stretch marks, but I can live with those. The pictures I'm posting aren't great, but I think you can get the gist from them. There's also a lot of marks on my skin from the faja, so just ignore those haha
Updated on 6 May 2022:
So sorry for the long wait to those who have sent me messages. I have been so busy with school and work and family.
To keep things short, I have to have a revision. The left side is still this odd lump/pudge and on top of that, my belly button shrunk so bad I can't even fit a Q-tip in it to clean it out. Honestly, it's ugly and looks like a cat's butthole. I'm sad.
I spoke to the surgeon and he said he'd he'd do a revision but that it would cost me somewhere around $1500-1800. I don't think I should have to pay for them to fix their mistake, but I don't know if I have a choice.
There was a point after the surgery where I ended up with an infection (cellulitis) right where my left leg bends at my pelvis. I couldn't walk, it was so painful. I went to the hospital and they put me on morphine and checked me, did a scan, gave me antibiotics, and said I should go back to my surgeon and have him look into draining fluid that was building up. When I did this, he said that the doctors at the hospital aren't surgeons and aren't versed in what happens during these kinds of surgeries. He assured me all will be fine and to just continue the antibiotics that were given to me. This made me nervous, but I did so, and I suppose ultimately I am fine, but I don't know if that is the reason for the pudge (the use of only one drain rather than to and maybe that's what lead to the fluid that had built up there??) and the infection. After all this, I don't really trust him to fix this with the revision and I don't want to pay for an attempt by him.
One more thing... I don't know if this is normal, but there are many times even now (9 months po) that the area from behind my belly button down to my pelvis at the incision feels delicate/sensitive. Like it almost feels as though I still need a faja or some kind of support sometimes. When I press around my belly button area it feels kind of hard, and in my opinion, strange, but again, I don't know if this is normal. I don't like it though and until someone with experience tells me otherwise, I'm going to continue to be concerned.
I forgot to mention a while ago that while initially the total cost was going to be $10,500 , that changed because I did not get the lipo I originally was going to get with the tummy tuck. This was at first because my iron was too low (I'm anemic) despite my taking iron pills, but when they suggested I just come back and do the lipo later, I decided not to. They refunded my money (though they did try to short me $250 and I had to bug then until they gave that back too). Total cost of just this messed up tummy tuck was $6,500.
Updated on 6 May 2022:
Accidentally posted my last update before I got to upload pictures. These are from October (about 3 months po) and November (4 months po) 2021. I haven't taken more pictures since because it's just disappointing. In the first ones, my skin kind of looks odd (aside from the stretch marks) because I was wearing a faja just before and there was also some kind of bruising or something going on because of the chaffing from it at the top (under my bust). In the ones from October, I am wearing some tapes that are for reducing scars. I do think they helped.