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Well i have 6 children(all girls) and i have...
- 31 Jan 2012
- 1 year pre
Well i have 6 children(all girls) and i have gained with each one over 100lbs each time. it took a toll on my body and now it needs to be fixed. I am scared and wondering if its the right thing to do. Can i really be that vain? What if i die! What if im not put all the way under and i can feel it but cant communicate?! What if i wake up in the middle of the procedure?! what if in recovery i move just right and pop open and bleed to death?!! All different types of things are going through my head hence the reason why i havent had it done yet. Ive been researching proceudres doctors, ambulatory facilities, surgical facilities, office base facilities, researching PS and anesthesiologist credentials. im doing my homework and trying to get some courage to actually go through with the surgery. if i could only stop freaking myself out. Anyways, ive seen 2 PS so far and schedule to see 4 more all in feb. Hopefully i can find one i trust and that i feel comfortable with.
I just wanted to clarify from the original post...
- 2 Feb 2012
- 1 year pre
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- 10 Feb 2012
- 1 year pre
Just wanted to make a quick update. Im scheduled...
- 14 Feb 2012
- 1 year pre
Well I went yesterday to my consult with Dr.O. He...
- 22 Feb 2012
- 1 year pre
Went last week for an ultrasound on my abdomen to...
- 1 Mar 2012
- 11 months pre
Hi, Its been awhile since i have updated my...
- 21 May 2012
- 9 months pre
Its been awhile since i have updated my profile. Since the last post I did see 2 more PS. I went to see this on PS im going to cal lhim dr. I. Well he seemed very cocky and he acted and looked very tired. The whole time during the consult he was leaning up against the wall. I asked him some questions that were concerning, like how can you avoid perforationg my arota when you do lipo? Well he said that they dont know why stuff like that happens it just does "When I was in med school I seen some patients die just getting a catheter put in". I said, What! How does that happen?" Then he said with his famous words, " I don't know it just did." I didn't get to try on any implants he made me feel very uncomfortable. Just because you have all this education and experience doesnt make you a godsend. that's what i was thinking. So anyways he was definatly a no and his price was the highest of all of them. The last consult that i went on was with Dr. G his staff was nice and he was too. I did feel like i was being rushed through everything thing. He also did work on his staff. I didn't get to see any before or afters that part bothered me. I didn't really get to ask anything, i had to keep on reminding him why i was there(for what procedures). Then he said, you dont have to do this but alot of my Mommies that get their makeover they complain about having this( which was the back fat on the lower part) its optional. You don't have to do it but you can if you want. He also said i had a nice figure and once i get the tummy tuck it will be even better( the reason why he told me i had a nice figure is because i have the hour glass shape, i do work out alot always have). That part was nice to hear though i always thought that i do have a nice figure just the belly that hangs due to lack of skin and now my boobs just aint good anymore. But anyways, He was very nice educated me on the reason why he would like to do a breast lift first then come back for implants is because that the blood supply is "cut off" with the lift in 2 different areas so when you add a implant the last and 3 areas that draws blood to the breast is cutt off as well so there is a chance for nipple death. He said," if you were my daughter i would recommed doing a lift first, get those symetrical, perky, and nice. Then in 3months time come back and get the implants, so that you can have nice full breast to go with your new figure". I did like him alot, i just didn't like his price nor did i like his patient coordinator. She was nice dont get me wrong but she sucks at her job BIG TIME! i emailed her the next day after my consult and never heard a response. Just as bad as the first doctors coordiantor i called her that same day of my consult and never heard from her again.
So since that i have not choosen a PS yet, alot of things have happend with home life, that i had to put this whole makeover on hold for awhile to see whats going to be going on. I hope that i will still be able to get the MM done next year. but that all will have to wait and see what happens this year. I hate making plans because something tends to happen to derail your plans majorly. I see everyones post and you can see that their confidence has come back and they are happy as can be, and that is so awesome! Because i know once i'm able to get mine done i will once again be confident in my own skin. I seem to of lost my self and my confidence right around when i got pregnant with my 6th child. Everything was going wrong at that time in my life with my marriage and to top it off i was pregnant and not feeling confident cuz i was huge. After the birht of my 6th daughter(i gained 55lbs with her that has been the least amount of weight that i have ever gained in a pregnancy) i had lost over 65lbs with in 2months of having her. I felt so good that the lbs were just melting off my body, i felt sexy i felt confident, i felt like i was doing something right and proud of myself that i lost over 65lbs. But leave it to a man to f***k all that up for you. AT that time in my marrage s**t was getting worse than what they were while i was pregnant. I was trying everything to fix it and to grab some damn attention. But i finally gave up, i had had enough of his crap. Of course he blammed me for this and for that and he had to walk on egg shells around me and i didnt make him happy anymore blablabla. And this whole time hes complaining and whinning to me about me, i was thinking does he not SEE all that I do for this family and for him?! Does he not see that I'm not me anymore?! Does he not see that stress and depression is getting the best of me?! Maybe he does see but doesnt care. Does he actually think hes going to find someone beter then me?! Do I really want to through everything away that we had built together? I was pondering alot of things while he was talking and i told myself, let him go. He doesn't deserve you or this family, if "friends" is what he needs then go right ahead and have them. Will your "friends" keep you warm at night, do everything for you? I THINK NOT!!! so needless to say i let him go his merry way. We "seperated" he stayed in the living room and i stayed in the bedroom. we werent sleeping together nor were we sleeeeping together. Why should i give up the cookie, he dont deserve it. lol..
Anyways, that went on for a week or so, then guess what! He decides that he wants to be with me because he realized he was an a$$h**E and he was putting everything on me. And he really was blamming me for everything and in reality it wasnt me at all. But the damage had already be done(emotionally). He had told me that he is very much in love with me and wants to spend the rest of our lives together and making it up to me; and that I am the best woman and wife he could of ever asked for but he was too stupid to realize it at the time. Well duh i told him that, I knew that all along. But did I want him back after all that? I do love him very much and he had not done the ultimate betrayal; He just was lost for awhile(if he were to do the ultimate betrayal oh HELL NO there is no comming back after that in more than one sense). Anyhow we had gotten back "together" and ever since then he really has changed, he really has been trying to make up for all the times he was a jacka$$ to me and making me feel the way he made me felt.
Just recently i had a break down i had gotten really sad and depressed and just wanted to cry my eyes out. My husband asked me what was wrong and of course i said nothing( me not wanting to bother him with my feelings, not that he doesnt care because he does deeply, thats how i am). Well he finally got it out of me and i told him i wish i could be the way i was physically and mentally when we had met( which was 3kids ago, i had 3 children when we met). jAnd i told him that I know my self confidence will go up once i have the MM. I did tell him part of the way i feel is because of him on how he was and what happend the last 2 yrs. but the other part is how i am because i dont feel sexy. He tells me that he loves my body and im very sexy and he loves the way i feel; he tells me im beautiful and sexy everyday at least 10times a day. Which is very nice to hear and i do love hearing it. Its nothing that your doing wrong now its how i see myself. Some days i can look in the mirror and say , "I do look GOOD, all my hard work is paying off". but other days, i dread looking in the mirror, i dread wearing certain clothes, i dread making love my husband the love of my life. Because when i feel and can hear my hanging skin hit my body thats a turn off(sorry so graphic its grooss i know). Or when i look in the mirror and have to suck in my gut and lift my boobs and say this is how im supposed to look at 27yrs. Its depressing and overwhelming. I love my children and i wouldnt change them for the world. but i would change my body.
i want/need to be able to walk with my head held high, i want/need to be able to wear jeans and have them fit comfortably, i want/need to be able to shave my pubic region without lifting my stomach up to do it(gross i know sorry again), i want/need to be able to make love with my clothes off, i want/need to be able to walk around naked(in my house), I want/need to be able to do jumping jacks, burpees, jump rope, sit ups with out strapping in mine stomach. I want/need to be able to stop cutting myself down and comparing myself to my mom( i dont want to look nothing like that woman). i want/need my back to stop hurting(due to lack of muscles in my abdomen and my stomach is trying to hold up the hanging skin and it doesnt work so therefore my lower back comes into play).
Now that I am re reading what i wrote thats alot of wants seems like i want to much. Well lets change those to needs. ok there i did it. Am I asking for too much? Am I risking too much? Am I being to vain? Why am I so focused on my body? Why can't i just be happy the way I am? Will having this procedure make me feel better about myself? Am I being selfish?... People wear makeup to enhance their looks and to feel better about themselves( i do wear makeup occasionally, it does make me feel better to a point), so why couldn't I have a cosmetic procedure to make me feel better about myself? Why would these procedures make me any more selfish or vain than wearing makeup would?... 1 you spend 50 bucks on the other your risking life and alot of dough.
What I do know is that i'm not happy with myself on physical reasons and it does need to change. I believe once i do get the procedures done i would be a better person, woman, wife, mother. And ill be able to workout better! Sorry about that i guess I just had to get alot off of my chest lately. Well take care.
Well I haven't been on any consults again. I have...
- 22 Jun 2012
- 8 months pre
Maybe those are all normal fears that every woman has when trying to figure out what to do. What I do know is that i would like to have perky full symetrical boobs. I do know that just a BL will not get me to where i would lke to be. I do know that I would like a PS to listen carefully to all my questions and concerns and maybe just maybe ask me what I want to achieve with this plastic surgery. What do you want your breasts to look like, "well i would like symetrical, perky full breast and have my nipples in the same direction" " oh and that I would like for you to take some breast tissue out of the left breast cuz it gets rock hard now and i would like to min that with implants". What are your concerns with the tummy tuck? " Well my concern is that i don't want it to pulled up to where my pubic area sticks out of my pants/underwear" " I dont want an oblong belly button, I would like a normal or close to a normal BB" " I really would like a low scar, I obviously want muscle repair cuz thats one of the points of a tummy tuck, i don't want loose skin on the tummy afterwards; thats what i paying you for to min that issue". " i definalty do not want dog ears so try to min that as well". " Oh doc one more thing, i do not like my inner thighs cuz they touch each other and rub and my saddle bags i would like gone can you do that as well or does that have to be in a different surgery'? " I have some pics of tummy tucks and BL/BA that i would like to be similar to or better, do you think that is doable for my body type"?
I imagine that is how a consultation is supposed to go and none of mine went like tht or even similar. This is why Im thinking that i should go a redo the consults with these 5 surgeons and try to get another feeling on them. This is a tough choice to make, i have to trust this person with MY LIFE! This for me is not a easy thing for me to do. When i was pregnant with my children and had to choose a OBGYN i thought that was going to be very difficult because you have to trust this person with your life and child. I always though oh great im never going to find one. With children 1 through 4 it was actually pretty easy, I only met with 1 and I knew that was my OBGYN. Then I had moved far away from that OBGYN and i had gotten pregnant again and i went to an OBGYN in the new state i moved to. Right off his staff was terrible( they yelled at me and oh boy i yelled right back then they changed their tune with me) and i was thinking oh this doctor better be good because i had to put up with that unprofessionalism and disrespect i dont think so. Then I met the doctor oh my god cold rude just everything you wish NOT to have in a doctor. Well I only seen him once because i was on a path to find the right OBGYN for me. I knew i wanted a doctor who practiced VBACs and i wanted a OBGYN that was similar to my old obgyn. I called around then made an appointment to go met him. Well just by 1 visit I knew he was the one for me. He reminded me of my old obgyn but he was a little bit better( that was a plus) and he was willing to do a VBAC(another plus) he is very kind and compassionate and sympathatic and funny.
Well that's how I think choosing a Plastic Surgeon would of been but it was not for me. Maybe Im just picking at them cuz i dont like what they have to recommend. I keep on replaying the consults in my head and 3 of the 5 keep popping back in my head that i should definalty go back for 2nd consults,but their staff sucks, i also have been thinking about going to see 2other docs who dont advertise as much as all the other doctors, but their consults are expensive( i dont like throwing away 100 to 200 away if i decide i dont want to go with them ya know). What to do, what to do. If anyone has any more or other tips on how you choosed a PS please feel free and let me know. Thanks. Prayers be with you all going into surgery and recovery.
Thought that I should update my profile. I just...
- 5 Jul 2012
- 7 months pre
Hi, Well I went on another 2nd consult with Dr,...
- 11 Jul 2012
- 7 months pre
Well I went on another 2nd consult with Dr, A with my husband. IT took 2hrs for this consult, everything went fine. The first time I went to this Doctor i was quoted around 18000.00 but now the 2nd consult went to 11000.00 Dont get me wrong thats nice but Why did it go down so much? Is it because of the economy and the Dr. wasn't getting much buisness and decided to lower the rate or did something happen ( major complications or death) as to why the fee was lowered. the PS explained how he would do the BL and Aug and went in to great detail he explained it for my husband as well. Then i asked him my questions and he answered them all in detail( hes a visual doc) He showed my photos of the patients he had recently on his phone before/while/ and after the procedures. I asked my husband what he thought of this doctor and he said he seems ok hes professional. I asked him if he could trust this PS with my life. And of course he says, " I trust him with your boobs". I said, " great I'll have nice tits and be dead". I then happen to ask him did you trust my OBGYN with my life he then told me no. He also added that he only trust him with my life but hes not a doctor. He did help me choose size of implants though. I went too big and he went to small i think but we ended up meeting in the middle. The doctor said that I would look too top heavy with the implants i pick and i did feel that too. So we met in the middle that would even me out. I don't want to be too small nor too big. I don't want to have nothing but i also dont want to be porno big. Im very broad for a woman so i want something that will look like i have boobs. I also asked the doc that i have an hourglass shape will i lose that with the TT. He said with an old fashion TT that i would but he doesnt do the old fashion way, but the way he does it will enhance more of the hour glass so i would look like the Kim K and Jennifer Lopez look witht he small waist and vavoom everything. So that nice as well i really didnt want to lose the hourglass shape. I have one more consult with Dr. O it will be my 2nd with him So after this consult my husand and I will choose who to go with for the MM.
Well after some real hard thinking my Pros and...
- 17 Aug 2012
- 6 months pre
It's been awhile, lots has happened
- 18 Jun 2013
- 4 months post
Sorry bout mistakes when typing
- 18 Jun 2013
- 4 months post
Long time for update
- 7 Dec 2013
- 10 months post