Tummy tuck incision issues

I thought I'd add a bit about the wound healing process I've done through since I didn't see much on incision issues on this site when I was looking. I'm now 8 weeks PO. At around 3 weeks, some very irritated sections of my incision started to open and they bled and oozed. They started about 1-2 cm long and began to spread. The doctor looked and realized the area under a very superficial skin layer had opened and he could run a probe about 4 inches long. So we did aquaphor and gauze and waited. It got worse, so we tried gauze and dry packing. After nearly 4 weeks of the closure steadily getting worse, we finally excised about 5" x 2" along my incision, leaving me a new open wound which we did wet packs on for 5 days. After that I went back in for surgery, where he essentially did a mini tummy tuck to clear out all the bad tissue down to the muscle and separated the dermis from the muscle and redid the close. I ended up tightened an additional 2" or so in that spot. I had stitches out yesterday and most of them came out clean. One of them (predictably in the spot that won't heal) is bleeding and hurts like hell so I'm back again Friday.

It's a bit of a saga, but I haven't felt at any time my doctor was responsible for the outcome and they gave me plenty of time and attention to get this addressed. We dont know why this happened, but its apparently very rare so probably no worries for you guys. Also, my stomach and boobs have been healing up so I don't feel like I'm starting from scratch. I am looking forward to bitching about swell hell and wanting to go back to the gym but I'm not there yet.

I was extremely lucky, I had 2 months off and I have a full time nanny, so on days I couldn't wear underwire it was so raw, I didn't have to :). I still think the scar will heal nicely and I will be a rockin mom soon!

I have pics I can post if there is demand, they're nasty so let me know!

I'm 19 days post op and its been 10 days since my last post :). In that time I've had a near miraculous recovery every day until about 4 days ago. Then, and I'm not sure what caused it, i kind of backslid. I started swelling a lot and my incision got very puffy, and red and kind of oozy for about 3 inches in the middle. On the incision, I thought it was just general irritation from wearing non-pajamas so I blew it off until I had a regular doctor visit. Nurse Hatchet looked at it, freaked me out with wound necrosis talk, then the doctor said it was fine, change pants and dressing types. I guess we shouid trust our guts on this stuff and not someone with pancaked concealer. Not charitable, I know, but the last thing I wanted to hear is my belly is toxic. I'm not sure what the swelling is about, but I've spent all day in bed and its much better now. My mental health may not be up to task, however.

Some highlights you might be interested in:

1. I had sex about 4/5 days ago. It was good and didn't hurt at all. I was afraid my muscles wild cramp or hurt when I came, but it was fine. A different position last night was harder on my abs, so I'm going to try and stay prone next time.
2. I pulled a small muscle in my upper left torso washing a pot. It sucked for about 12 hours, then got quickly better.
3. All the glue washed off two days ago and most of the incision is about as wide as a paper cut. It's amazing!
4. My boobs have dropped a ton, but they seem really wide/round to me. I was measured at Soma and I'm a 34b/c so it can't be too bad, but without clothes they look totally fake. Does this stop? It's not getting better. I am still swollen and stiff.
5. I walk 95 pct upright, but when I sit for stretches, my muscles tighten up and I have to stretch out before I can walk. Very annoying. My doctor told me to do some stretches against the wall after week 1. I don't do them as much as I should.
6. I've been PMSy for the past week or s and I'm making everyone nuts. He long does this last? I've had no depression, but I'm very short.
7. I still get tired around 4-5 pm, but naps result in freakish nightmares about being trapped half asleep in pain, unable to wake up to get relief, so I've avoided them.

Things I need advise on:

1. When/ how much will my boobs soften and look more natural? They're like ripe avocados in firmness.
2. When will I not be all emotional?
3. Why oh why am I surprised by the swelling? I want to see results!

I slept like crazy last night, and felt great today. Much more upright. I may have overdone it though. It was my first day watching my 4 kids and they crushed me! I have a question today. My breasts (the absurdly huge ones) are feeling very strained and painful. If I push on them or do those massage moves, it feels like my ligaments at pulling or my implant is going to pop out. Is this normal?

Also, still up for marginally solicited reassurance about my boobs. They were the hook to get this surgery and I'm stressing I overdid it. The tummy is fine, btw. No meds needed :)