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Hello Everyone - I have been reading and leaving...

Hello Everyone - I have been reading and leaving comments on many of your blogs. I thought I had better get on here and start my own. I am 36 years old and have hated my nose for about 25 years. I was called "big nose" and "pinnochio" in middle school and early high school. I don't get teased anymore, but the memories of it from my late childhood and early teen years stays with me. My face has grown into my nose somewhat since those days, but I still feel that its still too big. Too long, too wide, and there's a bump on the bridge. Its all the same story as many of you have. My husband of 11 years says I don't need rhioplasty and that I'm already beautiful. He does however say that if I really want it, he'll support me in doing it. My parents and friends say the same thing. Its not that I feel ugly (although I'll admit I'm not too photogenic), its just that I feel my nose holds me back from looking my personal best. If I say I feel attractive, its like there's an asterisk on the end of that statement (well, except for my nose, if it just wasn't for this big nose....). Please understand that I do have a wonderful life. I great husband, two wonderful kids, a great job, etc... The Lord has blessed me in many ways. I love my life. Changing my nose is just something I have always wanted to do. I have just never been happy with it. I have done a ton of research about rhinoplasty, on what to look for in a good plastic surgeons, and have found a surgeon in my area who I feel is a great doctor. I have a consultation on Feb 26 (2013). I think I know pretty much as much as I can at this point about the procedure, the risks, etc, and at this point I'm leaning way on the side of going for it. Afte my consult I'll know for sure, and I'll know if I have a good surgeon. Wish me luck! I'll report on my consultation next week!

Dont get your nose done. Its beautifull and its you and dont let your mind focus soo much on your nose. you have other features that are beautiful. your nose is you and plus you are married and im sure if your nose was hideous(like you imagine in your head) then how would a man fall in love with you and marry you. Dont ruin your life there are many complications. And just take one breathe and thank god for giving you a nose that functions. you have 2 kids, think of them before going under the knife. its not a joke. I wish someone told me this before getting my nose done. I can barely breathe its a nightmare recovery so much pain and its an emotional recovery. And anything can go wrong with the appearance and it always ends in revisions. It can collapse in future. Trust me, its not worth it!!! And just be thankful you can breathe right now!!! i feel like im recovery from a bad injury and the thought that i did it to myself hurts me. I was a perfectly healthy girl and happy life into a unhappy person just dreaming of my old nose. Everyday i wake up and just hope i can take a breathe of fresh air :( i cry everday and ruined my life and my family is taking it worse than me because they feel so bad.
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Hello, I'm a girl in Michigan about an hour from Grand Rapids. I've been wanting the same procedure as you and I look forward to watching your story, I see that it's coming up very soon I can't wait I really really wanna get one myself but can't afford it financially hopefully someday though! I'm only 22 but I'm self conscious about my nose every minute of my life :((
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I see that you commented on the length of your nose being too long in your opinion. I do not think that's true at all and would highly suggest not shortening your nose. I think there is a definite bump, and I think your tip may project outward a little too much, but I don't think you should shorten the length. As you age, your top lip will naturally deflate somewhat and you wouldn't want to have that "Candy Spelling" look (about a mile and a half between her top lip and her nose).
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I am finding out that I dont have the "support"...

I am finding out that I dont have the "support" behind me in doing this surgery that I thought I did. I cant do it if I dont have the support. I need positivity around me about doing this, not negativity. I have cancelled my consultation. There is no point in doing it and seeing how good I could look if I dont have the support behind me that I need in actually doing the surgery. I am very dissapointed and really dont have much more to say at this point. Thanks everyone for your support.
I hope you change your mind cause at the end of the day its what makes you happy with yourself not what everyone else thinks. They will get over it! You should reschedule your appointment and see if its really something you want. Which I'm sure it is, we have all been in your situation at one point or another. Best of luck!
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That's too bad. I hope that changes for you.
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It sounds a little like the unsportive ones may have a little jealously with how you'll look after. What else would it be for?? I went through the same thing but my guy came around and then gave me a guilt trip THE MORNING OF SURGERY! I told him to suck it up and stop. I know my friend said that I was crazy for doing it but I avoided being seen/photoed at certain angles. What do they k ow about the way we feel?? You'll need a friend for the first day right after surgery. He rest you can handle on your own. You just need them to change your drip pad/feed/medicate since you'll be out of it. I had literally zero pain and wish I would've done it years ago. I told no one in my family, which is wise, as they will never have a positive reaction. Plastic surgery still isn't as acceptable as you'd think. The funniest part--the friends who say you're dumb for doing this but they have fake boobs!!! I say get the consult, see how you feel, then work on the support. Maybe you won't even want it after the consult...
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It has been an emotional roller coaster the past...

It has been an emotional roller coaster the past few days. Long story short, my husband has come around and wants me to reschedule my consultation. He realises that I am going to be very careful and ask lots of questions and do lots of reserach before I decide for sure whether to have surgery. I am atually going to see three doctors that I think are good, and he is going to come with me to my consultations. I think he feels better now. I have a consult now on March 26 with the doctor from before, and I'm going to schedule 2 other consults with 2 other docs too. Thanks everyone for your kind comments. This can all be part of the journey when thinking about or planning on having cosmetic surgery. So, its out there for people to read now. Stay tuned. I'll be commenting on your noses in the meantime! (LOL)
that's awesome
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Good luck with consults!! Looking forward to hearing how it goes!
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HURRAY! I'm so proud of you for choosing to reschedule your consultations and following through with what will make YOU happy! And that is awesome that your husband has come around!!!
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Now I'm getting excited again. I have...

Now I'm getting excited again. I have consultations scheduled with 3 different docs in Grand Rapids. One on March 7, one on March 26, one on April 19. So much time in between - ARG, but each office got me in as soon as they could. I am on a cancellation list for the April 19 one at least. The three best cosmetic surgeons in Grand Rapids, as far as I can tell from their qualifications and patient reviews anyway. The hubs is going with me to all 3 consults. I am so glad he is going with me, more for his sake than for mine. It think it will make it less scary for him if he comes with and gets to meet the doctors and ask whatever is on his mind. I want to get this right the FIRST time if I have surgery, so a little extra time in the prep stages is good I think.
Good luck with your consults this month!!!! Can't wait to hear about them :)
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Congrats on the decision! Is your husband worried you will look different or just doesn't think you need it? My surgeon said a good rhinoplasty won't make it look like you have a completely different nose, rather an improved version of your old one. A good way to look at it I thought :)
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My hubby is just worried about all of the risks of bad things that could happen with having rhinoplasty surgery. He is worried about the health aspect. And yes, I just want an improved version of my nose, not a completely different nose.
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Well, I have my first consultation (with the first...

Well, I have my first consultation (with the first of thre docs) today at 2:30. My husband has a raging migraine right now. I hope it goes away soon. He will be dissapointed if he cant go to the appointment with me. I'll update later this afternoon on what I found out at my consultation today. My appt is with Dr. Scott Brundage at Centre for Platic Surgery in Grand Rapids. Among his many great qualifications, he used to be the chief of plastic surgery at one the hospitals in Grand Rapids. Stay tuned.... :o)

Met with Dr. Brundage today. I feel very confident...

Met with Dr. Brundage today. I feel very confident that he would do a great job. He feel that what I want done is realistic and appropriate. (Remove small bump on bridge, narrow the tip and slightly shorten the tip - the cartilage, not the bone.) He would also do that alar thing to reduce the circumference of my notrils after bringing the end of the tip back just a bit closer to my face to keep the nostrils from looking too big. He would also have to bring the bones at the top part of my nose closer together (aka: break my nose bones and reset them) to bring it back to the upside down "V" shape that the bones of the nose are supposed to make. If he didnt do this after removing the small hump on my bridge, my bridge would look flat. Well, my husband seemed to be doing fairly OK during the consultation until the part about have to break my nose bones and move them came up. After that he became tense and just got a sick/pained look on facehis . He is so worried that that something bad will happen to me in surgery. Right after the doctor left the room, my husband said, "I can't believe you would consider doing this, it is so unneccesary." He won't stop me from doing it, but he REALLY wishes I wouldnt and he's scared. I still think I want to do it. Dr Brundage says that he has been doing rhinoplasy for 25 years (which is great) but he says he does about 30 a year (I was hoping for a higher number per year). He does many types of cosmetic surgery, not just noses. He did say that he is the doctor that does the most rhinoplasties in Grand Rapids. From everything that we discussed with him, and photos of his noses, I do feel that he knows what he is doing. Both his staff and he himself told me that ENTs send their patients to him for rhinoplasties. He says he has as much training and expertise about function of noses as an ENT. He also said he rarely has a patient that needs a revision after he does a rhinoplasty. Also, his policy on revisons (on his own work) is that there is only charge is a $600 supplies fee. I didnt think that was so bad. Obviously he doesnt plan on having to do many revisions if he only charges a $600 supplies fee.... I feel good about Dr. Brundage, but I am still meeting with the 2 other surgeons before making any final decisions or scheduling any surgery. His staff even said that they encourage that because cosmetic surgery is such a big and because they are confident that even after meeting with the others, I'll come back to Dr. Brundage. OK, we will see! :o) I look forward to my other 2 consults. I also look forward to my follow up appt with Dr. Brundage next week to review the morphed digital imaging of me that they put together for me next week. Side and front view. Cant wait! That will be very interesting!
I hear you!!! The PS I went to only does about 5 a year and he will charge for supplies/anesthesia for any revisions... Can I ask what other two surgeon's you are meeting with??? I've seen a lot of very good reviews about Dr. Golden in Troy (also a couple negative ones that were not just about his bedside manner, one that even had pics of a bad nose job)
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Glad you went through with at least one consult. Find out if your PS plans on doing an open or closed rhinoplasty. I was fortunate enough to have larger nostrils and so was able to have the work done without having to have my nose cut between the nostrils to gain access. I have found though, through this site, that an open procedure seems to heal quite quickly anyway. The broken bones etc. is really nothing to worry about; the nose heals so quickly and before you know it, you will have the cast off in a week. You will so happy with your improved nose you will wonder why you waited so long to do it. :) You are doing the right thing by getting several consultations.
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My nostrils are a shade big and would be reduced a bit in surgery, but he would still do open rhinoplasty, because he has more control & better results with that method. He said I could do local & twilight or general , but the general is $600 extra. Still thinking about that one. (LOL) And Yes, I am anxious to have a new nose, but I'm not SO in a hurry that I am going to rush and possibly do something stupid because I didnt do all the research and get a few different "opinions." So multiple consultations is the way to go!
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My husband was hugging me and kissing me today and...

My husband was hugging me and kissing me today and he just looked at me and said out of the blue, "You really want to have your nose BROKEN? That is such an extreme." That is the part that is really bugging him and making him scared about the procedure. Its really wearing on him. The only reason for the nose break is because I would get the bump on my bridge filed down and so the bones would have to be moved back to the upside down v shape. Otherwise it would all just be tip and nostril work. AGH! Stupid bump! Also, my doc would do just the twilight/local combo. I just cant imagine possibly being aware in even the slightest way while someone has a chisel way up my nose and is chipping away at my nose bones. Sounds terrifying. I can have general if I want, but its $600 more. I might have to just spring for $600 more....If anyone out there had twilight/local and had their nose broken during their procedure, PLEASE let me know how that was for you. Thanks Everyone!

On Wednesday I have a follow up appt with the...

On Wednesday I have a follow up appt with the first doctor that I have done a consult with. I will be seeing front view and side view morphs of what I could possibly look like after surgery. The imaging specialist checks with the surgeon who tells her what changes would be made and then she morphs my photos taken in the office. Then she checks with the doc again before I see them to confirm that those are at least a fairly reasonable expectations of what the doctor can achieve for me through surgery. Sounds cool! PS - my husband just said, "The day you have this surgery I will have a knot in my stomach all day." I'm so sorry that he is suffering with such worry.... :o( All part of the journey I guess. I'm just putting it out there so other wives can see what their husbands might go through. Just keepin' it real....
I was also scared of twilight sedation, so I had general and it was 100% fine. Waking up was (essentially) a piece of cake. But I'm sure twilight isn't as terrifying as it sounds. I've only read a couple crazy stories about it, the majority of people are just fine.
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I'm glad you had a good consult the other day. Can't wait to see the morph pics! I think it's cool that there is a chance you can do the twilight sedation. I personally couldn't do it that way, I would totally pass out if I knew what was going on! I passed out when I was in labor and the nurse kept jabbing me with a needle trying to get my IV going! :{
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Yes, I'm not sure what I would do on the sedation thing. I've birthed two children naturally, without an epidural, but the only reason I did that is because I was scared of having a needle put into my spine (LOL). I had twilight sedation a few years ago for a colonoscopy and didnt remember a thing. Thats the way twilight sedation is supposed to work. You are awake in the moment, but dont remember anything afterwards. But sometimes people do remember parts of their procedure during twilight sedation... A colonoscopy is WAY different from rhinoplasty, so I just dont know... Have to think on that....
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Ummm, ya, I LOVE the morphed images! They werent...

Ummm, ya, I LOVE the morphed images! They werent able to print them off or email them to me, so I had to take pictures of the computer screen with my cell phone. I have internet function blocked on my phone, so now I can't send the pictures from my phone to the internet. I need to get internet access "unblocked" from my phone! (LOL) I have images from the side and the front and it would be so cool if my nose could look like what the morphed images show. I know it is just "an idea" not a promise, but it is very encouraging nonetheless....Hubby still really is sick at the idea of me having surgery that is not a medical necessity, he is still loving and supportive, but he really would rather I didn't do it. We realized yesterday that he'll never change my mind, and I wont change his. I still want the surgery. I have decided that if I have the surgery though, I am NOT doing twilight. But the general will cost an extra $600. Thats OK! (LOL) If I am aware of my nose being worked on in any way during the surgery, I will be traumatized for life. No thanks! (LOL) have decided to list cost, but keep in mind I still have two more consults, so this info could change....
So exciting that you like your morphed pics! You are a very pretty lady and I am sure your will love your new nose as it will not distract from your great facial features which are your eyes and smile. One of the PS's that I had a consultation with wanted to do my facial surgery first under twilight and then I would return for my tummy tuck at a later date. The PS I went with chose to do all the surgeries at once so I was totally under general anesthesia and did not remember a thing. Recovery was easy even with all the procedures I had (nose, eyelids, chemical peel, and tummy tuck!). Facial surgery is painless and heals quickly. Looking forward to seeing your morphed pics and following your journey.
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Actually, I wish we had our post operated faces with the new nose. Because after the surgery, the face changes. It ages around eyes. Eyes do get hollowed. The fat deposit under eyes gets loose and thin after facial nasal bones get pushed together. And when nose gets smaller the extra skin gets loose. My eyes were almond and now the corners are droppy. So, I believed a rhino would have made my eyes prettier and stand out but made my older looking :/ happens to most people. So, these issue should be addressed to doctors before surgery as well during consulation just so they dont cut certain muscles. Good to know before surgery!
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I was so excited when I saw that you HAVE the morph photos :)!!!!!!! I"m glad that you like them :) I am 100% with you on the twilight sedation... I think I'm just traumatized from when I had my wisdom teeth taken out I woke up in the middle and it was SO SO SCARY!!!! More power to the people that can do it but it is not for me! I would say $600 well spent!!! I think its sweet hubby is concerned :) Does he feel better after the appointments?? My hubby was scared I was going to die during surgery (oh boy) but after the consult he felt better! Im glad he is supportive though :) Good luck with your other two consults!! It sounds like you have some really great surgeons to choose from you lucky girl!
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Hello Everyone, I'm enjoying reading everyone's...

Hello Everyone, I'm enjoying reading everyone's stories and seeing your awesome new noses. I'm getting kind of discouraged because although my hubby says he will not stop from getting surgery he tells me pretty much every day how pretty I already am, reminds me about how things can go wrong even if you have a good surgeon, and how the money for a nosejob would be so much better spent on paying off the house, etc. It just wears on me. He loves me and doesnt want me to go through any pain or dissapointment, but this is just wearing on me. As I wait for my other consults, I just keep wondering if this is every really going to happen for me. I feel like the deck is stacked against me. Any of you other ladies feel this way? Just feel bummed out today.

I lilterally had to take a picture of my cell phne...

I lilterally had to take a picture of my cell phne screen with my camera. And the picture on my cell phone was a picture that I took of a computer screen! (LOL) Long story, but there was no other way I could do it. Considering ALL of that, these pics are pretty decent and I think you all will get the idea. It really would not take a huge change to make me feel a whole lot better about my nose. See for yourselves.
Holy cow, your morphs are GORGEOUS! My jaw dropped at your frontal morph - it sounds like if your result was similar to that, you'd be very happy, and that's what matters most, but personally speaking, I think the morphed image really flatters your other features and softens you up overall (although you were always very feminine-looking). :) The surgeon is very talented in those morphs - I can't get over how wonderful they look. Also, I'm sorry that your husbands words keep bringing you down. Sometimes, the people around us think that simply because they've stopped telling us directly that they're against something that they're no longer guilting us into making the decision that they want us to make. But there are two kinds of ways that a person is not supportive: (1) they tell you outright that they don't support you, or (2) they say they do but then continue to make comments to the contrary, as if that doesn't count or something. But those little comments they continuously make - about how beautiful you are, how you're perfect the way you look now, how the money can go towards something better, etc. - wear at you more and more every day, and it isn't fair of him to put that pressure and guilt on you. It kind of sounds like what my dad was saying to me before my surgery; but once he saw the change, how I still looked like me (only better), and most importantly, how happy it made me, he completely came over to my side. I think part of the problem is that, unless you do the research and see that rhinoplasty surgeries are not as invasive and complicated as most people misconceive them to be, everyone has this idea that the surgery is going to make you come out looking like a completely different person. A lot of people are also not open to the idea of change. And sure, perhaps there are more practical things you can spend this much money on, but you only get ONE life, and you can't always spend your life doing the practical things that makes everyone else happy - when will it be YOUR turn to do something for YOU? My rhinoplasty was one of the best investments I've ever made for myself; I'd do it 100 times over, that's how happy it's made me. And I think that the chances are great for it to be just as positive of an outcome for you. It's okay for your husband to be concerned and worry about you, but part of being a team is to GENUINELY support the other person if what they're doing will make them happy, even if you don't necessarily agree with their decision. I know it's easier said than done, but I'd gently tell your husband exactly how his words are hurting you, and you appreciate his concern but if he doesn't ACTUALLY plan on saying anything supportive, then you'd rather he not say anything about it at all because this is your decision to get this done, not his, and that's all there is to it. I know you can do this!
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Thanks Sarah - My husband actually asked to have a talk with me this morning before I had a chance to tell him that I wanted to talk with him. He told me that he cant make the efforts anymore to be supportive of a surgery that he has always been 100% against becasue he feels it is dangerous, not medically necessary, expensive, and results are not guaranteed to make me happy. So I'm right back to where I was weeks ago. My 9 year old son doesnt want me to do it either. Of course. So, I'm back to having no support at home and basically feeling like I'm being a selfish person if I do the surgery because I have children to think about and the money could be spent on more practical things. So, I think am really going to have to just forget it for good this time. I cant keep being put through this emotional roller coaster. I will have to continue to live with a nose I hate in order to make everyone else in my family happy, and I have to pretend that I changed my mind and dont want a nose job anymore and be happy about it, to spare my husband's feelings and not allow him to feel like he is a jerk and a bad husband for not supporting me in doing what I want to do to. This is the position I have been put in, if i want to keep things running smoothly at home with my husband. It just kills me to see almost everyone else on this website having great results that they love and know that I cant enjoy that too. This sucks.
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Wow! That made me almost cry.... So sorry you aren't getting the support. But can I just say that you aren't the only person being selfish there... Your husband is being selfish for putting his feelings about it before yours. I guess it just makes me sad( and almost mad) that ANYONE can tell you what to do with your nose.
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Hey Everyone, thank you so much for your kind...

Hey Everyone, thank you so much for your kind words towards me regarding my nose over the past month or so. It is something I will always hate, but something I can live with. Most of the people that I have told that I wanted a nosejob were completely shocked and didnt see anything wrong with my nose. I think I need to just remember that and close this chapter of my life. I think I have gotten to carried away and obsessed with my nose and everyone else's these past few months. I think that became evident yesterday when I criticised my husband on this website. It has just gone too far and I need to come back to reality. I want everyone to know I have a great husband who has been brought to tears because he is so scared for me and my health and what could happen to me in surgery. My husband has supported me in a lot of things in our marriage: me getting braces, me going back to school to get my masters degree, just to name a couple. I think I let people get a one-sided view of my husband and only see the difficulty we had seeing eye to eye on this one issue and made him look like a bad husband when he is certainly not. So anyway, suffice it to say, this will be my last post on realself. I would appreciate it if no one said anything negative in response. I'm sorry I initiated the negativity in the first place. Thank You and Best Regards to All! -Traci
I will miss seeing your posts on here but I am very glad to hear that you have accepted your nose! You've been SO INCREDIBLY helpful to me answering questions and offering guidance and for that I wanted to thank you so much! Honestly, you've provided some of the best advice I've gotten yet on how to find a doctor... it sounds like your husband has been very supportive of you and when you are in a marriage you do have to think of the other person as well so the decision that you make has to be a good decision for your marriage. Good luck with everything :)
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oops my mistake I was supposed to say leave it, lol
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your side view is much nicer its really pretty I would leave, butthat's my opinion the fronts nice, but it would look nice a little slimmer, good luck
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