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Hello Everyone - I have been reading and leaving...

Hello Everyone - I have been reading and leaving comments on many of your blogs. I thought I had better get on here and start my own. I am 36 years old and have hated my nose for about 25 years. I was called "big nose" and "pinnochio" in middle school and early high school. I don't get teased anymore, but the memories of it from my late childhood and early teen years stays with me. My face has grown into my nose somewhat since those days, but I still feel that its still too big. Too long, too wide, and there's a bump on the bridge. Its all the same story as many of you have. My husband of 11 years says I don't need rhioplasty and that I'm already beautiful. He does however say that if I really want it, he'll support me in doing it. My parents and friends say the same thing. Its not that I feel ugly (although I'll admit I'm not too photogenic), its just that I feel my nose holds me back from looking my personal best. If I say I feel attractive, its like there's an asterisk on the end of that statement (well, except for my nose, if it just wasn't for this big nose....). Please understand that I do have a wonderful life. I great husband, two wonderful kids, a great job, etc... The Lord has blessed me in many ways. I love my life. Changing my nose is just something I have always wanted to do. I have just never been happy with it. I have done a ton of research about rhinoplasty, on what to look for in a good plastic surgeons, and have found a surgeon in my area who I feel is a great doctor. I have a consultation on Feb 26 (2013). I think I know pretty much as much as I can at this point about the procedure, the risks, etc, and at this point I'm leaning way on the side of going for it. Afte my consult I'll know for sure, and I'll know if I have a good surgeon. Wish me luck! I'll report on my consultation next week!

I am finding out that I dont have the "support"...

I am finding out that I dont have the "support" behind me in doing this surgery that I thought I did. I cant do it if I dont have the support. I need positivity around me about doing this, not negativity. I have cancelled my consultation. There is no point in doing it and seeing how good I could look if I dont have the support behind me that I need in actually doing the surgery. I am very dissapointed and really dont have much more to say at this point. Thanks everyone for your support.

It has been an emotional roller coaster the past...

It has been an emotional roller coaster the past few days. Long story short, my husband has come around and wants me to reschedule my consultation. He realises that I am going to be very careful and ask lots of questions and do lots of reserach before I decide for sure whether to have surgery. I am atually going to see three doctors that I think are good, and he is going to come with me to my consultations. I think he feels better now. I have a consult now on March 26 with the doctor from before, and I'm going to schedule 2 other consults with 2 other docs too. Thanks everyone for your kind comments. This can all be part of the journey when thinking about or planning on having cosmetic surgery. So, its out there for people to read now. Stay tuned. I'll be commenting on your noses in the meantime! (LOL)

Now I'm getting excited again. I have...

Now I'm getting excited again. I have consultations scheduled with 3 different docs in Grand Rapids. One on March 7, one on March 26, one on April 19. So much time in between - ARG, but each office got me in as soon as they could. I am on a cancellation list for the April 19 one at least. The three best cosmetic surgeons in Grand Rapids, as far as I can tell from their qualifications and patient reviews anyway. The hubs is going with me to all 3 consults. I am so glad he is going with me, more for his sake than for mine. It think it will make it less scary for him if he comes with and gets to meet the doctors and ask whatever is on his mind. I want to get this right the FIRST time if I have surgery, so a little extra time in the prep stages is good I think.

Well, I have my first consultation (with the first...

Well, I have my first consultation (with the first of thre docs) today at 2:30. My husband has a raging migraine right now. I hope it goes away soon. He will be dissapointed if he cant go to the appointment with me. I'll update later this afternoon on what I found out at my consultation today. My appt is with Dr. Scott Brundage at Centre for Platic Surgery in Grand Rapids. Among his many great qualifications, he used to be the chief of plastic surgery at one the hospitals in Grand Rapids. Stay tuned.... :o)

Met with Dr. Brundage today. I feel very confident...

Met with Dr. Brundage today. I feel very confident that he would do a great job. He feel that what I want done is realistic and appropriate. (Remove small bump on bridge, narrow the tip and slightly shorten the tip - the cartilage, not the bone.) He would also do that alar thing to reduce the circumference of my notrils after bringing the end of the tip back just a bit closer to my face to keep the nostrils from looking too big. He would also have to bring the bones at the top part of my nose closer together (aka: break my nose bones and reset them) to bring it back to the upside down "V" shape that the bones of the nose are supposed to make. If he didnt do this after removing the small hump on my bridge, my bridge would look flat. Well, my husband seemed to be doing fairly OK during the consultation until the part about have to break my nose bones and move them came up. After that he became tense and just got a sick/pained look on facehis . He is so worried that that something bad will happen to me in surgery. Right after the doctor left the room, my husband said, "I can't believe you would consider doing this, it is so unneccesary." He won't stop me from doing it, but he REALLY wishes I wouldnt and he's scared. I still think I want to do it. Dr Brundage says that he has been doing rhinoplasy for 25 years (which is great) but he says he does about 30 a year (I was hoping for a higher number per year). He does many types of cosmetic surgery, not just noses. He did say that he is the doctor that does the most rhinoplasties in Grand Rapids. From everything that we discussed with him, and photos of his noses, I do feel that he knows what he is doing. Both his staff and he himself told me that ENTs send their patients to him for rhinoplasties. He says he has as much training and expertise about function of noses as an ENT. He also said he rarely has a patient that needs a revision after he does a rhinoplasty. Also, his policy on revisons (on his own work) is that there is only charge is a $600 supplies fee. I didnt think that was so bad. Obviously he doesnt plan on having to do many revisions if he only charges a $600 supplies fee.... I feel good about Dr. Brundage, but I am still meeting with the 2 other surgeons before making any final decisions or scheduling any surgery. His staff even said that they encourage that because cosmetic surgery is such a big and because they are confident that even after meeting with the others, I'll come back to Dr. Brundage. OK, we will see! :o) I look forward to my other 2 consults. I also look forward to my follow up appt with Dr. Brundage next week to review the morphed digital imaging of me that they put together for me next week. Side and front view. Cant wait! That will be very interesting!

My husband was hugging me and kissing me today and...

My husband was hugging me and kissing me today and he just looked at me and said out of the blue, "You really want to have your nose BROKEN? That is such an extreme." That is the part that is really bugging him and making him scared about the procedure. Its really wearing on him. The only reason for the nose break is because I would get the bump on my bridge filed down and so the bones would have to be moved back to the upside down v shape. Otherwise it would all just be tip and nostril work. AGH! Stupid bump! Also, my doc would do just the twilight/local combo. I just cant imagine possibly being aware in even the slightest way while someone has a chisel way up my nose and is chipping away at my nose bones. Sounds terrifying. I can have general if I want, but its $600 more. I might have to just spring for $600 more....If anyone out there had twilight/local and had their nose broken during their procedure, PLEASE let me know how that was for you. Thanks Everyone!

On Wednesday I have a follow up appt with the...

On Wednesday I have a follow up appt with the first doctor that I have done a consult with. I will be seeing front view and side view morphs of what I could possibly look like after surgery. The imaging specialist checks with the surgeon who tells her what changes would be made and then she morphs my photos taken in the office. Then she checks with the doc again before I see them to confirm that those are at least a fairly reasonable expectations of what the doctor can achieve for me through surgery. Sounds cool! PS - my husband just said, "The day you have this surgery I will have a knot in my stomach all day." I'm so sorry that he is suffering with such worry.... :o( All part of the journey I guess. I'm just putting it out there so other wives can see what their husbands might go through. Just keepin' it real....

Ummm, ya, I LOVE the morphed images! They werent...

Ummm, ya, I LOVE the morphed images! They werent able to print them off or email them to me, so I had to take pictures of the computer screen with my cell phone. I have internet function blocked on my phone, so now I can't send the pictures from my phone to the internet. I need to get internet access "unblocked" from my phone! (LOL) I have images from the side and the front and it would be so cool if my nose could look like what the morphed images show. I know it is just "an idea" not a promise, but it is very encouraging nonetheless....Hubby still really is sick at the idea of me having surgery that is not a medical necessity, he is still loving and supportive, but he really would rather I didn't do it. We realized yesterday that he'll never change my mind, and I wont change his. I still want the surgery. I have decided that if I have the surgery though, I am NOT doing twilight. But the general will cost an extra $600. Thats OK! (LOL) If I am aware of my nose being worked on in any way during the surgery, I will be traumatized for life. No thanks! (LOL) have decided to list cost, but keep in mind I still have two more consults, so this info could change....

Hello Everyone, I'm enjoying reading everyone's...

Hello Everyone, I'm enjoying reading everyone's stories and seeing your awesome new noses. I'm getting kind of discouraged because although my hubby says he will not stop from getting surgery he tells me pretty much every day how pretty I already am, reminds me about how things can go wrong even if you have a good surgeon, and how the money for a nosejob would be so much better spent on paying off the house, etc. It just wears on me. He loves me and doesnt want me to go through any pain or dissapointment, but this is just wearing on me. As I wait for my other consults, I just keep wondering if this is every really going to happen for me. I feel like the deck is stacked against me. Any of you other ladies feel this way? Just feel bummed out today.

I lilterally had to take a picture of my cell phne...

I lilterally had to take a picture of my cell phne screen with my camera. And the picture on my cell phone was a picture that I took of a computer screen! (LOL) Long story, but there was no other way I could do it. Considering ALL of that, these pics are pretty decent and I think you all will get the idea. It really would not take a huge change to make me feel a whole lot better about my nose. See for yourselves.

Hey Everyone, thank you so much for your kind...

Hey Everyone, thank you so much for your kind words towards me regarding my nose over the past month or so. It is something I will always hate, but something I can live with. Most of the people that I have told that I wanted a nosejob were completely shocked and didnt see anything wrong with my nose. I think I need to just remember that and close this chapter of my life. I think I have gotten to carried away and obsessed with my nose and everyone else's these past few months. I think that became evident yesterday when I criticised my husband on this website. It has just gone too far and I need to come back to reality. I want everyone to know I have a great husband who has been brought to tears because he is so scared for me and my health and what could happen to me in surgery. My husband has supported me in a lot of things in our marriage: me getting braces, me going back to school to get my masters degree, just to name a couple. I think I let people get a one-sided view of my husband and only see the difficulty we had seeing eye to eye on this one issue and made him look like a bad husband when he is certainly not. So anyway, suffice it to say, this will be my last post on realself. I would appreciate it if no one said anything negative in response. I'm sorry I initiated the negativity in the first place. Thank You and Best Regards to All! -Traci
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