I am 38 years old and a single mom with 4 kids...
I am 38 years old and a single mom with 4 kids ages 19, 16, 14, 14. I've been living with my stretched out tummy since I had my first daughter at 19. Started showing at 4 months so I haven't had a flat stomach in 20 years. Each pregnancy added to the loose skin and stretch marks. Then I gained weight after having my twins and got up to 230 pounds. I am now 130 pounds (lost it all with diet and exercise over 9 months) and I'm 5'5". I've been this size for about 9 years. I've always talked about getting a tummy tuck but I've always been scared of the complications and felt guilty about spending that much money on elective surgery. I now have a very supportive boyfriend who has given me the courage to do something for myself. I work out 3-4 days a week, doing weights and cardio but we all know our stomach's will never be the same without surgery and I'd like a tone tummy to go with my tone arms and legs. Besides I'm tired of buying pants to fit my waist and end up being too big in the butt and thighs. I don't care about the scar too much, or if there are leftover stretchmarks, I just want a flat stomach...no rolls, and to SEE my bellybutton again ;-) But I can't stop researching things like expected results, the list of supplies, what to expect, possible complications...etc. And most pain meds make me nauseous so I'm not even sure what I can take because I KNOW I don't want to throw up after having my stomach muscles sewn together. As you can see I am obsessed with the whole thing so I'm hoping that all of you on here can help ease my mind and give me some advice so MAYBE I can relax over the next 11 1/2 weeks :-)
Only 6 more weeks! Wow time is flying by. I need...
Only 6 more weeks! Wow time is flying by. I need to start getting all my post-surgery items gathered so I'll be ready. I've been busy with school and work and kids and having fun so I haven't really gotten organized. I have final exams the week of my surgery so I know I'll be too busy that week to do much prep work, guess I better get moving on it. I'm excited, anxious, and nervous all at the same time. I try not to think about it too much but I'm on RS every single day checking on the status of everyone. I love seeing all the post-surgery updates and can't stay away :-) It definitely puts my mind at ease seeing how everyone is doing so all you girls on the flat side keep up the posts!
Today is exactly 1 month until my TT and I had the...
Today is exactly 1 month until my TT and I had the most vivid dream last night that I already had it done. I dreamt I had just had my TT and was walking around a hardware store with my parents when I looked down at my tummy and noticed I didn't have my compression garment on and my scar was uncovered. I got nervous that it was going to get infected and frantically starting looking for my CG. When I woke up I thought I was going to cry because it felt so real.
I knew I'd start dreaming about the TT as time got close but this one was more vivid that I imagined. I can say that my tummy looked flat in my dream so I was happy about that :-)
Anyway I hope I can keep my emotions in check over the next few weeks! Hope you all are doing well out there.
My kids have known for a while that I was thinking...
My kids have known for a while that I was thinking about having a TT but I finally told my parents yesterday. They were very supportive, which was a little surprising but I feel so much better now. I felt like I had to hide it and now that it's out in the open and I can talk about it I'm hoping I will relax a little bit. One thing though....when I told my youngest daughter about my surgery date she started crying because one of her best friends lost her mom last year on that date. So of course it made me cry and now I'm stressing about that! I'm trying not to consider it a bad omen and I pray the lord takes good care of me on that day (and each day after) so I can be here for my kids for at least 60 more years. Thanks for letting me get that out.
8 more days!
I'm trying not to think about the tt too much because when I do the "what if" thoughts start to creep in. I know just about every one of us on here has had those thoughts but they can be so frustrating. I know physically I should be just fine and I try to focus on that but I still get worried by the unknown. I've put off doing some of my shopping and preparations (I've always been a procrastinator) but I guess I will get to it soon. School is pretty much over for the semester for me and my oldest daughter (we go to college) and my other 3 kids have 2 more weeks to go. I will be much more relaxed when I'm 2 weeks post-op and loving my results and time off from work!! I appreciate any and all prayers and good thoughts that come my way though...hint hint ;-)
Tomorrow is the day...
Nerves are a mess, my stomach is in a knot and I'm not sure if I'll be able to sleep tonight. I was hoping I would be calm today but not sfar. Trying to relax but feeling antsy. I have to be at the surgery center at 10:15 and my tt is scheduled for noon. I will try to get some pictures of my tummy with all the doctors markings. I wonder if he'll take pictures of the skin he removes? Anyway I'm going to go and try to watch some t.v.
Home and resting!
24 May 2013
Day of treatment
I am so happy to report that I made it through surgery. It went well. I'm not too groggy. In some pain but so far I've only taken a soma for the muscle spasms i was having. The incision burns but it's not too had all. I can't wait to see my results. My first post op is on Tuesday.
So far I'm feeling pretty good. I only needed one soma for my stomach muscles and I took 1/2 a percocet in the afternoon and 1/2 before bed. The rest of the time I take tylenol. I feel the burn and ache from the tt and lipo but its better than feeling groggy from the percocet. I slept for 4 hour increments last night which is ok but I wanted to get up and walk around more often than that. I want to make sure clots don't develop. Anyway I feel much better than I thought I would so I am very happy! I hope everyone else is healing well. Thank you all fir your support and encouragement.
Muscles are achy...
My muscles ache from sitting so much. I walk every hour or so for at least 5 minutes. I feel good walking around but I don't want to over use my abs. I was laughing earlier and boy did that hurt! My left drain is draining a lot the right one not as much. Still haven't peeked at my stomach but I'm getting so curious. Hope everyone is doing well.
First post op
I had my post op today. Got to see my tummy. Doctor said its ok to shower which I did and it wiped me out! My abs are burning and stinging now. I took some a couple pictures. I'm pleased with the results. Just wish it didn't take so long to do anything. My honey is taking awesome care of me!! I am so blessed to have him.
One week today
It's been a week since my tt. I'm walking pretty good and not in much pain at all. I still don't sleep well. My hips and legs ache by morning. I'm tired of keeping my legs propped up but I'm can't sleep flat yet. I'm still worried about dvt so I get up every hour during the day and 3-4 hours at night. Looking forward to being past that risk. I tried on my new Victoria's secret bikini on...first bikini since I was in high school!! I like the look but definitely need to work out and tone up. But my tummy is flat :-D I'm posting a pic.
Feeling so much more like myself. I went to the gym a couple days ago and walked on the treadmill for 40 minutes. It felt good! I remember walking to the mailbox on day 3 post op and being so tired after so being able to walk 40 min and not get tired was awesome. Looking forward to getting to do more. I went shopping yesterday and bought a fitted white tank. I have been wanting to wear fitted white tops and not look I have a marshmellow tummy and now I can!! I also tried on swimsuits which was a lot of fun. I'm definitely enjoying my new tummy.Have I said how much I love my new belly button because I LOVE my belly button especially since I can actually see it...not like before my tt. Well happy healing everyone and good luck to everyone who is have surgery this coming week.
3 weeks :-)
So I am 3 weeks post op. Very happy! I am not standing 100% straight yet but I basically look like I have poor posture :-) I am happy with my results but I do think I have a dog ear. I'll talk to my PS at my next appointment about how we can fix it. But I never expected perfectin and the fact that I am flat and have a great belly button and low scar I could not as for more than that! I started my scar cream today. I am hoping it will help with the few raised spots I have. I finally shaved today
I have been so afraid to get a razor any where near my incision but now that I am shaved I feel more like myself :-) I have some swelling towards the evening but nothing too bad. Of course ig I have a too much salt it is worse. I grand straighter during the day and seem to be more hunched at night. I find myself subconsciously stretching in the middle of the night and it feels good but hurts too. I'm worried I may be messing up my muscle repair but I don't do it on purpose. Anyone else experience this? I am looking forward to working out more and tanning this summer. But overall I am so happy and feel awesome. I hope all of you out there are just as happy as me. Love you all.
I went back to work yesterday (exactly one month post op) and BOY did I swell up!! I took a.m. pics that I will post later but by the afternoon I was so swollen. Which is weird since I've been pretty active for the past 2 weeks but I guess with all the up and down and walking from office to office I got swollen. I was so worried that I was getting fat, even though I only ate veggies and a whole wheat tortilla and a protein bar. But I weighed myself when I got home and my weight was only 1.5 lbs more than it had been in the morning which I attribute to water retention...oh I'm on my cycle right now so that has added to the bloating, UGH!! I am so ready to start working out so I can tone up. I know it will still be a while before I can do ab exercises but I am looking forward to working on a six-pack or at least a four-pack. I know we all heal at different rates but I was hoping to be a little flatter by this time. I love how flat my stomach is when I'm standing but when I sit I get a little bulge right above my incision, I'm hoping that resolves itself in a few months when I'm back to my full workouts. I guess I'm paranoid that I'm going to get my old stomach back and I sure as heck don't want that to happen. I haven't had too many negative days but I notice the fear of not getting great results is starting to creep in recently. I'm hoping those feelings resolve themselves soon. Anyway enough griping. I'm updating from work because posting from my cell phone is such a pain but when I get home I will add the photos I took yesterday of my 1 month tummy :-) HAPPY HEALING ALL.
One month pics
Here are a few pics from yesterday morning.
five week pictures
Not much to report. The swelling has eased from earlier in the week. It took a while for my body adjust to working again LOL! I guess a life of leisure suites me ;-) Here are a few pictures from 5 weeks post op. I go to the PS on Tuesday and I'm hoping her releases me to start cycling again. I also hope he says I can do weights and yoga. Will update after my appointment.
Saw my PS at 5 1/2 weeks post op
He said I have to wait until I'm 2 months post op to start on the elliptical and spin classes. He also said I can't do any swimming yet (but I can get in the water). I'm going to guess he would frown upon me tubing down the river so I guess I'll have to put that off a little longer. Maybe by the end of August I can take a little ride down the river. I was swollen quite a bit yesterday and he said I might be doing to much...I've only been working (at a desk) and I've totally been neglecting my housework so it's not that it, but I've come to the conclusion that my tummy is rejecting employment...with an entire month off work I think my body is just not satisfied with sitting at a desk all day with no windows for 8 hours and it would rather be home, or shopping at the mall. I mean if I can go shopping for 3 hours and not swell but I sit at my desk for 8 hours and only get up to heat my food or use the restroom but I swell like crazy then the only conclusion I came up with employment rejection syndrome. Too bad I can't afford to be unemployed, so I guess I'll keep coming to work. I don't go back to see my PS until September 3rd. I'm still wearing my garment since I swell up but I did go buy 2 new ones yesterday that are smaller and tighter so hopefully they will keep the swelling to a minimum. Well that's it for now. I will post 6 week pics this weekend. Happy 4th to all of you. Enjoy your independence!!
Two since my TT.
23 Jul 2013
2 months post
Here are a few pics. I will write an update a little later.
Two months since my TT.
23 Jul 2013
2 months post
So not much has really changed since my last update. The scar looks the same, although definitely flatter, it's still pretty red. I swell up by the end of my workday, the weekends not as much. Of course the more salt I eat the worse the swelling is. I don't notice any extra swelling after exercise. My PS told me at 2 months post op I could start using the elliptical so that's exactly what I did yesterday. It was so much more fun than walking on the treadmill! I also did some chest/triceps but started to feel a little pulling around my belly button so I didn't do a lot of weights. I still have to be careful not to use my abs for at least another month (not really sure when he'll release me to full workouts). I am so anxious to start getting in shape but I can be patient so I don't mess up or un-do any of my muscle repair. I just want to be able to start doing more lower body workouts with weights but I know the strain that can put on the abdominal muscles so I've been avoiding it, which really shows in my butt and thighs. BUT I feel 100% better in my clothes, and out of my clothes ;-) so I'm very happy. I feel so blessed that I was able to do this, that I lived through it, and that I get to continue to improve my appearance. I hope everyone out there is doing great in their recovery. For those who are still waiting to get their TT, I wish you luck, you will be so happy once you get to this point.
Three months and I'm so happy.
26 Aug 2013
3 months post
My doctor released me to full activity about 2 weeks ago. I've been doing more weights, squats and lunges, and slowly adding abwork. I did 3 sets of 15 reps of crunches and obliques plus some planks and I was sore. Hurt to sneeze but I was so happy just to be able to work my abs. I also did a yoga class. That was so good for stretching my muscles after going back to weight lifting so I think I'll keep doing it. I started tanning a little too. As far as the look of my stomach not much has changed from last month. Still using scar cream. Haven't seen much difference in the past few weeks but I know it takes time so I'll keep using it until its gone. I'll update again in a month, I'm hoping for more change by then. Here are some pics I took this a.m.
I am 4 months post op and feeling like myself but better.
24 Sep 2013
4 months post
I still get some lower abdominal swelling when I'm at work since I sit all day. On the weekends when I'm up and moving around a lot more I am pretty darn flat. I am completely back to all my pre TT activity, in fact I am more active at the gym than I was before. Now that I know the results from the gym will actually show in my tummy I work so much harder. I didn't bother working out the rest of my body before my TT because I figured there was on point since my stomach was always going to look bad. But now that it's flat I have to get the rest of me (arms, buttocks, thighs) up to par with my flat stomach :-) I have the beginnings of a six pack (more like a 4 pack) but it doesn't show up well in photos. I can see it when i look down at my stomach and it gives me motivation to keep working hard, and eat a clean diet which I've been doing pretty consistently now for 4 1/2 weeks. I still splurge on the weekends and have sushi and/or wine and beer. but during the week I eat very clean. Since it's the middle of the week and I definitely have the "work week" swelling going on I will wait until this weekend to take updated photos. YAY I'm 4 months, I can't believe it. It seems like it was yesterday and yet another lifetime ago. I am still very happy I did it and would do it again, and recommend it to anyone who thinks they are a good candidate for this procedure. It can be life changing, I was happy with my life before, now I am content and motivated to be the best I can be.
*Photos 4 months post op
28 Sep 2013
4 months post
Here are some pics from this morning...very little swelling on the weekends. Scar is flat and smooth. Looking forward to it fading more.
I picked my PS because I like him and his staff. I was referred to him by 2 friends. One had a TT w/Lipo and the other had an Augmentation/Reconstruction. They both highly recommended him. And I loved that he wants to keep my scar low and below my hip bones.