“Dumbest thing i've ever done”
Eyelid Surgery: NOT worth it
Pain: Severe
I am 29 years old, and had upper and lower blepharoplasty 13 days ago. I had bags under my eyes that run in my family. They were not fat, they were muscle.
My Dr. removed a small amount of skin from under my eyes in an attempt to make the bags less visible. He suggested I do my uppers at the same time. I do not have any issues with the uppers. Although, I am so focused on my new scars below my eyes and my eye size difference that I can't even begin to think about the uppers. My left eye now appears much larger than my right. It is not only my eyelid that is larger, but my actual eye opening. I have scars below my eye lashes that at this point, are impossible to cover with makeup.
I am so ashamed of myself for doing this. My issues with my eyes were nothing compared to what I am facing now. I can't imagine ever going in public again. It was very painful. I still have swelling, and mild bruising. However, after crying in my Dr.'s office yesterday, I am all but certain the size difference of my eyes will not change.
I would give ANYTHING to take it all back, and be right back where I was. I go back to work on March 30th, and at this point I am considering quitting all together. I cannot even imagine facing anyone after what i've done to myself. Before this I went to the gym five days a week, and loved to work out, and now I can't imagine stepping one foot in the door. I know it has not been long enough to know what my final result will be, but I do know that I will definitely have visible scars, and I am sure my eyes will remain two different sizes. Those things alone are enough to keep me hiding in my house.
Mar 11, 2009Comments and replies (27)
11 posts
12 Mar 2009
13 days into recovery is actually a very short time for swelling or scars to show improvement.
11 posts
12 Mar 2009
When I first did my upper eyelid (Jan 09), my left eye was much smaller than the right eye. Like you, I was worried it will be permanent but thank God, now they are same size. Give it some time to heal. I hope everything turns out fine for you
26 posts
13 Mar 2009
Thank you, that is comforting to know. They were different sizes as soon as I was done with the surgery. They have yet to change.
30 posts
17 Mar 2009
How are you Daisy? Are things looking better the more time passes? I didn't think I would ever resemble my old self - but it's been 3 weeks now and I do look like the old me, but without my bags. I still have the scars under my eyes and on the "crows feet" area that, you are right, are impossible to cover. Being older than you, though, mine probably appear to be small wrinkles to people looking at me. I'm sure they will go away with more time - and won't be noticable at all on you. I keep thinking about you and hope that you are getting happier each day. Last week I went back to work and wore glasses (even though I had contacts in) because the frames and shadows kind of hid my bruising and scars. This week I don't care as much, as things seem to be improving. I usually wear eyeliner underneath and it just looks like I didn't do such a great job of applying it. Oh well.
9 posts
18 Mar 2009
Dear Daisy, please do not cry. Crying will slow down your recovery and make it worse. Give yourself some time.
37 posts
19 Mar 2009
im curious...i had lower conj blep...and i have extra skin now...the scars???is that because he did a lower skin pinch...because im thinking of doing that to get rid of the excessive skin???anyone?
30 posts
20 Mar 2009
I had the incision on the outside, too. I think he took in a little skin to make my undereye area smoother. I still have wrinkles when I smile, but less fine lines when I don't. The only thing about removing too much skin is the possibility of having your lower lid pull away from your eye (ectropia ?) and I would think that would be a very unpleasant result, though I think they can fix that with another operation, or maybe just take the precautions at the same time - I really don't know. Hopefully, like daisy said, the skin removal would be less complicated - I would definitely get more than one opinion from recommended doctors. I hope it works out for you!
1 post
25 Mar 2009
This really bothers me - I am from Arkansas and have been gettting opinions and consultations from plastic surgeons for this procedure. Do you mind giving the name of the clinic/dr?? I understand if you would rather not.
8 posts
6 Jun 2009
I'm curious to know how you're doing at this point. Are your lids evening out? I hope you're still not feeling "ashamed" for having the surgery...you just wanted to look the best you could!
5 posts
5 Aug 2009
90% of people have one eye bigger then the other