My surgeon won't do CO2 laser with my upper & lower eyelid surgery. Should I get laser done prior to surgery? (Photos)

Thank you for your question and pictures. Laser resurfacing can be combined with eyelid surgery, though it is not a must. Different surgeons will have different practices. These treatments can either be done simultaneously or in stages, but again it will depend on the preference of your physician. Erbium or CO2 lasers can be used. Make sure you are under the care of an experienced physician and all of your concerns are discussed. If you are not fully comfortable with your current doctor, then you may want to consider a second opinion. Hope this helps!

there is no reason why you cannot get co2 laser or even Renuvion j plasma at the same time as your eye surgery but if you wanted to wait you should do it 1-3 weeks after the eyelid surgery. 
for long term anti-aging, I would suggest a combination approach of :
1) skin care with products and PRP/microneedling
2) PDT light therapy few times a month with growth factors
3) laser treatments like clear and brilliant regularly and a few times a year Fraxel, Viva, Co2/Erbium
4) Sculptra injections a few times a year for collagen production with fillers like juvederm/restylane/belotero/radiesse/bellafill
5) thermage/ultherapy for yearly skin tightening with or without PDO or cone based instalift threads for lifting
6) botox every 2-3 months to stop movement lines and prevent lines at rest
7) deep microneedling RF like Fractora/morpheus8 for tightening of the skin
Best, Dr. Emer.

There should be no problem performing a fractional laser with a transconjunctival lower blepharoplasty. The two are separate procedures but can be done together. If this is what you desire to do, perhaps seeing more consultations might satisfy your concerns.