Anyone else Need some moral support

Thanks Beverly for your concerns and I understand what you are saying. I am close to my ideal weight, I do not smoke or drink, I do not work, I am not in a relationship, I am unable to do most exercises due to my back, yes I can afford the surgery and yes I am realistic about the outcome of what my doctor is able to accomplish. I am a very realistic person and have been through many rough surgeries so the pain and recovery I am mentally prepared for. Oh yeah, emotional health...LOL considering what my life has been I should not be close to sane but I am very emotionally healthy. My attitude on life is move forward best you can, take it a step at a time and sometimes one breath at a time. I have survived more than the average 10 people put together so strong is an understatement when it comes to me. I know I am sound flippant but I am not and I am taking this surgery very seriously. I will find or hire a health care professional if need be to come in and help me bathe, walk and whatever it takes. I have 2 beautiful grand daughters 3 1/2 & 7 months, a beautiful daughter, a great son-in-law, and both my parents for support. Not to mention a couple of really good friends. My doctor I trust totally, same doctor that did my 2nd reconstruction and I honestly believe that if he did not think this was a good idea for me he would say so. I see him in a couple of weeks and I will go over everything with him again. At my consultation with him he basically showed me what each part of my body would look like when healed, how flat my stomach would be, the size of my thighs inside and out, my waist, at my knees and so forth. I really do appreciate your concern and I promise I would not do anything to endanger myself. I will probably never love my body but I can be proud of the way I look overall and accept the rest. In a couple of years I will have a mini face lift and I will be done with surgery forever. That is something I have already decided on. The face lift was suppose to happen in 2010 when I found out about my breast cancer so that was already in my mind and had been decided on. I am a good self analyzer and I am realistic about myself but again I appreciate your concern and feel free to ask more questions or discuss anything that you would like to know. I am an open book. I just re-read my message to you and yes mentioning the dogs and laundry I understand why you are concerned. lol Ok so not my biggest concerns but these are things I will be unable to do for a while, bathe the dogs because they are inside dogs and do laundry, too much stretching in and out of washer/dryer. Sincerely, Darlene

One thing I did want to mention is throughout all of my 30 surgeries in my life I should have not made it through at least 2 of them. I don't believe in walking in traffic but I do believe in a higher power, if it's going to happen as in fate then you can be laying in your bed and not wake up. I smoke most of my life and quit almost 2 years ago and my lungs were never affected by the smoke. My lungs are perfectly clean like I have never smoked at all, this comes from a pulmonologist (spelling) so God may have dealt me some bad hands but I think he's not ready for me yet. He has given me the strength to deal with the loss of my son 15 years ago when he was 18, all the surgeries, 1 divorce, being widowed twice so I think it's time my time to do something for me and this surgery is all about me and no one else. Hugs my friend.

Darlene,

Thought you might be interested in the following link:

http://www.surgery.org/consumers/plastic-surgery-news-briefs/exercise-deter-fat-forming-liposuction-1036752?utm_source=dlvr.it&utm_medium=facebook

 I credit my surgery success to keeping fit by practicing pilates, maintaining optimal weight and eating a high quality diet.

Stay with me on your journey. xo Beverly

I had to mention this to you since I know what everyone is thinking when they read my post about recovery and my dogs. LOL I live in the country and I do not walk them on a leash. They have 40 acres to run and play so I have to laugh when all of the responses have been with the assumption that I live in the city and must walk these big dogs. Mental picture of me living in the city is way beyond funny. And of course no one understands what it is like to like in a place where the sunset is a spectacular view from your backyard nightly. Where there is no traffic noise, no worry of neighbors fighting, no sirens,... My life consist of quiet, peaceful, and a safe environment where my only neighbor is my sister, my parents live 1/4 mile from me, my brother 1/2 mile and my daughter and her family less than 10 minutes. I worry about my dogs only because of filing up their water bowl daily and making sure they don't roll in cow crap and come in the house stinking to high heaven. ha ha Seriously. So if you can, please post something that lets everyone know I am NOT crazy enough to try and walk my two dogs nor do I need to. I wish there was an option to respond back 1 time to each doctor that answers a question or an option to add a short comment when there is a misunderstanding such as this one. Maybe you can mention it. I am sure others share my same thoughts. I would of course be only for the one that posted the question and a short enough response that would help eliminate more questions being asked that what was originally posted. I am counting the weeks until my surgery, still very excited, still worried about if I will need someone after 2 weeks but I guess I will know that when the time gets here. I look forward to another chapter in my life, this time one of My choosing. I have begun a relationship with an old friend/flame which is very exciting for me and a little scary but what is life without chances? I have pushed myself most of my life for everyone else and for me to keep breathing after loosing my son so now is my time and I embrace each day with hope and my possible future. Hugs my friend.

Been a while since we have talked and wanted to get your input on my upcoming procedures. Believe it or not I am having Elective surgery, lol. That's a new one for me. I am having a TT, almost full body lipo and a fat grating on my butt. Dr. Pinsky is doing my surgery of course, and I trust him completely. I think I am having a hard time coming to terms with I am spending this amount of money on myself for superficial looks. But on the other hand my breasts are so beautiful its a shame that what is below them is embarassing to the point I will not go out in public in a bathing suit so here I am turning to you again for support. You have always been so kind and understanding and have always had the correct words to say I was hoping you could drop some self assurance on me again. lol My other worry is when I get home approx 5 days after surgery I have no one that can come and stay with me. Will I actually need anyone? I know I am going to be very sore and bruised but I will be up and walking the day after and push myself to move as much as possible. I am staying 5 minutes from my doctors office until my drains come out before heading 3 1/2 hours home. So I know I will do fine with that and yes I have someone staying with me during that time, my friend is an RN for 40 years, she is also staying in the hospital during my overnight stay. Laundry and my 2 big dogs I guess are my biggest worries. Thanks for listening. Hope you are doing well. Darlene

I am back home and thrilled with my reconstruction at this point. I woke up after surgery and said "I have boobs" Thrilled is the word,as soon as the swelling goes down I will post some pics. Dr. Pinsky in Palm Beach Gardens is worth the drive. I hear people fly around the world to see him. He does beautiful work. I will keep u updated.
Take Care,

Hello Beverly, I leave tomorrow for Palm Beach and surgery is Thursday, at 2 pm UGH. So we shall see what happens and I am looking forward for good things to come out of this surgery and this new Dr. Pinsky. He comes highly recommended by a facial surgeon I know. Dr Pinksky did Dr. Schalit's wife and sister's boob jobs, lol no cancer just enhancements. From my meetings with him, he seems to understand very well what I want and what I don't like about myself. He listens to what I have to say and asks questions about what I want and how and why I feel about myself. To me those are all positives so off I go 4 hours for me unable to drive myself because of 5 back surgeries, ugh, but I have great back-up with my best friend who is also a 35+ year O.R. Nurse so I will be in good hands. Remind me in a couple of days/weeks to send photos. I am looking forward to bragging. Hugs and Thanks for caring.

BTW How do I change photos on this and other questions please?
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Thank you for replying. You are correct my doctor, his staff and myself got off on the wrong foot and never have been able to get on the right one. I have 1 more meeting with my dr. on the 8th of July to see if I can solve these problems, if not I already have an appt scheduled with another surgeon on the 2nd of August. I have had many surgeries 20+ and have never had this problem with dr or staff. My breasts are horrible, still in pain since implants in April and it's almost July. On top of all that my Femara has caused my hands and all my bones to make me feel 110 years old. I have never been so disgusted or confused over any surgery as I have this one. So I guess the 8th will tell if I stay with my current dr or do a last minute switch. Thanks for listening