Finally it is official!! BUT!.. I havent told my family..

  • SoCalBA
  • 2 years ago

So I set up the pre-op and surgery date today! Pre-op is Tues Oct 2, and Surgery is on Oct 9 at 7:30 a.m! Let me start by saying im 21 and just moved in with my bf about a month ago. I've wanted a BA since I was about 14 back then I thought it was something I couldnt do because it was out of reach. Now that I've done research and I am more financially stable I am fulfilling my dream (: I never talked to anyone in my family about me wanting a BA, so I am nervous of their reaction. To them it will be kind of outta left field, I dont want them thinking it was my bf who talked me into it or anything. I've thought of just going through with it and taking them by surprise, but thats not very adult like lol. Did any of you have problems getting support from your families? Any advice that you have would be helpful, Thanx! 

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I had my surgery in july! I left australia for mine and went to thailand and told no one accept my fiancee and best friend. I live in a different state to my family,they are not supportive. I will cross that bridge when it happens but at the end of the day i dont care what they say,its not like they paid for them lol
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On my 50th Birthday I bought a Harley Davidson and learned how to ride, my mother didnt speak to me for over a year! Fast forward 6 years and we still dont discuss me riding so no way is telling her about my decision to have BA going to go over well. Still dont know if I'll tell her before or wait until it's done.
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I know this is delayed from when you were wanting some advice but I didnt think it was that bad when I finally deceided to tell my mom about my choice in wanting a BA I was totally shocked at her response. It was like she already knew how I was feeling and I didnt need to expain how I felt or anything she was already on board with me. Her reaction was "go for it" I think I had to pick my jaw up off the floor lol when she said that but it reassured me that once again my mom as always been there for me! Now telling my other family and sister on the other hand... I havent yet? Not sure what to say and my sister has been very distant for the past couple years so its led me to keep it to myself because other things Ive tried to share with her she has been judgemental and not supportive at all. So needless to say im not sure if im going to share it with her befor or after my surgery which is in less than 2weeks away?
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That's awesome that ur mom was so supportive and intuitive!! Moms r amazing gotta love them lol.. as for your sister in my opinion if she hasn't been supportive and has been distant then let her find out for herself and if she has anything bad to say just remember its your doing this for yourself and if you feel good about your decision then the opinons of others don't matter!! Good Luck!!(:
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I did'nt tell my family I was having my breast augumentation done. I just went home with a new improve chest size. I guess I felt like if I had told them before I had my breast done they would try to talk me out of it. After I had the surgery done my sister was the first to notice and I actually got a positive response from the rest of my family; which shocked me.
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What size where you pre op?? What size do u want to end up being?? Good luck with the recovery, mine was pretty intense at first but after abt 4-5 days I was still kind of sore but feeling 90% better!!
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Hi SoCal! I was probably a 32A going in and hopefully will be a nice C when everything settles down! So far, my recovery hasn't been too bad, but I also got the Exparel, so I'm still experiencing some numbness. I'm hoping the most intense discomfort will have passed by the time that wears off! We shall see about that! lol Wish me luck!
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Too funny! I'm twice your age, have been with my hubby for 18 yrs and have 2 children of my own, and yet, I will probably not tell my parents or brother! Of course, I will have to come clean if they become suspicious! I'm scheduled for my initial consultation on Monday, 2/4 and the BA on 2/14! Fortunately, my family lives about 800 miles away, and the soonest I'll see anyone (my mom) is about 2 months post-op! I'll be curious to see if she's able to tell! :) Glad your family took it so well! How are you enjoying "the girls" now??
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I LOVE THEM!!!!!!! And my family loves them too cuz they look so natural, I'm a curvy girl so they look real, not too big(: I couldn't of fooled anyone lol cuz my tiny boobs were my signature hahaha.. I went from a barely A cup to a full D!!
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I'm so happy for you! I got my newly enhanced boobies just yesterday, and so far, I'm thrilled! I can see now that there's no doubt people will notice....especially my Mom when she visits and spends a girls weekend at the beach with me in a bathing suit! lol I've kind of figured out how I'm going to handle her when she eventually says something. The bigger challenge will be getting her to keep it to herself! She's never been good at keeping secrets! Guess we'll see how it goes! Enjoy shopping for your new girls!!! :)
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I called them about 2 days before the surgery lol.. By that point there is no turning back, and your just letting then know, not asking permission.. And doing it by phone really helped me, cuz I don't think I'd be able to do it in person.
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I'm going through this now. How did they ultimately find out. I go nov 9th and am freaking out for the same reasons u were
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It went so much better than I thought! My parents gave me a little "lecture" they just wanted to make sure I was doing this for me, and not others. I put them at ease by letting them know that I put thought into this decision. Now everyone is supportive!!(:
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How did it go telling your family?

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