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17y.o. 30F, Much Needed Breast Reduction -BC, Canada
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So. I just had a doctor's appointment and we both...
geladineNovember 24, 2014
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So. I just had a doctor's appointment and we both decided that a breast reduction would be highly beneficial for me. I've been referred to a plastic surgeon for a consultation(yay!). However, there's my mom. She's highly opinionated and recognizes it. Her main issue with the surgery is the effect on breastfeeding. I personally want to bottle feed any future children with a homemade formula for some very practical(in my opinion) reasons:
•I have a vitamin deficiency and it will most likely affect my child(ren)
•Breast feeding seems like a hassle to me
•A formula can be whipped up at anytime and stored in bulk(same with pumped breast milk but it can be made in far larger quantities)
•Bottle feeding can be performed by family members if they so wish to; I can have some more time to relax
My mom's reasoning is that I'm still young and don't know what I want, I might change my mind, etc, etc. She highly opinionated though. She breastfed myself and my six siblings. However, I can't seem to get through to her with the fact that I want this for my health, I have no problem with scars(I don't scar easily and the ones I've had we're only visible for a couple years), and I just don't want to breastfeed. In my opinion, if I go through with it(with mother's approval and support), anything that I regret with be my own problem, my own fault. It won't have anything to do with her or her parenting, whatever. She's taught me that whatever I do, there will be consequences, good or bad, ad I just have to accept them and deal with them. But she won't let me learn that through this (hopefully) future experience. She doesn't really want to talk with me about it. Saying that I should consider it after I have kids. However, I'd much rather adopt than birth my own children. There are plenty of children already out there that need loving parents and a happy home. Why should I bring more into the world when they are not necessarily needed and another child can be spared an unhappy life? I feel that I have made an educated decision (deciding that I really do want and need this surgery) and thy it would be highly beneficial to me.
I have a very small frame, nearly underweight (50.5kg/112lbs with large breasts, imagine if I didn't have them) and I am 155cm(5'1"). All the women in my immediate family have large breasts, but they all have bodies that are larger and sturdier than mine. Plus they're taller and stronger. I'm actually so small that my professionally fitted 30F bra (that cost my mum 70 dollars) straps, even on the tightest setting, slip off my shoulders. They're still too long. So all of the weight from my breasts sits on the band and causes me rib pains. Most often, my bra band is imprinted on my ribs. Back and neck pain are a constant in my life.
My failed failed remedies include:
•Exercise(mostly strength training)
•Massage(the masseuse said she was surprised that my neck and shoulders wouldn't loosen up, even after three sessions plus daily stretches)
•Epsom salts
•Essential oils
Losing weight isn't an option for me. >.<
I've had back and neck pain for about 4 years(since grade 9), and it's only worsened in the past two. My cup size has been the same (30F) since grade 10.
My mother considered breast reduction at a young(er) age and decided against it, but she is a different person than I am.
One of my sisters is supportive of my decisions and actually thinks that with a lack of constant pain, my depression may be far easier to deal with/get rid of.
Any advice on getting my mum to see things from my perspective? She's usually pretty open minded but prefers her own opinions.
Since I'm a minor I'm only going to post clothed pics. Don't need anyone getting in trouble. ;)
•I have a vitamin deficiency and it will most likely affect my child(ren)
•Breast feeding seems like a hassle to me
•A formula can be whipped up at anytime and stored in bulk(same with pumped breast milk but it can be made in far larger quantities)
•Bottle feeding can be performed by family members if they so wish to; I can have some more time to relax
My mom's reasoning is that I'm still young and don't know what I want, I might change my mind, etc, etc. She highly opinionated though. She breastfed myself and my six siblings. However, I can't seem to get through to her with the fact that I want this for my health, I have no problem with scars(I don't scar easily and the ones I've had we're only visible for a couple years), and I just don't want to breastfeed. In my opinion, if I go through with it(with mother's approval and support), anything that I regret with be my own problem, my own fault. It won't have anything to do with her or her parenting, whatever. She's taught me that whatever I do, there will be consequences, good or bad, ad I just have to accept them and deal with them. But she won't let me learn that through this (hopefully) future experience. She doesn't really want to talk with me about it. Saying that I should consider it after I have kids. However, I'd much rather adopt than birth my own children. There are plenty of children already out there that need loving parents and a happy home. Why should I bring more into the world when they are not necessarily needed and another child can be spared an unhappy life? I feel that I have made an educated decision (deciding that I really do want and need this surgery) and thy it would be highly beneficial to me.
I have a very small frame, nearly underweight (50.5kg/112lbs with large breasts, imagine if I didn't have them) and I am 155cm(5'1"). All the women in my immediate family have large breasts, but they all have bodies that are larger and sturdier than mine. Plus they're taller and stronger. I'm actually so small that my professionally fitted 30F bra (that cost my mum 70 dollars) straps, even on the tightest setting, slip off my shoulders. They're still too long. So all of the weight from my breasts sits on the band and causes me rib pains. Most often, my bra band is imprinted on my ribs. Back and neck pain are a constant in my life.
My failed failed remedies include:
•Exercise(mostly strength training)
•Massage(the masseuse said she was surprised that my neck and shoulders wouldn't loosen up, even after three sessions plus daily stretches)
•Epsom salts
•Essential oils
Losing weight isn't an option for me. >.<
I've had back and neck pain for about 4 years(since grade 9), and it's only worsened in the past two. My cup size has been the same (30F) since grade 10.
My mother considered breast reduction at a young(er) age and decided against it, but she is a different person than I am.
One of my sisters is supportive of my decisions and actually thinks that with a lack of constant pain, my depression may be far easier to deal with/get rid of.
Any advice on getting my mum to see things from my perspective? She's usually pretty open minded but prefers her own opinions.
Since I'm a minor I'm only going to post clothed pics. Don't need anyone getting in trouble. ;)
UPDATED FROM geladine
Ribs and Marks
geladineNovember 26, 2014
As I mentioned before, my bra straps, even on the tightest setting, are too long for me. So all the weight sits on the band of my bra, and there hasn't been a day that I've worn my bra and not had imprints on my rib cage since having a D cup or larger. Sometimes the marks are sore, other times not. A lot of the time I just feel rib pains and occasionally like they're bruised, which I've experienced before from a sledding accident.
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