Treated Very Poorly

Let me start by saying Dr. Warren is an excellent surgeon and, over the years, has done six operations on me including a bleph, lip lift (twice as the first one wasn't enough), and an incredible revision rhinoplasty. The issue I have is that almost five years ago, I had a "mini facelift" to reduce the deep nasolabial clefts that I have had since birth. It worked very well. Unfortunately, in the past six months, something caused the left side of my face to drop, including the jowl on that side. At the same time, a neck cord became obvious leading to that jowl, under my chin. I went to see him, in a very dark room, and he brushed me off by telling me to come back when it is worse (!) My profession puts me in the public eye and this just isn't acceptable. He said my skin was not loose enough. I was very upset at the lack of concern and respect. I ended up seeing two other surgeons, who said they had no idea what this was about as I clearly had loose enough skin. The Dr. at the laser/skin clinic that I frequent actually suggested it would be best to get a lower face/neck lift as my skin was too loose for fillers to work. I chose not to go with the two doctors she recommended as some ratings for them suggested they might not be as capable as Dr. Warren. I realize I am burning a bridge here but the only other highly reputable surgeon I spoke with asked for pics and then said he didn't want to touch another surgeon's work on principle (so why did he ask to see pics I wonder?) how long am I supposed to wait in order to "look worse"?
If you are looking for someone to do a fabulous job on your face, Dr. Warren's your man. If you don't want to be blown off and your concerns minimized after parting with $30,000 or so over the years, please be careful. I am heartbroken and have no clue where to turn.