Disfigured vagina & inability to dilate after vaginoplasty

Went in for a six month surgical review and somehow left with a mental health evaluation. (Never did have my six month checkup) Best mental health review I’ve ever had. My vagina may be disfigured and not sexually useful but my anxiety is finally under control.
Thanks Dr. Rumer.

I was visiting another surgeon to discuss my revision options (an actual conversation with details. Wow. 'that's an easy fix' was followed up by a technical explanation). Out of the conversation came some good news. The surgeon tells me they have done dozens of revisions from Dr Rumer and according to my vagina, the surgeon says "Dr Rumer has really upped her game". The doctor had nothing bad to say about the results. Always good to hear. I have actually had another GCS surgeon give positive reviews on how things look. Each surgeon has had a different approach but, again...it was refreshing to hear.
Physically, the scarring is quite interesting(you get sliced six ways to Sunday and show me zero scars). The main issue is a piece of skin in which the stitches didn't hold. This issue has caused some problems with the urine stream. I discovered I have a fistula from the urethra to the skin (urethrovaginal). This has made sexual intimacy impossible. It never healed on its own as I was told during my seven weeks and ten my three-month checkup. So a revision is required.
Here's the thing. Sh!t happens. A good number of procedures will require a revision. I have not faulted Dr Rumer for anything surgical related. Since day 5 (the first day I actually looked), there has been nothing but compliments from people familiar with the procedure. What I am upset about I have already noted and made it the focus of my critique. I still haven't made my decision as to who I want to do my revision. Since I have not yet received a revision date from my surgeon, I have been able to research and learn.....and I even had to ask a question or two. Incredible when someone takes the time to explain.
Hope this helps. Would I recommend Dr Rumer to anyone? I would...especially if this person already has a good support system in place to help with questions. The first six weeks are the most important, things are new and questions will be plenty. Don't be afraid to ask those friends. They'll be your lifeline...

Back in February, I sucked it up and scheduled my year review since I was still waiting for phone call with my revision date (which NEVER came as promised). We made the appointment for early June. Okay, so it’s more like a 13month review.
June 7th comes and I arrive early for my scheduled appointment.
As I walk through the door, the office receptionist seemed surprised to see me. I mentioned how we scheduled this appointment over three months ago.
Fingers fly on the receptionists keyboard and then I hear.
“Dr. Rumer does not want to see you......Something about a review”.
“What about it?” I reply.
“Dr. Rumer said it was nasty and she will only see me if I take it down”.
I was stunned. Literally in shock. Still in complete and total disbelief I send off an email.
.................
Good day.
I did not come to today to discuss what had transpired in the past. I came today as part of the required post surgical exams.
Prior to today, I didn’t receive a 6month review due to our “shortened” appointment. I only wanted to make sure things are healing.
Kathy,
If you are so unhappy about the words I wrote in a review, where was the attempt to communicate with me prior to today? You don’t hold someone’s appointment hostage because your feelings are hurt.
This appointment was booked almost four months ago. I didn’t want to schedule it, but I did because no matter what, it’s what is supposed to be done as a part of the process.
If I can rise above my hurt feelings, so can you.
Thank you anyway for what you’ve done for me.
Best wishes.
...........
On Monday I receive a phone call.
KR: I’d like to keep treating you, but the online review is a conflict for me and it makes it difficult to treat you.
me: Why is that?
KR: I just don’t feel that it’s helpful to anyone and I think it’s hurtful to our professional relationship.
Me: I see.
KR: So, if you want to take it down I’ll continue to treat you. Otherwise I’ll have to release you and refer you to someone else.
Me: Is that all? (I was hoping for her to actually talk about my review and how she hurt me)
KR: That is it.
Me: alright Thank you and enjoy the rest of your afternoon.
KR: Okay. Do you have a decision. Or?
Me: Thank you.
Again. Stunned. I had hoped she’d have an actual conversation but that didn’t seem to be the case.
This time a letter was in order.
..............
Dr. Rumer.
Let me make this perfectly clear. I do not appreciate having my medical care held hostage because of your hurt feelings.
Your call today, was nothing more than an attempt to strong arm me into taking down a review critical of your care. Instead of showing any interest in repairing the relationship, you chose to worry ONLY about your reputation. Because of this I do not feel I could trust you to provide me with the proper care I currently require.
In addition, I will not be removing my review. They are my words and they clearly speak of my relationship with you and your practice.
As of today I no longer require your services.
.........
Whether or not she was actually going to follow through with my revision (with or without the review) is anyone’s guess. Should have figured she’d never apologize. People like that never do. She got her money.
In closing, I am still in need of a revision. My questions were never answered, requests for other paid worn left unanswered, and a treatment no one deserves.
Compassion goes a long way. Especially when it major surgery.
For me, Dr. Rumer was my only logistical option.
To everyone else. Buyer beware.