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There Aren’t Enough Stars to Rate my Experience.
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There Aren’t Enough Stars to Rate my Experience.
Afortney8June 9, 2021
WORTH IT
Before my surgery, so many people had told me I was wasting my money, that I didn’t need it and that I was beautiful the way I was. I didn’t see myself that way, and while I appreciated the kind words- I didn’t believe it. No matter who said it. No matter how many times I heard it. God himself could have told me I was beautiful and I would not have believed it. I needed to believe it for myself.
Since my surgery, I’ve also had many people tell me that I did all of this for attention and validation from others, which, In some subconscious way- I’m sure a small part of this journey IS in fact my feelings of needing validation from others. But that’s a story for a different day- when the topic is childhood trauma.
I did this for myself. I needed to be able to look in the mirror and love myself. I needed to be in a healthier mental state- just to keep living. Literally. My body has caused an immense amount of depression and self image issues for 13 years- and I was ready to feel better. REALLY ready.
I weighed 196lbs in January, which is the heaviest I’ve EVER been- even during pregnancy- while Steve was only 10lbs heavier than me. Like what?! Even his T-shirts that used to be big on me we’re starting to get too small. I decided enough was enough. I am not comfortable with not even being able to fit into my man’s T-shirt if I want. I set myself a goal for 2021 to lose about 50 pounds and get a tummy tuck surgery.
I had to start somewhere, so I started researching plastic surgeons from here to Miami to Mexico. I finally found one that I felt very confident in just from looking at his online portfolio. Lucky for me- a nurse that I used to work with (who is a great nurse) works for him now so I had double the confidence and comfort of actually knowing who would be taking care of me. I was actually already established at a different plastic surgeon and decided to leave. I wanted the best of the best when it came to altering my body. ???
I didn’t meet my goal weight by the time of my surgery, which was disappointing, but the motivation to maintain and continue to lose weight solidified when I first got a glimpse of the new me- the day after surgery. As of today I weigh 159.2lbs. I have lost 36.8lbs.
Let me tell you- that’s just what I got. The BEST of the best. ?What Dr. Fedele was able to do for me- I could never repay him for. I honestly feel like what I paid doesn’t cover the incredible results I have, let alone the drastic improvement in my quality of life. Just six weeks ago I dreaded getting up in the morning and looking at myself. Don’t even talk about clothes shopping back then- or taking a photo that wasn’t from my neck up. I allowed my self image to dictate what I did in life. I was extremely picky about my clothing and learned how to dress to hide my unflattering figure- which is probably why some said I was wasting my money and didn’t need the procedures. To think that I allowed that to go on for so long, causing so much mental anguish, is ridiculous. I know I’m also not the only one who has struggled with this. If you are looking for a sign to move forward with a surgery, THIS is it. ????
This is what I was hiding for so many years. What I was ashamed of and embarrassed about. This is what caused me to feel unattractive and undesirable. And now it’s gone. I can breathe again. The after photos were taken today- at 4 weeks, 6 days post op. Thanks for reading.
Since my surgery, I’ve also had many people tell me that I did all of this for attention and validation from others, which, In some subconscious way- I’m sure a small part of this journey IS in fact my feelings of needing validation from others. But that’s a story for a different day- when the topic is childhood trauma.
I did this for myself. I needed to be able to look in the mirror and love myself. I needed to be in a healthier mental state- just to keep living. Literally. My body has caused an immense amount of depression and self image issues for 13 years- and I was ready to feel better. REALLY ready.
I weighed 196lbs in January, which is the heaviest I’ve EVER been- even during pregnancy- while Steve was only 10lbs heavier than me. Like what?! Even his T-shirts that used to be big on me we’re starting to get too small. I decided enough was enough. I am not comfortable with not even being able to fit into my man’s T-shirt if I want. I set myself a goal for 2021 to lose about 50 pounds and get a tummy tuck surgery.
I had to start somewhere, so I started researching plastic surgeons from here to Miami to Mexico. I finally found one that I felt very confident in just from looking at his online portfolio. Lucky for me- a nurse that I used to work with (who is a great nurse) works for him now so I had double the confidence and comfort of actually knowing who would be taking care of me. I was actually already established at a different plastic surgeon and decided to leave. I wanted the best of the best when it came to altering my body. ???
I didn’t meet my goal weight by the time of my surgery, which was disappointing, but the motivation to maintain and continue to lose weight solidified when I first got a glimpse of the new me- the day after surgery. As of today I weigh 159.2lbs. I have lost 36.8lbs.
Let me tell you- that’s just what I got. The BEST of the best. ?What Dr. Fedele was able to do for me- I could never repay him for. I honestly feel like what I paid doesn’t cover the incredible results I have, let alone the drastic improvement in my quality of life. Just six weeks ago I dreaded getting up in the morning and looking at myself. Don’t even talk about clothes shopping back then- or taking a photo that wasn’t from my neck up. I allowed my self image to dictate what I did in life. I was extremely picky about my clothing and learned how to dress to hide my unflattering figure- which is probably why some said I was wasting my money and didn’t need the procedures. To think that I allowed that to go on for so long, causing so much mental anguish, is ridiculous. I know I’m also not the only one who has struggled with this. If you are looking for a sign to move forward with a surgery, THIS is it. ????
This is what I was hiding for so many years. What I was ashamed of and embarrassed about. This is what caused me to feel unattractive and undesirable. And now it’s gone. I can breathe again. The after photos were taken today- at 4 weeks, 6 days post op. Thanks for reading.
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