Crazy, Beautiful Journey - Salt Lake City, UT
I'm a mommy of two darling girls and I'm...
I'm a mommy of two darling girls and I'm married to a supportive, loving husband who is also my very best friend. My youngest was born 2 and a half years ago and my breast size has been shrinking since then. As I lose weight I'm getting smaller and smaller breasts! Sadly, gaining weight comes in the thighs or I'd get on the candy bar diet and grow some breasts! LOL Right now I'm wearing a 36B bra, although I measure at a 36A.
I'm 5'7" and 138 pounds. My right breast is smaller than my left. During my first visit with my PS a few months ago we talked about 375 and 400 cc's. I started my search summer 2011 although it's been a plan to do this for the last several years. I visited with two different PS and absolutely hated the first one. She didn't listen to what I wanted and instead told me her ideal for me. I was so frustrated. You don't have to go with a doctor like that! There are so many other choices. Don't settle!!
After that I visited with the PS I've ultimately chosen, Richard Fryer. I liked him so much, my search stopped there. Things didn't work out financially like my husband and I had planned. The boob fund went to pay for other things that were more important at the time. Now, we've saved again and I'm ready! Preparing psychologically/ emotionally/ spritually has taken some work. It took a lot to calm my fears and apprehension about having a surgery for cosmetic purposes. I've thought a lot about the spiritual aspect. I'm very Christian and questioned whether I was being selfish and prideful. I share this because I'm sure there are women who may have the same concerns. I was concerned that I should be spending the money for surgery on a more "worthwhile" cause. As I've pondered these things I've come to several conclusions. 1) My body is important. The way I feel about my body is important. When I look in the mirror or when I feel my bra-less chest, I'm unhappy and very disappointed. 2) In the past I've worn gel or water filled bras. I love the way I feel when I'm wearing one of these bras. Why not get a permanent fix? I wear make-up, earrings, dress well. I dye my hair on occasion. Getting implants is the same principle. 3) My family, the one's who know me best, have been very supportive. They're happy for me and that helps me know I'm doing something that is worthwhile. Other people's opinions are not the most important thing, but having approval is a nice thing.
I'm scheduled for Feb. 16th for my second consult. I plan on scheduling my procedure at that time. I'm so excited!!! I'd especially like to hear from someone who has children about how they hid/explained their procedure. I don't want to tell my kids, but I don't want them to worry either. Things like, "What's wrong with Mommy?" when I first get home and am recovering. My kids will be able to go to Grandma's for a few days so that will help. Ideas? Thanks to RealSelf for helping me find my PS and providing all the supportive reviews I've read. I've really learned a lot and hope to share my journey with you all.
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Today was my pre-op visit! I'm scheduled for...
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I'm so glad i read this... I've been trying to restrain myself from bra shopping at 3 weeks! I just bought a wireless one at Target so that I don't have to dress around my sports bra straps anymore. Needless to say it's only slightly sexier than the sport bra. Can't wait for a sexy push-up!
I didn't make a big deal of what I was doing, and kept conversions about it very minimal around them. Instead I had them super excited about the weekend sleepovers while mommy had something on her tummy fixed. I didn't say anymore than that, and I couldn't think of anything else to say, but they didn't question it, and neither did I have any odd questions or looks from their teachers. I only told close friends or family who were helping me with them. I am very relieved I didn't talk much about it. For me it was a huge thing but I didn't want my kids feeling any anxiety. When they ask me about it later on, I will tell them that when they're 35 and nursed 2 babies, then they can decide to do what I did!
I have a somewhat narrow frame, I went with 325cc on the left and 350cc on the right, under the muscle, Mentor silicone moderate plus. My skin type would probably show the rippling of saline that some of my friends have experienced. My asymmetry was very noticeable to me, this seems to have made them almost perfectly even.
It's been a week, I had it on Friday, my awesome husband took care of me all weekend while our kiddos were having their sleepovers, I went back to work on Wed. No one can tell, which is exactly what I wanted. So far I'm very happy. I have been a bit careful about body squeezing hugs, but that'll only be for about 2 weeks
Looking at your picture, you're going with the right size, you will have great results and feel so relieved once it's over!
Hope that helps a bit!
My assymetry is definitely my biggest concern. I'm with you on trusting my PS. When we talked I told him I wanted as close as possible to fix the assymetry, but in the end if one has to be smaller I want it to still be the right one. I think it would be weird to change which side is smaller after having it that way for 30 years. :) He plans to overfill to help compensate as well. With the sizers on it was so close to perfect! The next two weeks are going to take so long! Today felt like a week!
When I say saline sizer, I don't mean the bra inserts, I mean the actual saline sizer he puts into the breast pocket once he's made the incision, then once he has the correct size, he puts in the silicone. Don't know if they need to do this if you're going with saline anyway though.
The time will fly and before you know it you'll be heading into surgery. You'll see under another one of my posts hat I recommended to prepare for beforehand. Also, neither my girls have even noticed my boobs and we're a pretty comfortable naked family. I had a small amount of
Lipo on hips and they said something about the bruising but otherwise they're oblivious.
It might also be that my bras before surgery made me look like there was something there. Now there really is. FYI mine are silicone and they look and feel as soft and natural as I had hoped:)
Congrats on setting the date! One of the other ladies on here, musicalsoul82, is scheduled that same day I think.
I can't wait to follow your journey!
Thank you immensely for starting your journey with us! I understand the guilt, but it sounds like you're successfully letting it go. You deserve this! Think of it as reconstructive surgery!