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Primary rhinoplasty regret - a smaller nose doesn't equal better
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Primary rhinoplasty regret - a smaller nose doesn't equal better
tinks8989March 15, 2017
$6,101
I never thought I would want my big nose back. But I do, badly. Below is a summary of what I'm going through
I've always hated my nose.. and that's the common story you hear from most people that opt for Rhinoplasty. I hated it. I would start a my reflection at cry. I would turn my face the other way when sat in traffic so that people couldn't see my profile and I would refuse to go out when I thought my nose was looking particularly bad. I've also been bullied about my nose and I thought I would leave comments like that in my past (I'm 29) but only last year in Summer someone shouted out their window that I should get a nose job. This was the turning point for me. That, and getting married next year. The thought of being photographed without perfectly positioning my nose so that it looked *somewhat* acceptable sent me into sheer panic and didn't want to spend my wedding day anxious of what angles guests were capturing my nose. So I finally decided to go ahead with surgery.
This was propelled when I saw a reality TV star in the news that had her nose done. Her results were extremely natural and subtle and that's exactly what I wanted -I wanted the bump taken down, less projection and I didn't want the tip of my nose plunging down like a witches when I smiled. So I went full steam ahead and booked a consultation with the surgeon that did her nose. As I wanted a natural result also.
The surgeon didn't do computer imaging as he felt that it can sometimes give an unrealistic idea of the result as it's not until he operates does he see a full picture of what can and cannot be done. So I had to explain as articulately as I could my expectations. I really liked the surgeon, very calming and it seemed a simple procedure.. I was going for closed rhinoplasty as I'm tall, he felt an open rhinoplasty scar would be visible and I could risk the scar not healing very well too. During this process I did also consider Lucian Ion but he had a very long waiting list, and stupid me and my impatience decided to just go ahead with this surgeon. I was excited at finally having a nose I no longer felt ashamed of and I could start enjoying my life. I foolishly thought it would make me more attractive as I felt that my nose took over my face.
My surgery was booked on 6 January and I nearly backed out. I woke up and I thought 'I'm I being completely ridiculous risking something on the middle of my face' But my Fiance reminded me that I had wanted this since 18, which was true and that if I didn't have it done I'd regret it.
I don't want to bore you with the details but a day after the operation I spiralled into panic and regretted my decision. I looked at the state of myself and wondered what the hell i'd done.. whilst looking at my old photos thinking 'my old nose wasn't THAT bad'. I had to keep my cast on for 2 weeks and it was a total NIGHTMARE. Spent most days crying in panic, wondering what on earth was beneath the cast.
My surgeon strongly reminded me that the nose will swell when the cast comes off within minutes and that the tip can retain swelling for 18 months. Well, I never took that comment too seriously when considering Rhinoplasty and I wish I did.
When the cast came off, I liked my nose, it looked refined and straight and a smaller version of my nose. Within hours...it was a swollen fat, mess and I haven't liked it since.
My nose now looks very rounded on the end and i also have a curved profile which I didn't ask for or want.. it wasn't curved when the cast came off so I'm not sure if there was swelling concealing the curve or where the tip is swollen, creating the illusion of a curve.
In addition my nose has been upturned.. I didn't want this. I only wanted my nose not to dip when I smile. I also have a longer looking lip now and I think this is because my nose has been upturned it creates the illusion of a longer lip which makes me look plain weird. I feel fake and ugly
Other things I didn't know about rhinoplasty:
-After surgery I couldn't smile and my lip covered my teeth. This lasted 4 weeks and was very scary.
-When the cast came off my whole face was stiff especially at the base of my columnella. But this could be because my surgeon had to break that bone (unexpectedly) because during surgery it looked bent once everything was straightened.
I'm trying to be patient as I know that Rhinoplasty has a long recovery time.. but I am honestly struggling. I have never felt so ugly and disgusting in my life and never did i think i'd want my old nose back because i think it suited me much better. I just hope I have tip swelling that will go down in time.
I encourage everyone to think long and hard about rhinoplasty as it's not a simple fix, it can affect the other features on your face and I didn't consider that. I wish i realised my large nose wasn't such a big deal as having a smaller nose doesn't necessarily make you prettier, it can have the opposite effect.
I've always hated my nose.. and that's the common story you hear from most people that opt for Rhinoplasty. I hated it. I would start a my reflection at cry. I would turn my face the other way when sat in traffic so that people couldn't see my profile and I would refuse to go out when I thought my nose was looking particularly bad. I've also been bullied about my nose and I thought I would leave comments like that in my past (I'm 29) but only last year in Summer someone shouted out their window that I should get a nose job. This was the turning point for me. That, and getting married next year. The thought of being photographed without perfectly positioning my nose so that it looked *somewhat* acceptable sent me into sheer panic and didn't want to spend my wedding day anxious of what angles guests were capturing my nose. So I finally decided to go ahead with surgery.
This was propelled when I saw a reality TV star in the news that had her nose done. Her results were extremely natural and subtle and that's exactly what I wanted -I wanted the bump taken down, less projection and I didn't want the tip of my nose plunging down like a witches when I smiled. So I went full steam ahead and booked a consultation with the surgeon that did her nose. As I wanted a natural result also.
The surgeon didn't do computer imaging as he felt that it can sometimes give an unrealistic idea of the result as it's not until he operates does he see a full picture of what can and cannot be done. So I had to explain as articulately as I could my expectations. I really liked the surgeon, very calming and it seemed a simple procedure.. I was going for closed rhinoplasty as I'm tall, he felt an open rhinoplasty scar would be visible and I could risk the scar not healing very well too. During this process I did also consider Lucian Ion but he had a very long waiting list, and stupid me and my impatience decided to just go ahead with this surgeon. I was excited at finally having a nose I no longer felt ashamed of and I could start enjoying my life. I foolishly thought it would make me more attractive as I felt that my nose took over my face.
My surgery was booked on 6 January and I nearly backed out. I woke up and I thought 'I'm I being completely ridiculous risking something on the middle of my face' But my Fiance reminded me that I had wanted this since 18, which was true and that if I didn't have it done I'd regret it.
I don't want to bore you with the details but a day after the operation I spiralled into panic and regretted my decision. I looked at the state of myself and wondered what the hell i'd done.. whilst looking at my old photos thinking 'my old nose wasn't THAT bad'. I had to keep my cast on for 2 weeks and it was a total NIGHTMARE. Spent most days crying in panic, wondering what on earth was beneath the cast.
My surgeon strongly reminded me that the nose will swell when the cast comes off within minutes and that the tip can retain swelling for 18 months. Well, I never took that comment too seriously when considering Rhinoplasty and I wish I did.
When the cast came off, I liked my nose, it looked refined and straight and a smaller version of my nose. Within hours...it was a swollen fat, mess and I haven't liked it since.
My nose now looks very rounded on the end and i also have a curved profile which I didn't ask for or want.. it wasn't curved when the cast came off so I'm not sure if there was swelling concealing the curve or where the tip is swollen, creating the illusion of a curve.
In addition my nose has been upturned.. I didn't want this. I only wanted my nose not to dip when I smile. I also have a longer looking lip now and I think this is because my nose has been upturned it creates the illusion of a longer lip which makes me look plain weird. I feel fake and ugly
Other things I didn't know about rhinoplasty:
-After surgery I couldn't smile and my lip covered my teeth. This lasted 4 weeks and was very scary.
-When the cast came off my whole face was stiff especially at the base of my columnella. But this could be because my surgeon had to break that bone (unexpectedly) because during surgery it looked bent once everything was straightened.
I'm trying to be patient as I know that Rhinoplasty has a long recovery time.. but I am honestly struggling. I have never felt so ugly and disgusting in my life and never did i think i'd want my old nose back because i think it suited me much better. I just hope I have tip swelling that will go down in time.
I encourage everyone to think long and hard about rhinoplasty as it's not a simple fix, it can affect the other features on your face and I didn't consider that. I wish i realised my large nose wasn't such a big deal as having a smaller nose doesn't necessarily make you prettier, it can have the opposite effect.
Replies (4)
March 17, 2017
I'm sorry you are not happy with your outcome so far. Hopefully your tip will drop over time and won't be so upturned. I can really relate to a lot of the reasons you went ahead with th rhinoplasty. I feel the same way right now -- impatient and wanting to get it done -- because I also have gotten rude comments from strangers about my nose at the age of 28.
March 30, 2017
I have only just seen this so I'm sorry for not replying. Please please please do not have rhinoplasty. Accept your imperfect beauty. There are so many things that can go wrong. I wished I hadn't listened to the nasty people. Please feel free to ask any questions
March 30, 2017
I personally think your nose looks great, but do you think you would have gotten a better (from your perspective) outcome if you had gone with a different surgeon? I have had consultations with three with different surgeons and I'm still not completely comfortable. I'm being really picky and don't want to rush into it even though I'm feeling impatient. I still think I am going to get it done because my nose makes me so incredibly self-conscious. I have tried therapy to accept it but it really hasn't helped.
March 30, 2017
Oh massively. I rushed and wished I had waited to see Lucian Ion. But he had a long wait and I was conscious that I had to have enough recovery time before my wedding. Plus the celeb who's nose he did had SUCH a subtle job I thought he would do the same for me. Like you my old nose made me very self conscious but this new nose makes me feel worse than I ever have done. Just be prepared that once you have surgery there is no going back. It's entirely your decision but I would urge you to think long and hard. It's such a complex procedure. It can affect the length of your lip, your smile, the overall look of your face. Please just make sure you think it completely through.
April 27, 2017
I read an interview where supermodel Giselle was told repeatedly to get her nose fixed and that her eyes were too small and close set, but she refused surgery. I personally love her nose and face! Others may not. I'm sure if she had gotten the standard-issue rhino (slight scoop + slight upturn) she would still be pretty but would look sort of like everyone else.
April 29, 2017
The standard nose job nose usually has a straight bridge and a rounded tip. I don't see how your nose looks fake. I think your nose now makes you look much more feminine. You will see swelling has gone down a lot after 3-4 months.
March 30, 2017
In my opinion, you were and are right now a beautiful girl. Your nose was imperfect but no ugly. Now you have a perfect nose (still swollen) and, probably, you will get used to it (and feel more comfortable when the swelling will go down). The question if it was necessary....only you know the answer. Best wishes
March 30, 2017
Thank you, I do really pray that I still have swelling and it'll somehow revert back to the nose when the cast came off. It was definitely unnecessary and I wished I had listened to those around me x
UPDATED FROM tinks8989
2 months post
It's early 3 months since my procedure and…
tinks8989March 30, 2017
It's early 3 months since my procedure and Im severely depressed. I absolutely hate my nose. It's upturned when I didn't ask for that and bulbous on the end. I liked my nose when the cast came off as I had a straight profile which I asked for. But within 24 hours I had a curve on my bridge that hasn't gone away. My nose looks fake. I askEd for a really subtle change and this is so vastly different from what I wanted. It doesn't suit my face. My eyes now look piggy and I have a long upper lip where he has upturned the tip. Please can someonever help. Do you think my nose will return to when the cast was removed? I'm in utter despair. Please don't ever have your nose operated on. It's ruined my life.
Replies (5)
April 17, 2017
I think your nose looks really good! It can continue to change as the swelling goes down, and can take up to a year to completely heal. I got mine done when I was 19 and it has continued to change over the years, and I actually like it better now. I went through a little regret and sad about the results at first, but sometimes you just have to give yourself a chance to adjust. If you really don't like the curve, I would consider fillers to change the slope. On Instagram, drsimonourianmd1 has some clips of the procedure and it is pretty amazing what they can do!! It would be a lot less painful than another surgery too! I hope this helps
April 19, 2017
Hiya, thank you for taking the time to comment, I really do appreciate it as I'm going through a massively tough time. I saw my surgeon yesterday and he did confirm I have a lot of swelling still and it'll eventually look much more refined and may even drop more which makes me happy. I hope like you that in a year I will like mine more. So do you love your nose now? Did you feel at first your nose didn't suit your face but does now?
April 20, 2017
I think you are right that it is one of those surgeries that are tough to get perfect. I think that it is really hard on a person after the surgery because you go through all of this pain, you spent so much money, and then your nose swells and it isn't the nose you dreamed of. I know I went through a depression after the surgery, and part of that can be because of the anesthesia. The tip of my nose remained boulbous for a good while and then it thinned out. The problem I have now is that the tip dropped too much after surgery and my nostrils are uneven with the middle part being longer. I would still like to get it fixed, but it isn't a huge thing to me anymore. I was actually reading that a good surgeon anticipates the tip dropping and will set it up the tip in anticipation for it to drop when the scar contracts (maybe that's what your surgeon did?). Either way, hang in there girl, I promise you will feel better about it as time goes on. If you still don't like it after 6 months or a year I would try to get the permanent fillers! They can add it to the bridge of your nose to give you a more straight profile and that will drop the tip. Plus you don't have to deal with the pain of surgery. If you get a chance look up non-surgical nose job on YouTube
April 20, 2017
Thank you for your words of encouragement and support. I'm definitely depressed and I can't believe I've done something so stupid. I only hope that it settles into a nicer shape. I truly believed he would deliver the result I wanted.. and I can't stand that my tip has been raised with a slight curve in the bridge. He says these are feminine traits of a nose but it's not what I wanted! Hopefully time will literally be a healer
April 23, 2017
Dont worry it will go down with time and will look more natural many surgeons make tip higher because of that, if he hadnt did it this way when it passes a year after the operation your tip would gone even more down then you wanted. ..but the way it is now it will go just on the right place.
April 23, 2017
I really hope it does continue to drop. I hate how fake it looks. I stressed a subtle result so I don't know why he's given me this upturned scooped nose. I hope in time it drops. Thank you for the advice
UPDATED FROM tinks8989
3 months post
3 month visit to Surgeon
tinks8989April 19, 2017
So I saw my Surgeon yesterday. He said I was 'on-track' and that I still had a lot of swelling and that the tip of the nose swells disproportionately to the bridge. Since a lot of the work was done on the tip I have a lot of swelling.
I then had photos taken and then a before and after comparison. I do not think they look good. I just think my nose looks fake. He said he raised the tip a bit and my old nose was pointing downwards which is 'masculine' apparently. But I dont think a raised tip suits the rest of my face. However he did say it could drop some more. He also admitted to putting in a slight curve to my bridge!! Again I didn't ask for this.. even if apparently it is more feminine. I don't think it's natural or what I asked for.
All in all, he said I still have lots of swelling to go down and that I should come back in December to review. If I'm still unhappy he said we could discuss what he could do to make it better but he's confident that that won't be the case once the swelling goes away. I'm praying this is the case and that the tip drops some more.
All in all I feel in mourning for my old nose. Yes it was big and projected too much but in hindsight it just suited my face so much better. He said I need to just forget about my nose for now as I won't notice the changes by constantly obsessing over it.
If I could turn back time I would. After being tormented about my nose and feeling so self conscious of it, I thought a rhinoplasty would finally allow me to live life to the full, but it's only made me feel far worse.
I then had photos taken and then a before and after comparison. I do not think they look good. I just think my nose looks fake. He said he raised the tip a bit and my old nose was pointing downwards which is 'masculine' apparently. But I dont think a raised tip suits the rest of my face. However he did say it could drop some more. He also admitted to putting in a slight curve to my bridge!! Again I didn't ask for this.. even if apparently it is more feminine. I don't think it's natural or what I asked for.
All in all, he said I still have lots of swelling to go down and that I should come back in December to review. If I'm still unhappy he said we could discuss what he could do to make it better but he's confident that that won't be the case once the swelling goes away. I'm praying this is the case and that the tip drops some more.
All in all I feel in mourning for my old nose. Yes it was big and projected too much but in hindsight it just suited my face so much better. He said I need to just forget about my nose for now as I won't notice the changes by constantly obsessing over it.
If I could turn back time I would. After being tormented about my nose and feeling so self conscious of it, I thought a rhinoplasty would finally allow me to live life to the full, but it's only made me feel far worse.
Replies (5)
April 19, 2017
So sad this happened to you. I had the same happen to me 20 year ago and my nose collapsed. It was upturned when that wasnt what I wanted. I am now 5 month post op with Lucian Ion.He lengthened my nose and it is tons better. i feel normal again.I feel happy after hating my nose.These surgeons seem to think an upturned nose equals a feminine nose. it doesnt. Mine now suits my face.Who did your nose? it is easy for him to say stop obsessing over it but it is natural if you do not like it. I hope your tip drops and you are happy with it. If not consider Mr Ion he is a genius. He has made me look in the mirror and like what I see instead of cry and ultimately that is what we all want xx
April 20, 2017
Exactly! How can I not obsess over my nose when it's on the middle of my face and I don't like it?! I pray it turns into a nose I like. I'm petrified of anymore surgery because I seriously do not want a further botched nose. Although I have already booked a consultation with Lucian Ion as I'd like his opinion xx
April 19, 2017
Hopefully over time the swelling goes down and the nose you are looking for is under there! I am so sorry you are disappointed with how it has turned out. I imagine if you liked it when the cast was first take off, you will like it once it has fully healed.
April 19, 2017
Do you have an update? Has the swelling gone down? I think it looks great but I understand what you mean and am worried about the same thing happening to me.
April 20, 2017
I still have a lot of swelling at my tip because of the work that was done. Rhinoplasty is a risk and I was also worried of this very thing (curve and upturn) happening to me. I stressed that I didn't want an upturn to my nose and I wanted a straight bridge but he did that anyway. So you can ask for what you want but at the end of the day you are at the mercy of whether your surgeon listens or not
April 21, 2017
Well, to be honest, your nose is not the best rhinoplasty I have seen (though not bad), but it does make your face look nicer, more feminine and it doesnt spoil your image, only makes it better! That said, your old nose was not as bad as you described. But being more feminine isnt a bad thing, so cheer up and dont think about noses so much, there is no excellent one.
April 21, 2017
I agree, it's not good at all. He promises me that my nose is going to look even better than when the cast came off when my nose eventually heals. Very hard to believe but we shall see..
April 21, 2017
Generally, the results of rhinoplasty may show up to 2 years after! Here in Armenia most nose tips are long and a surgery like yours is ASKED by many, funny as it is. However, their disappointment comes when a year or two later their nose tip slighltly comes down again :) Overall, noses are such a concerned topic here that rhinoplasty is one of the most developed spares and people from different countries arrive here exactly for that, and prices are way lower.
April 21, 2017
My surgeon did say that the tip may continue to drop, which I hope that it does. I really want to avoid any further surgery so I just hope it'll eventually settle into a nose I like more
Thank you for sharing your experience. I hope you find support in the community. Â