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Post Rhinoplasty Blues part 2
UPDATED FROM Sportygal99
2 months post
Up date #3
Hi Guys!
So I'm about 3 months post op. My nose keeps changing almost weekly and has been refining. I'm still trying to be patient and learn to love it.
I think that overall - I have come to the conclusion that maybe I truly didn't want rhinoplasty. Previously, I had a bad profile that bothered me - but I think overall I truly loved my front view and now that its changed I'm not as happy as I was previously. The funny thing is that I thought I would get the surgery and have a improved (but similar shaped nose) and i would no longer think about my nose (like so many people say happens!). This has not yet happened....in fact the opposite. I am now insecure and have my nose on my mind every.single.day.
I'm not sure how to get through this tough time.
I know i'm not "botched" but overall I cant get passed that this is just not the shape I wanted. I described to my surgeon a straight profile - I included photos of my wish nose (of myself) that I provided to him prior to surgery.
I feel like the bridge of my nose is REALLY refined and also scooped from one side. Interestingly the other side doesn't look like this....(the base is not symmetric).
My front view is much more refined that what I was looked for. Again, the bridge is so thin and now as the swelling has subsided the bridge has an indent that has come apparent.
I honestly dont know how to get through this. I feel so regretful - not for just the results but even more so for the tough time I've had emotionally. This just is not worth it...I've seen numerous friends go for rhinoplasty, get great results, and move on with new confidence! I guess we are all different but I just assumed that would happen for me too.
Even if the results don't end up being perfect - I know I could potentially get a revision or filler or whatever but honestly I just want to be happy and not have this consume me anymore.
I also am wondering if this is in my head? Is this just an adjustment thing? Are the results actually good and I'm being crazy?
Does anyone have ways that they got through feeling this way? Councilling? Keeping busy?
I want my old life back!!! Any suggestions or how to adjust mentally would be so appreciated
So I'm about 3 months post op. My nose keeps changing almost weekly and has been refining. I'm still trying to be patient and learn to love it.
I think that overall - I have come to the conclusion that maybe I truly didn't want rhinoplasty. Previously, I had a bad profile that bothered me - but I think overall I truly loved my front view and now that its changed I'm not as happy as I was previously. The funny thing is that I thought I would get the surgery and have a improved (but similar shaped nose) and i would no longer think about my nose (like so many people say happens!). This has not yet happened....in fact the opposite. I am now insecure and have my nose on my mind every.single.day.
I'm not sure how to get through this tough time.
I know i'm not "botched" but overall I cant get passed that this is just not the shape I wanted. I described to my surgeon a straight profile - I included photos of my wish nose (of myself) that I provided to him prior to surgery.
I feel like the bridge of my nose is REALLY refined and also scooped from one side. Interestingly the other side doesn't look like this....(the base is not symmetric).
My front view is much more refined that what I was looked for. Again, the bridge is so thin and now as the swelling has subsided the bridge has an indent that has come apparent.
I honestly dont know how to get through this. I feel so regretful - not for just the results but even more so for the tough time I've had emotionally. This just is not worth it...I've seen numerous friends go for rhinoplasty, get great results, and move on with new confidence! I guess we are all different but I just assumed that would happen for me too.
Even if the results don't end up being perfect - I know I could potentially get a revision or filler or whatever but honestly I just want to be happy and not have this consume me anymore.
I also am wondering if this is in my head? Is this just an adjustment thing? Are the results actually good and I'm being crazy?
Does anyone have ways that they got through feeling this way? Councilling? Keeping busy?
I want my old life back!!! Any suggestions or how to adjust mentally would be so appreciated
UPDATED FROM Sportygal99
1 month post
Still struggling
Hi Guys,
Wanted to start by saying that this community has been more helpful then I could ever imagined. The support and I got last post helped me a lot! It gave me hope and everyone's individual stories really were heart felt.
I am now 5-6 weeks post op and have to admit that I'm still struggling.
Although I don't feel as frantic as before I do still feel unhappy a fair amount.
Again, my profile is amazing. I am very happy with my 3/4 view and my profile. These improvements I can EASILY admit!
I'm still just having a hard time getting passed that my front view is not what I had in mind for style.
I met with my surgeon yesterday. It was really hard expressing myself and he basically told me he loved the work he did. I kind of froze when he asked me what I didn't like about it. In reality I can articulate it well. I had a wide, prominent bridge in mind from my front view. I had this before surgery and I was hoping to have it after. I feel instead I got a thin bridge which contrasts with a large tip. I am hoping that this will be less obvious when the tip swelling goes down...but overall i'm pretty sad that it didn't turn out how I wanted...and I'm just hoping that as swelling continues to go down that I start to see what I truly wanting emerge - however, as time goes on i'm getting less hopeful.
I really really really want to be happy - If I had known how hard this would be emotionally I would have NEVER went through with it. Maybe it is something that is within me? I really dont know. My fiance suggested I post again for objective opinions. I just hope so much that when I fast forward a year from now (during my upcoming wedding) that I feel happy and grateful and not sad and still wishing for change.
I am trying not to focus. I have many things to be grateful for....I never imagined I would feel this way...maybe I just need to continue to be patient.
Wanted to start by saying that this community has been more helpful then I could ever imagined. The support and I got last post helped me a lot! It gave me hope and everyone's individual stories really were heart felt.
I am now 5-6 weeks post op and have to admit that I'm still struggling.
Although I don't feel as frantic as before I do still feel unhappy a fair amount.
Again, my profile is amazing. I am very happy with my 3/4 view and my profile. These improvements I can EASILY admit!
I'm still just having a hard time getting passed that my front view is not what I had in mind for style.
I met with my surgeon yesterday. It was really hard expressing myself and he basically told me he loved the work he did. I kind of froze when he asked me what I didn't like about it. In reality I can articulate it well. I had a wide, prominent bridge in mind from my front view. I had this before surgery and I was hoping to have it after. I feel instead I got a thin bridge which contrasts with a large tip. I am hoping that this will be less obvious when the tip swelling goes down...but overall i'm pretty sad that it didn't turn out how I wanted...and I'm just hoping that as swelling continues to go down that I start to see what I truly wanting emerge - however, as time goes on i'm getting less hopeful.
I really really really want to be happy - If I had known how hard this would be emotionally I would have NEVER went through with it. Maybe it is something that is within me? I really dont know. My fiance suggested I post again for objective opinions. I just hope so much that when I fast forward a year from now (during my upcoming wedding) that I feel happy and grateful and not sad and still wishing for change.
I am trying not to focus. I have many things to be grateful for....I never imagined I would feel this way...maybe I just need to continue to be patient.
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Your nose is healing beautifully! You will absolutely, positively still have swelling go down in the tip. Don't make any decisions on whether you like your nose or not until the 6 month mark! I'm looking for my third revision surgery right now, and can tell you that without a doubt, the swelling at 3 months is different than at 6 months, and will be different at a year. Especially in the tip! I think as the tip swelling decreases, you will grow to love it!
Thank you for the kind words! Hopefully i'm heading into a positive direction for nose and head space!
Yes! From everything I've learned with my own experiences and others on here, I think your nose will truly heal perfectly! :)
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Post Rhinoplasty Blues
I underwent Rhinoplasty 12 days ago & I am absolutely freaking out. I have wanted a nose job for literally 10 years. I am a confident person who always liked the way I looked from the front but I have an over-projected nose from the side which always made me self conscious. I
I recently decide to go for rhinoplasty. I wanted minimal change and just a better profile.
From the moment the cast came off I have been an absolute mess. You see on instragram all those girls who are just over the moon with there results immediately and that is NOT me.
The nose is SO MUCH smaller and the shape is ENTIRELY different. I was anticipating a refined version of my current nose and not a totally new shape and size. The profile looks great. The 3/4 view and front view looks SO fake to me right now and absolutely teeny tiny. My bridge is much more scoopy and less prominent than I imagined. My whole face has changed which was not my main goal.
Objectively the nose is symmetric and its not a bad nose - just looks bad on me. This feeling is what held me back for the last 10 years from pulling the trigger.
I know they say swelling will change and its too early to judge results but the overall shape is SO different that I cant imagine its going to magically turn into what I envisioned....and worse its going to get even smaller than it already is!
I'm hoping this is just the rhinoplasty blues. Did anyone else have a similar experience and overcome it?
I recently decide to go for rhinoplasty. I wanted minimal change and just a better profile.
From the moment the cast came off I have been an absolute mess. You see on instragram all those girls who are just over the moon with there results immediately and that is NOT me.
The nose is SO MUCH smaller and the shape is ENTIRELY different. I was anticipating a refined version of my current nose and not a totally new shape and size. The profile looks great. The 3/4 view and front view looks SO fake to me right now and absolutely teeny tiny. My bridge is much more scoopy and less prominent than I imagined. My whole face has changed which was not my main goal.
Objectively the nose is symmetric and its not a bad nose - just looks bad on me. This feeling is what held me back for the last 10 years from pulling the trigger.
I know they say swelling will change and its too early to judge results but the overall shape is SO different that I cant imagine its going to magically turn into what I envisioned....and worse its going to get even smaller than it already is!
I'm hoping this is just the rhinoplasty blues. Did anyone else have a similar experience and overcome it?
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I think when the swelling has gone down it will be smaller, which I know you don't want, but more refined, like it was before, so if will look more how it was, without the bump. I think you look beautiful, it suits you, and in my view, better than before. You will get used to it!
Thank you - it’s so hard to be patient!
I think your nose looks beautiful!! Besides you are still healing.. it takes MONTHS to heal. and it doesn't look fake from the pictures at all. Give it time..
i think your nose job looks lovely and i wouldn't say fake looking, as the girl said above, give it time and you just need to get used to it! 2 years on from my rhinoplasty my nose is still looking better and more refined as the months go by, not saying the recovery will take this long at all but i remember being so worried at the shape of mine when the cast first came off. it's completely swollen without you fully understanding just how swollen :) the shape should change, perhaps email your surgeon and ask if it will get much smaller? i'm sure he understood what you were after from your consultation? much love
That’s very reassuring to hear! Thank you
Oh wow- the new nose is GORGEOUS! Changing our faces is a really scary thing- and our brains are SO used to what we look like, that there is bound to be a bit of disorientation and anxiety until you get used to it. I think you will be happy with it- give it time. You still look like “you” and I think your new nose looks so so good- really a perfect outcome, in my humble opinion. I am going in on Feb 4 for mine- same situation as you- and I may need YOU to reassure me in my panic in the weeks after
Good luck to you!! Hopefully you will be one of the lucky ones that falls in love at first sight!. I think that people don’t talk enough about the possible negative feelings some people experience.
I agree! It’s very kind and brave of you to share.
And thank you! I am getting facetite on my neck and RF microneedling at the same time- so I am going to be a mess
And thank you! I am getting facetite on my neck and RF microneedling at the same time- so I am going to be a mess
On day 2 of recovery. My eyes are SUPER swollen. Also got facetite done under my chine and radio frequency microneedling. My son thinks I should just put giant bandaids all over my face
Honestly I could barely tell and I'm a crazy person about plastic surgery. I was going to say you were probably upset there wasn't enough of change. The biggest improvement I see is lack of bump and a nice profile but from front it looks very minimal and I mean very and not small and fake at all.
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