3.5 months PO New Pics So Happy - Journey Back to Me!!!

Hello, I am a Stay at Home Mommy of two wonderful children. I am almost 35 years old and am 5'9 and usually weigh between 160-170 pounds. I had my son almost 6 years ago and he weighed in at a whopping 10pounds 13oz and 24 inches long. I went from 162 pounds to 236 pounds with him. Crazy right??? After 6 months of running, weight training, and Jenny Craig..I lost 85 pounds. I was really happy with this accomplishment but I knew I already stretched my stomach and chest beyond anything that traditional exercise was going to help )>: I said to myself then that if I am done having kids at 35 then I am having a Mommy Makeover. I had my sweet little girl two years ago and I knew that I was done with the whole pregnancy thing for good. I gained about 38 pounds with her and my weight went to 202pounds. So now I have been running about 20 miles a week and do two full body strength training classes a week. I have been trying to get into good shape for my Plastic Surgery Consultations. I currently weigh 167 but I feel really strong and if I can continue to work out 6 days per week I am hoping my weight will continue to go down.

I have my first Mommy Makeover Consultation on November 17th and my second one on November 29th. I then will hopefully schedule my surgery for the Spring. I am really scared about not being able to take care of my two children during my recovery. I have a relative that will help me for a week. My husband will probably take a few days off but I can't really say that he is the most supportive person of the surgery. He has the thinking of, "you look good to me the way you are." I have some feelings of being selfish for wanting it done but I know that I have done tons for others over the years and it is time for me to do something for me. So my journey begins....

Wow, I just had my first Plastic Surgeon Consult. I was really nervous for some reason. I went by myself and drove about 1.5 hours to get there. The surgeon was very nice and spent about 1.5 hours with me. He really explained everything in detail and kept asking if I had any questions along the way. After he explained everything I then had to change and show him what I look like just in underwear. He immediately said that my right breast was bigger then my left and that it is 1.5 inches lower then the left. He recommended a breast lift and then a small implant to give me my fullness back. A lift alone will not do this. It was crazy when he lifted my breast up and showed me where it should be sitting. I guess I just got use to them sagging down for so long...lol. He then said I have a pretty significant separation in my stomach muscles (1.5 inches..lots of 1.5's in this post!!!). He is not sure he can get my stomach completely flat because of it. He also found a hernia at my belly button that he could fix during surgery. He also stated that there is a large amount of excess skin but that he could keep the scar pretty low if I have hopes of wearing a bikini again. So everything was going great until he said that they do not send you home with a pain pump. I really really was hoping they did. They give you pain meds and I would have the option of staying in the hospital overnight. I will definitely stay in the hospital for one night. He said that I should stay because my stomach will be the area that is going to really hurt me and it will probably be a 6 hour surgery. He said the cost is around $13,000 plus a little more if I stay overnight and get gel implants. SO I think the appt went well but I can't wait to see the next plastic surgeon to compare the cost/info/and my husband will be with me. That consult is 11/29.

Ridiculous is the one word that sums up my husband's feelings on me having the surgery. Has anyone else had this experience with their husband? He is generally a very supportive husband. He helped me through 7 years of hell as my Father was dying of cancer. He supported me all last year while I fixed my mother's house up and sold it and then he let us buy her a new house. He pretty much let me save her from foreclosure and a life of public assistance after my father passed away. He has been there for me since I was 16 years old, (yes we have been together almost 20 years) but he just is not supportive of me wanting to bring my body back to pre-baby shape. It is 100% not the money because he is the most generous person I know. I think he thinks I am going to look like a [RS bleep] star or something. I don't want to look like a [RS bleep] star...just like a Mommy that takes good care of herself. I can't wrap my head around him. I really don't have any support other then my sister and a friend. My inlaws will have to help me with the kids a little bit and I finally got the courage to tell them and they pretty much don't say anything...which is like saying everything!!! I just don't know how I am going to go through a 6 hour surgery and then an extended recovery with my husband thinking I am ridiculous!!!! Has anybody else had a husband that felt like this before surgery? Help!!!!