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24, No Kids, Recently Engaged and Completely Self-conscious - Orlando, FL

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I didn't realized until after high school that my...

Perfectly_imperfect91March 15, 2016
I didn't realized until after high school that my lady parts didn't look like "everyone else's". It wasn't until I did some research that I found out a lot of women have large or elongated labias. I didn't feel so alone, but it didn't make me feel any better either. Since then I've been considering having labiaplasty. These last couple years have been the worst for my self-esteem. I find myself "tucking" when wearing bathing suits and even when showering with my fiancé, just to make myself feel better. And trust me, that's not always a pain-free temporary solution. It can hurt to tuck! When I first met my fiancé we were very sexually active, now I have pretty much lost all sex drive because I'm so uncomfortable with myself. I know it's frustrating for him but he understands that sometimes it can be painful for me (it feels like someone's pulling and stretching my lady when we initiate sex). I've set a date for my consultation- March 22nd and I'm so nervous. I'm scared to show my ugly lady to anyone besides my fiancé and I'm scared about the recovery, but I also know if I don't do this I will never be happy with myself. I don't plan to tell my family or anyone else besides my fiancé. But any advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated. This site has already helped me so much! (I also never thought, in a million years, I would be comfortable enough to post pictures of myself like this... Sorry for stubble!)

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iwantthestars
March 15, 2016
Welcome! I totally understand where you are coming from, as do all of the ladies here. While we are all "normal", having large labia can be very embarrassing and physically painful. Some woman can own it and be totally fine with how they look. I was not one of those women, no matter how many pics I saw of normal labia. At 38, I decided to have labiaolasty because I too had let it effect my relationships and I was just not willing do that anymore. While my results aren't perfect, I'm still glad I went through it. No longer do I have the rubbing and pulling and pressure from sitting and exercising. I don't have the long lips hanging down that I would always see in the mirror when stepping out of the shower. You dererve to not have any physical pain, be it during normal life activities or sex. I'm glad you found the courage to make an appointment. I was so nervous just making the phone call! Don't be nervous about your appointment. Docs have seen so many different vajayjays that it won't phase them. Ask lots of questions and be willing to see more than one surgeon. You deserve to feel good about yourself and live pain free so I hope you find the right doc! We are here for you if you have any questions! Keep us updated. Best of luck to you :)
Perfectly_imperfect91
March 16, 2016
Thank you so much for all of this. I'm glad I'm not alone. And although I know the doctor sees all different kinds of vajayjays even thinking about him/ her seeing mine brings me to tears. Trying to prep myself mentally. I will definitely keep everyone updated.
iwantthestars
March 16, 2016
I won't lie, it was hard for me to see surgeons (first one I saw was a male surgeon, so that was definitely not easy!). I was probably more nervous about my initial appointment than I was the actual surgery. But my desire to finally make this change overrode my immense embarrassment about how I looked. Try to remember that when you are in your appointment if you can. You are taking the steps towards making things better and often that journey can be uncomfortable. Try to remember the end result. You've already been so brave in posting your story and your pics here. That was hard for me to do, but a sort of freeing step in my process. You can make it through your appointment and surgery. If you start to feel your anxiety getting the best of you, just focus on the fact that you are taking the steps to help change your life. Deep breaths. You've got this and you can make it through. Good luck :)
London90
March 16, 2016
Hello! Every one of us understands and I agree with Iwantthestars, I was so So much more nervous for my first consultation than my op! By the time the op comes around you are used to people looking and poking at you, used to the idea of what you plan to do and it's all become a bit more normalised. If you are in pain all the time, you need to do this, especially to enjoy your sex life.
You will be fine, just make sure you are totally happy with your surgeon and you will be fine! I look forward to seeing you on the other side :) message me with any questions you have xx
Perfectly_imperfect91
March 16, 2016
Thank you thank you. I'm excited as well. This will be the first surgeon I see and first consultation so I might consult with other doctors. I don't want to make any rash decisions. I also won't be getting the operation until September /: but that gives me time to settle my nerves and find the right doctor for me!
lbelt
March 29, 2016
Make sure you see Dr. Serrao, he is in Orlando and is the best! Took great care of me and I love my results. Good luck!
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canag54
March 17, 2016
I'm 4 was post op, and it was, surprisingly , easy. Mostly, had stinging the first few days, lots of swelling -- but better after the first week. Then the itchiness begins-- I used ice packs the first few days , got small squirt bottles for the bathrooms, for hygiene-- hurts to wipe. Also, got Tucks and dermaplast spray, for comfort. When the itchiness started I used some of my xylocaine ointment to ease that discomfort. I was back to work 10 days post op, and just had mild itching. Now, back to normal, intercourse is still a bit sensitive, was told that it might be for up to 6 was.
Best wishes, I'm so glad I finally did this. You won't regret this.
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Consultation!

Perfectly_imperfect91March 22, 2016
Today I had my consultation. I thought I was going to throw up or pass out I was so nervous. However the consultation went so well! Ugh I'm so relieved. The doctor was so genuine and the nurses were friendly and understanding. The examination made me a little uncomfortable but the doctor made it quick and very easy. After it was done he told me that was probably the hardest part out of all of this. The receptionist gave me my quote, and I'll have to admit it was slightly higher than I anticipated, however my happiness and self confidence is priceless to me. They also gave me other payment options. I originally intended to wait until September to go ahead with the procedure but because of the payment plan I might be able to do it sooner! A huge weight has been lifted from my chest and I am so excited to start this journey.

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London90
March 22, 2016
:) see, the consultation is the hardest part! Well done you, now you can start this amazing journey and you won't regret it! Are you telling anyone about the surgery? Xx
Perfectly_imperfect91
March 22, 2016
Thank goodness that part is over! It wasn't bad, I didn't cry like I thought I would, but I'm glad and proud that I took this initial step today. And after my consultation I decided to confide in my mother, but other than her, my fiancé is the only other person who knows that I'm in the process of all of this. I don't think a lot of my family would understand why I need to do this.
iwantthestars
March 26, 2016
So glad you got through your consultation and had a great experience! The surgery is expensive, but the concern about the cost will slowly fade when you see your new "self". While, I wish I didn't need to spend the money, I don't regret spending at all. Not one cent. So have you decided when you want to have the surgery?
Perfectly_imperfect91
March 26, 2016
Well initially I was waiting until September (for financial reasons) however I did get approved for a payment plan and I'm just waiting to receive my cars in the mail. I have a couple more questions to ask and then I will be able to get it done sooner than September! (: so happy and excited. No set date as of now but definitely wanting to get it done sooner rather than later. The anticipation is already killing me.
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Made a date!

Perfectly_imperfect91April 12, 2016
So I've set up a date for my procedure! It will be May 6th, only a little over 3 weeks away. I can't even believe it. I'm nervous, but beyond excited to start my journey. I have a pre-op appointment next week and then I'm only one week away (:

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iwantthestars
April 13, 2016
Yay!!! So happy for you that you are taking this next big step. I wish you the best and look forward to your updates. We are a unique club here and you have many ladies here to support you during your process.
Perfectly_imperfect91
April 13, 2016
I am forever grateful for this support! Thank you so much for your kind words (: I can't wait to update my reviews with recovery and post op photos!
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