43 Yrs old and ready to feel like my old self again!

I am 5'5" and weigh 175 lbs. I have had pain in my neck and upper back for about 8 years. It got worse about 2 years ago. My previous weight was 140 lbs. I was running and lifting weights 5 days a week and had run a half marathon and had completed a Tough Mudder competition and was going to train for a full marathon and start weight training fir fitness competition. I had to wear double sports bras to run and I had considered breast reduction then. Long story short, one day I couldn't lift the same amount of weight with my right arm and I started having numbness and tingling with increased pain when I laid down at night. MRI showed 2 herniated discs that needed surgery. I battled 3 surgeons that told me I needed to fuse my neck and found someone that would do aggressive decompression. He also said NO EXERCISE or lifting of more than a gallon of milk for a year. I have completed the year and gained all this weight. He is allowing me to start walking on a treadmill. But no weights yet. He also said if I wanted this to work, I would need a breast reduction. I am a 36G and I hope to be a small C. I have seen 2 surgeons and the second one is who will do my surgery. My insurance has agreed to cover the breast reduction. So if I am going under the knife, I am getting EVERYTHING done that I can. My next appointment is Monday to make final plans as to all he is able to do in one shot. I am excited to be pain free. Finally!

I will be adding a tummy tuck and lipo as well.

So, I had a follow up with the surgeon today. I will go from a 36G to a small C. He will meet the BCBS criteria of removing 500gr in order to get it covered by insurance. He said he will probably take a little more than that. He said no more sweatiness under the boobs. And no more having to use powder under the bobs to keep from getting a rash...YAY!!!!!! So, for sure I am getting a tummy tuck with liposuction to "3rd boob" area, to bra roll, to waist, flanks, and low back. He also said he will lipo hips and he will do a fat graft to buttocks just to fill in the flat parts and make them rounded out again. He said I will be under anesthesia for about 5 1/2 -6 hours. I will have 4 drains. I will stay overnight in the hospital. My hubby is going to try to 6 days off from work. Then I will spend the rest of my time at my best friends house to have help. He quoted me $8500 for all the stuff not covered by insurance. That is a great price! I saw the work he has done (he has several books in his office). I am really excited now. I am having a hard time trying to figure out a way to tell my family about the added surgery. They are giving me attitude because of my breast reduction choice. That I am messing up the body God gave me. And going under the knife selfishly. How are you guys handling the family members with an attitude?