39 Years Old, Back, Neckpain, Tingling and Numbness in Hands and Feet

I started wearing a bra in the 3rd grade. By 5th grade I was a 36C. Now at 39 I squeeze into a 40 DDD. My family dr told me to order them online, but I dont think she understands how difficult that would be. My entire life people have commented on how large my breasts are. Thank you for bringing that to my attention! I didnt realize! Several gynecologists have suggested breast reduction surgery to me when I was younger, and I refused. One doctors jaw dropped in disbelief, and he asked me why. I said that my granny lived with them for 81 years and never complained, and I didnt want to upset her. She cried when my Aunt got her reduction, because God blessed her with them. Now that I am almost 40 I am absolutely miserable. I cant get up from a sitting position sometimes. It feels like my chest cavity caves in, and I cannot breathe, or move. I feel paralyzed and it is very scary and painful. My husband has to wrap his arms around me and lift me up. After this I decided to go to my family dr who was actually the first dr to tell me I should not do this. I was shocked because I am much larger than I was when all the several doctors I seen in my younger years highly recommended it. Is it my age? Well, she proceeds to tell me that I need to do physical therapy and muscle relaxer treatments before she can refer me to a surgeon. So I completed both. No good luck with those pills, and physical therapy did help but was so painful it made me nauseous! My fingers and toes started to feel like pins and needles. My physical therapist states that it is caused from lesions in my arms and chest being wrapped around nerves. She even said I need this surgery! I still have the pins and needle feeling, and I still have instances when my chest feels its caving in and I cannot move. I am told that is not physically possible, but that is what it feels like! They say its muscle tissue that I feel caving in. Well whatever it is I want it gone! I finally have a consult with a dr who is finally in network! That was difficult to find! He has several good reviews. My mother and husband are very supportive. Granny wouldnt want me hurting, and Im looking at it as like a gallbladder or apendix surgery. Its gotta come out! Im also afraid that because I am over weight that they will not do the surgery. I have seen that issue on this site and Im worried about it. I have gained alot of weight lately. It is so hard to do anything anymore. I cant reach in front of me or look down sometimes. My back feels broken. I have been trying to lose before my consult, but its been the holidays! Ugh! I wont post pics until I know for sure that I will be able to get surgery approved. Please any encouraging stories are appreciated. Thanks for hearing my story.

I go for my consultation in the morning! Very nervous! Wondering what to expect? Hope I am making the right choice. I know I will be better off in the long run. Im just chicken!

Had my consultation today. Dr seemed to emphasize. He said, "No offense in anyway, but they are way to huge for your frame." He said it will take about a month to hear back from insurance. He said he is guessing to remove 5 lbs total, and that I could go back to work in a week. ??? That seems really soon, but I am a front desk girl. After I got home I read on my visit summary that I am a current, everyday smoker. I quit 12 years ago. So, I will be calling them tomorrow to fix that. I hope it doesn't go to insurance like that. The photos of this doctors work looked fantastic. Fingers crossed.