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I am scheduled for a smas facelift and upper and...
la paixFebruary 20, 2016
I am scheduled for a smas facelift and upper and lower blepharoplasty February 29th. My husband is against it. I had hoped he would eventually come around to supporting me but he hasn't. My sister is taking me and spending the first night post op at a hotel with me as the surgery is out of town and I need to be back at the center the next morning. After that I will be home. I'm worried my husband will really disapprove when he sees me battered and bruised. I am wanting to know if any of you had this same problem and still had your surgery done even though you knew your husband would not support you. Thanks so much for any advice.
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Day of treatment
Tomorrow is the day.
la paixFebruary 29, 2016
My husband is sooooo mad at me about this. He has tried to scare me out of this and it's working. We argued this morning once again about it. Tomorrow is the surgery and I'm scared as hell. My husbands continuous berating me about this has put fear in me, especially with tomorrow being the day. Am I doing the right thing? Will it turn out alright? What happens if things go wrong? What started as an exciting journey is becoming self-doubt. Should I cancel? Even my sister who is helping me the first couple of days and who is taking me to the surgery doesn't really see the need for this. She supports me as I am her sister , but she doesn't have any excitement for me about it....just worry. I feel like some sort of person committing a crime with these kind of attitudes towards me. I really am wondering....what am I doing? Has anyone been in my position? If so, did you go ahead with it and all turned out alright? Thanks for any thoughts.
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February 29, 2016
Your husband sounds like he could be insecure, You don't say how old you are and we don't know what you look like, but perhaps your husband is afraid you will look really good and find someone else, who knows how they think. There is nothing to be scared of, as long as you did your research and trust your surgeon, 99% of ladies on RS have great results (sadly I did not). There is going to be discomfort and some pain, mainly from the stiches but for me at least, the pain was hardly noticeable. You are not committing a crime, you are doing to yourself what you need to do in order to make you feel good about yourself and with all the negativity from your family, I can see why you need it. Stay strong, don't cancel, you only get one shot at life do what makes YOU happy, don't live the rest of your life wondering, if only or I wish. Good luck tomorrow you will do great and hubby will get over it.
March 2, 2016
Hang in there. You are the one who looks in the mirror and reacts to the image that you see! Screw everyone else's opinion of your surgery--even your husband. If you feel you need to do this to be happy and enjoy life, then go with it and embrace the situation. I am sorry others are raining on your plastic surgery parade. I wish you all the best! I am sure you did not make this decision in haste. Keep us posted. :)
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3 days post
It's done!
la paixMarch 3, 2016
This is the second day since my facelift surgery. I am feeling as expected at this point. The bruising and swelling is minimal though, so happy for that. Pain is from the ear incisions. Looking forward to when they crust up and get past that tender point.
My sister has stepped up and has been a real help and support for me.....my husband? .......He hasn't said a whole lot about it since seeing me but thankfully has not said anything negative. So for now he's not giving me stress as before the surgery..thank God for that.
Thank you so much to the ladies who responded to me and offered their support. It helped me greatly...more then you know!
My sister has stepped up and has been a real help and support for me.....my husband? .......He hasn't said a whole lot about it since seeing me but thankfully has not said anything negative. So for now he's not giving me stress as before the surgery..thank God for that.
Thank you so much to the ladies who responded to me and offered their support. It helped me greatly...more then you know!
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March 4, 2016
Yeah for your sister for stepping up. Yes, the ear incisions are the worse, it wont get too much better until the stitches are out. Plenty of rest and drink lots of water. It's all uphill from now on.
March 13, 2016
Aww I'm so sorry you've been stressing so much because of your husband... It's bad enough we worry about the procedure. But I'm glad it's over and hopefully your husband will come around. Mine was against it at first and tried to change my mind many times, but since I wasn't going to budge (my decision), he's since come around and is in fact very supportive. I wish you happy healing :) You have a great sister. I'm having my procedure done on 4/12 and my daughter is going with me.
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