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Absolute Horror
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Absolute Horror
The following represents my experience of my surgery with this doctor March 2024.
My upper eyes had become droopy over time, pushing down on my lashes. My repeated directive to him is I want to look like me. I just want the extra droopiness subtly removed, but the shape of my eyes to remain the same with the fold remaining. I’ve always had a fold over, my lids were never prominent and I didn’t want anything drastic.
I reminded him of this before surgery. After surgery he said it went well. I worried the scar was really high and there wasn't much skin to then fold over. But I trusted him. I went to get my stitches out and he was “really happy” even though I was very concerned, and assured me that after the swelling subsided it would look how he promised, how we discussed, with the same eye shape and not prominent lids. That it wouldn’t be obvious, just that I would just look more refreshed. I trusted him.
On day 16 he messaged to see how I was doing, and I responded that it was horrific. He tried to get me to come see him but I refused and will continue to. Why would I?
1) Over my dead body is he ever getting near me with a scalpel again.
2) What is he going to do, admit this was botched? I refuse to have him try to sell me on this being a good result.
I’m now 6 weeks out. There is not enough skin on top to fold over the lid to look naturally like me. I look like a different person with an entirely different eye shape. I requested his post-op notes, he just left 2mm for overhang. From a complete fold to just 2mm left is an insane amount of change. The top part is still so tight even at 6 weeks, there's not a second of my day that I don't feel pulling. The scars are also each at slightly different heights so my eyes are different shapes now too.
The scars are so high above the natural crease that I have to tilt my head down when speaking to people, looking up at them through lashes to hide the scars–if my chin is straight they’re really obvious. “Hidden in the crease” is totally false. I now wear fake glasses to camouflage and distract from the scars and new shape. I used to never wear much makeup, I now go extremely heavy-handed and the scars are still visible even with concealer.
I’ve met with a reconstruction specialist surgeon who said my scars were “crazy high”, the amount of skin taken off was “extremely aggressive”. I’m facing significant future costs and recovery time with reconstruction surgery in 6 months just to be able to look in the mirror and recognise myself. I saw this expert at 4 weeks out, and while he acknowledged there was still some swelling, he confirmed my eyes would never settle without intervention into looking like they did and as AA kept promising due to the location of the cut and how much was removed. Even after reconstruction I won’t look like I did but at least it will be better.
He’ll show you other faces he’s done and promise similar results, and talk about how he does reconstruction work for the NHS. Blah blah blah. He'll tell you he doesn't “do” big lids. I fell for it. He totally f’d up my face, so I'm sure there are others. Don’t risk it. RUN.
My upper eyes had become droopy over time, pushing down on my lashes. My repeated directive to him is I want to look like me. I just want the extra droopiness subtly removed, but the shape of my eyes to remain the same with the fold remaining. I’ve always had a fold over, my lids were never prominent and I didn’t want anything drastic.
I reminded him of this before surgery. After surgery he said it went well. I worried the scar was really high and there wasn't much skin to then fold over. But I trusted him. I went to get my stitches out and he was “really happy” even though I was very concerned, and assured me that after the swelling subsided it would look how he promised, how we discussed, with the same eye shape and not prominent lids. That it wouldn’t be obvious, just that I would just look more refreshed. I trusted him.
On day 16 he messaged to see how I was doing, and I responded that it was horrific. He tried to get me to come see him but I refused and will continue to. Why would I?
1) Over my dead body is he ever getting near me with a scalpel again.
2) What is he going to do, admit this was botched? I refuse to have him try to sell me on this being a good result.
I’m now 6 weeks out. There is not enough skin on top to fold over the lid to look naturally like me. I look like a different person with an entirely different eye shape. I requested his post-op notes, he just left 2mm for overhang. From a complete fold to just 2mm left is an insane amount of change. The top part is still so tight even at 6 weeks, there's not a second of my day that I don't feel pulling. The scars are also each at slightly different heights so my eyes are different shapes now too.
The scars are so high above the natural crease that I have to tilt my head down when speaking to people, looking up at them through lashes to hide the scars–if my chin is straight they’re really obvious. “Hidden in the crease” is totally false. I now wear fake glasses to camouflage and distract from the scars and new shape. I used to never wear much makeup, I now go extremely heavy-handed and the scars are still visible even with concealer.
I’ve met with a reconstruction specialist surgeon who said my scars were “crazy high”, the amount of skin taken off was “extremely aggressive”. I’m facing significant future costs and recovery time with reconstruction surgery in 6 months just to be able to look in the mirror and recognise myself. I saw this expert at 4 weeks out, and while he acknowledged there was still some swelling, he confirmed my eyes would never settle without intervention into looking like they did and as AA kept promising due to the location of the cut and how much was removed. Even after reconstruction I won’t look like I did but at least it will be better.
He’ll show you other faces he’s done and promise similar results, and talk about how he does reconstruction work for the NHS. Blah blah blah. He'll tell you he doesn't “do” big lids. I fell for it. He totally f’d up my face, so I'm sure there are others. Don’t risk it. RUN.
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