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Need Opinions. UK mid 20s 32J Wanting Reduction - UK
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Creeps on Real Self
BritishGirlMay 7, 2018
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I am really sick of people misusing this site. The creepy comments and messages. You report them as inappropriate, and hear nothing back. I wanted to post a 'warning' message once, to show that I would publicize any further such messages I receive... but it wasn't approved by Real Self. Well in true 2018 spirit, #metoo - unwanted sexual contact of any kind shouldn't be allowed anywhere, and Real Self, where people share photos to help people with similar issues make the best choices for themselves, shouldn't either. It's the worst thing about this site, and I really feel there should be increased privacy options or efforts to filter these people out.
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BritishGirlJuly 4, 2017
Now everyone is different, when it comes to the reasoning behind wanting / needing a reduction.
For me personally, my main concern is my back - which I'll go into below. Secondly, it's a mental thing. I travelled for four years, I'm a size 10-12, and I've never worn a bikini in public. I feel so self aware that all eyes are on me due to my ridiculous proportions, that I just can't. I'm sure boob men out there everywhere are thinking - let them be free girl! Plus, that delightful cutting sensation as the bikini straps pull into the back of your neck from the weight is a DELIGHT.
My back. Now a reduction is not something to go into lightly. For one, you're going to be left with scarred frankenboobs - this doesn't phase me. But also it's a major op, there's the whole nips 'necrosis' (photos on here honestly make me feel like I'll pass out - poor women!) but also the fact that these funds come from the NHS... so you need to really need it in my eyes, to have those spent on you.
With that in mind, after visiting my doctor repeatedly due to back pain and being informed that the weight of my chest was beginning to cause 'structural damage' to my back at 25 years old (they measured the angle of my pelvis, neck etc - SCARY how off the mark I am)... I said I'll try anything else first.
I had a personal trainer help me with my core and back muscles - but as a regular frequenter of the dreaded gym I'm normally in fairly good shape. Then I started physiotherapy a few months ago. This is not fun. All of the muscles were too tight or weak, so weekly I have my back taped into place.... and weekly, it nearly takes half my skin with it! It's a painful process, I've ached for months, and I really just can't do this anymore. Furthermore correcting my posture has just led to endless boob remarks now it looks like I'm pushing them out into people's faces by standing straight!
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME BOOBS?! BE REASONABLE.
For me personally, my main concern is my back - which I'll go into below. Secondly, it's a mental thing. I travelled for four years, I'm a size 10-12, and I've never worn a bikini in public. I feel so self aware that all eyes are on me due to my ridiculous proportions, that I just can't. I'm sure boob men out there everywhere are thinking - let them be free girl! Plus, that delightful cutting sensation as the bikini straps pull into the back of your neck from the weight is a DELIGHT.
My back. Now a reduction is not something to go into lightly. For one, you're going to be left with scarred frankenboobs - this doesn't phase me. But also it's a major op, there's the whole nips 'necrosis' (photos on here honestly make me feel like I'll pass out - poor women!) but also the fact that these funds come from the NHS... so you need to really need it in my eyes, to have those spent on you.
With that in mind, after visiting my doctor repeatedly due to back pain and being informed that the weight of my chest was beginning to cause 'structural damage' to my back at 25 years old (they measured the angle of my pelvis, neck etc - SCARY how off the mark I am)... I said I'll try anything else first.
I had a personal trainer help me with my core and back muscles - but as a regular frequenter of the dreaded gym I'm normally in fairly good shape. Then I started physiotherapy a few months ago. This is not fun. All of the muscles were too tight or weak, so weekly I have my back taped into place.... and weekly, it nearly takes half my skin with it! It's a painful process, I've ached for months, and I really just can't do this anymore. Furthermore correcting my posture has just led to endless boob remarks now it looks like I'm pushing them out into people's faces by standing straight!
WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME BOOBS?! BE REASONABLE.
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July 6, 2017
Hi I've just seen your update and thought I'd say hello as I live in Cornwall and had my surgery with a Plymouth based surgeon who is amazing.
I'm wondering if you are wearing the right size as the bra in the photo looks way too small. I used to wear a 30HH/J but since my surgery I have joined Boob or Bust, an online bra fitting website which is amazing. I now realise I definitely wasn't 30HH/J and more likely a 28KK or similar. Since my surgery I am wearing 28GG or 30G, I was devistated at first as was hoping for a D cup but the online group explains that most people should be wearing a smaller band and bigger cup. There is a calculator that works out you BOB size. Apparently the average cup size is a G which is not actually very big.
I'd say give it a go as you may end up needing a much bigger cup and probably a smaller band and that will then give you more evidence when you apply for funding and also you should be more comfortable and supported in the correct size.
I didn't apply for funding and went private as my GP (who was happy to support my application) said that she has not known anyone get the funding as you have to prove your "condition" is exceptional compared to anyone else with the same problem and things like back/neck/shoulders pain, low self esteem etc won't be enough. Basically you have to say your mental health is suffering severely. At 53 I couldn't go through applying and then risk being rejected.
My surgery cost £6,000 and was worth every penny. I would say go for it, I wish I had done it when I was young, I too didn't wear bikinis and avoided anything that involved my breasts being obvious, even going swimming with my kids was horrible for me, I honestly felt like a freak as I was very slim with massively disproportionate breasts and endured endless comments and stares.
The freedom I feel now is amazing, physically and mentally.
Please feel free to ask any questions you may have. My profile is on here complete with gory photos lol.
July 6, 2017
You don't get to 25, and a 32j without knowing how to buy a bra that fits haha. bras all fit fine. I've got about 20. This just happens to be 'strapless' 32J by curvy Kate, and I took the photo to prove a point that their strapless bras ranges sizes are out - their normal bras fit 100%! ANYWAYS.
Im midway through the NHS process at the moment, and first stage was physio, photos have gone to surgeons and an approval board but it can take months - the nhs understandably have bigger priorities than boobs which I completely respect. Just a waiting game continuing physio. There's no way, in my situation, I'll manage to get 6-8k together in the next few years - sadly money rules the world hey... you've got to try.
I shall have to go and investigate your posts! Congratulations though! I bet you're absolutely chuffed! How is your scaring ? I feel like everyone is so different! Some girls have this amazing skin that seems to say goodbye to scars after 6-12 months on here ?!
August 15, 2017
Hi I live in Somerset, and had a reduction seven weeks ago, at my local Nuffield. It is possible to get an interest free loan (details on The Nuffield website), which I did, to make it more affordable. I am in my 60s, have had enormous boobs all my life, and suffered everything that goes with it. I lost a lot of weight a couple of years ago and they just headed south, so badly that I couldn't bear to look at myself in the mirror. My doctor said I wouldn't get help on the NHS, due to the current financial constraints, and advised me to consider paying for a consultation at the Nuffield, just to get an idea of what could be done, and what the cost would be. I stuck gold, when I chose my surgeon! He immediately put me at ease, because he just knew what I had been through all my life, and was so clear in explaining what he could do for me. Throughout the whole process, he has been just amazing. I saw him last week, and he was so delighted with the outcome, and how I am healing. Like many others, who use this site, I wish I had done it years ago, agree that it is worth every penny, and would say go for it. I made it through the operation, and these last seven weeks, without any real issues. I took the recommended painkillers for the first few days, but can honestly say that I have not been in pain at all. Before, during and after, I have kept to a super healthy eating plan, had no alcohol, drunk loads of filtered water, and don't smoke anyway. I really believe that this has meant that I have healed well, with no infection problems. At the seven week mark, I have two tiny scabs remaining, at the T junctions, some redness, which he said not to worry about. My breast are beginning to soften, and I'm trying on new bras this week (D cup instead of GG - wow!). My scars look really healthy and I've just started using a silicone stick twice day, to keep them from drying out. You are right, when you say that everyone is different, and there are some horrendous photos on these sites. We can only tell you about our own experience, and mine has been very positive. I feel 'normal' for the first time in my life. My clothes look so much better on me. Without the heavy weight, and the bra straps cutting into my shoulders, I don't feel like I have a bra on at all! Good luck in deciding what to do! I'm definitely a very happy bunny!!
August 15, 2017
Awwwww that's so lovely to read!!! Congratulations! Very happy for you! I will definitely look into that! Nuffield in Exeter treated me for lazer surgery back when I was a teenager with a shocking birthmark and were very lovely then too - the birthmark scars are sadly across my chest and shoulder so the giant boobs just draw attention also :( would you mind me asking the name of your surgeon? Local recommendations are always the best. I wouldn't want to travel too far! Family in Bristol so Somerset ideal
July 7, 2017
Wow, that looks very painful for your back! I'm confused about your doctor-sounds like he/she didn't think you needed a reduction, but then said you're having structural damage? I say go for it! I just got mine done almost 2 weeks ago. I'm smaller than many women on here, (32 DDD) but I had back, neck, and shoulder pain. My doc said yes immediately, and the surgeon said I was a good candidate. That's all I needed to hear! Good luck to you.
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July 7, 2017
It's a bit different when it's NHS - the funds just aren't there, so not all suitable candidates can have it :( and if they can takes years so the physio is just to try and address the issue immediately I guess
July 7, 2017
Hi I live in Birmingham and last November had a breast reduction. I was a 38H so not as big as you but I had had enough of them. I tried the NHS route with no luck, wasn't interested although my GP told me to have physio which my private healthcare paid for. This was to remove there been any other possible cause of my shoulder back ache other than my chest size. My physio confirmed that my chest size was the cause but then the GP said I would have to lose 2 stone and lower my bmi slightly. He did say it was a long process and the constraints on the NHS at the moment were so much so that chances are it wouldn't be approved. After this conversation I realised I was going to pay privately and have it done. I researched a surgeon and booked an appointment. My husband and I went to see her and she answered all my questions before I had even asked them. 4 weeks later I had the surgery and now nearly 8 months later I am completely healed. I go to the gym feel so much better. It cost me just over £7k but it's the best money I have ever spent. From the moment I woke up in recovery I had no pain at all, after a few days it could be a little uncomfortable but definitely no pain as that was my biggest fear. I was able to shower the morning after my op and every day after that as normal. Which ever way you have done via the NHS or privately, you won't regret it.
August 31, 2017
We are nearly the same age. And ive been through the same and that sports tape sucks. Its itchy and kills when taking it off ! Ive found working out properly and really good fitted bras have helped out a bit. But i still don't rule a reduction out .
Hope you are doing ok
Arnheiour
Hope you are doing ok
Arnheiour
September 1, 2017
Please, do yourself a favor and do this!! It pains me to even look at all you have to go through because nature dealt you a cruel card like this! It's bad for your health (physical & emotional)! It will mess up your back even more, and there is NO reason to suffer like this! You will be soooo much happier after. Do your research, find a respectable surgeon, and go for it. In the US it's a 2.5 hr OP, with about a week down time after. I waited all my life to have this done, and finally, age 50, I'm doing it. Because I'm just not the kind of person who would get plastic surgery, because it's major, bla bla bla. I wish I would have done it earlier!!
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33DD
BritishGirlMarch 24, 2017
So I was in Next today, and for a laugh I thought I'd try on the largest sized bralet they sell... 32DD.
I do not recall the last time I was anywhere near a DD, and even the word "bralet" makes me imagine Incredible Hulk like boobs, bursting out of one whilst the straps snap off.
Safe to say. It didn't fit ????????
Whole new meaning to the term "side boob". A literal whole, extra boob, on each side ????????
I do not recall the last time I was anywhere near a DD, and even the word "bralet" makes me imagine Incredible Hulk like boobs, bursting out of one whilst the straps snap off.
Safe to say. It didn't fit ????????
Whole new meaning to the term "side boob". A literal whole, extra boob, on each side ????????
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March 30, 2017
Hey, I have been to see my GP and have a second surgeons appointment soon. What you have to do is go in and focus on the physical, do not mention anything about how they make you feel or how they look. Say you're getting headaches, shoulders hurt, back pain, boobs rashes etc etc say you want a breast reduction and they are effecting your ability to do sport. They do 5000 reductions on the NHS a year so don't buy any Bull about them not doing any or having the funding. It is a bit of a postcode lottery sadly.
March 31, 2017
Yes they do do reductions on the NHS but my daughter was roughly the same size as this girl and they refused her. The money is tight and it is getting more and more difficult to get it done NHS. In the end we were glad we paid for it as unfortunately she got a little infected. She had to go to the hospital most days to change her dressing etc. In total she went 10 times in 3 weeks. I know she would not have got that kind of attention on the NHS. Infections can happen to anyone , it's just bad luck.
April 13, 2017
I had my reduction done privately 10 days ago. I didn't consider trying to get it done on the NHS as I know there are so many more deserving people with life threatening illnesses that NHS funds would be far better spent on than me. I chose a great surgeon and am delighted with my results. This is something I had been wanting done for 20 years and my only regret is I didn't do it sooner. I smile every time I see myself in a mirror!
July 4, 2017
FANTASTIC ! So happy for you! Did you hit the shops and buy lots of beautiful things once you were healed up? Bet you feel like a new person after so long wanting it ! Congrats! Amazing that you had that opportunity to go private - definitely sounds the way to go. Just still near impossible for me financially even years later - crazy how much more expensive than even implants reductions are?! Much longer surgery I suppose however! With regards to the comment about money well spent elsewhere however, I truely believe I've read stories where this procedure has changed people's lives - so I really think it is all case dependent. Those who are selected to have it after a rigorous decision process, definitely need it. ☺
August 31, 2017
I did the same thing. Went and tried on bras/bralettes just to see how comical it would be to look at a "regular" size.
You definitely could use a reduction with all the pain you've endured. Go for it! And extremely difficult to find a bikini that is large in cup and small in band. Panache and Freya and Curvy Kate (in the US) are the only ones I know of... and all online... cannot try on in stores.
Also... how do you remove or edit photos/comments from this site? I can't figure it out.
You definitely could use a reduction with all the pain you've endured. Go for it! And extremely difficult to find a bikini that is large in cup and small in band. Panache and Freya and Curvy Kate (in the US) are the only ones I know of... and all online... cannot try on in stores.
Also... how do you remove or edit photos/comments from this site? I can't figure it out.
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