Excessive Swelling with Revision Rhinoplasty

My initial feelings of regret and displeasure over my septorhinoplasty have only grown as my nose width has not gotten smaller. I am almost three months post op and things are not getting better. I have met with my surgeon and he downplays it all and talks about how thick my nasal bones are due to my heritage and how complex my case was. He always says “it looks better” and quickly rushes me out. I know I still have to wait at least six months but I am already debating seeing another surgeon to have a third revision. Anyone that can share their experience would be great. I’m looking for any words of reassurance.

So I’m six weeks post op and my nose is still very large. I have it taped daily and have been careful- barely exercising other than going for long walks. I am trying to remain patient (as my surgeon said it will take at least six months for lateral swelling to heal) but I find myself regretting this decision on a daily basis. I don’t see how this could all be swelling and I am terrified that my nose will remain this large. Hopeful other people have similar experiences and can tell me their timeline of swelling decreasing and outcome.

Just underwent revision rhinoplasty to correct deviated septum and remove dorsal hump/straighten bridge. Surgeon talked about the possibility of using cartilage grafts for help with bridge definition. After surgery, surgeon told me I had the worst deviated septum he had ever worked on and that he didn’t get to do as much as he had hoped in fear that my nose would collapse (so no cartilage grafts). My recovery has been brutal. I was unbelievably swollen and bruised. When the cast came off after 7 days, I cried because my nose looked so huge. I am now 2.5 weeks post op and my nose is larger than ever. My surgeon assures me that I just need to be patient and that the swelling will go down but I am terrified this isn’t all swelling. My surgeon also has not suggested for me to do any taping and/or nasal massages as he doesn’t think these will help the final result.
I am looking to see if 1) anyone has any similar experiences that they can share and what their overall outcome was, 2) whether not using cartilage grafts will affect the overall definition of my nasal bridge, and 3) whether taping and nasal massages helped with recovery.
Any input would be greatly appreciated! I am literally embarrassed to leave the house at this point and am already worried I will need a third surgery (that I truly don’t want too get).