Labiaplasty - labia minora reduced and my clitoral hood reduced a little as well. - Dallas, TX

Where did you see her photos? I just see a general gallery.

She got this procedure for herself - not for you. She's happy with it and it's not your place to condemn her and imply she is 'child like'. She's a woman who can make her own decisions. So lay off and keep your off-topic and completely irrelevant opinions to yourself.

bnwy:
First, I invite you to look up: "straw man," in something like Google or Wikipedia.

I didn't "condemn her," nor did I challenge her right or ability to "make her own decisions," I clearly stated that it is her choice.

I didn't "imply she is 'child like'," I didn't refer to her "looks" at all. I talked in general terms about "the look," never specifying her.

My comments weren't "off-topic," nor "irrelevant," my comments were specifically on topic and completely relevant. There are women out there who make decisions to do things like labiaplasty, based not on what they want, but based on misconceptions of what they 'think' other people want or like.

Read the woman's 2nd paragraph, and her quotation of her 'lover.' What if her 'lover' wanted her face to look like Michael Jackson's, and for her to have "EE" cup breast implants? Would you agree with her, would you say that she should do that? Would you advise her to do it because some man criticized her looks? No?

Well if you wouldn't advise a woman to surgically hack up her natural body because a man criticized her, then what is your argument against me? That you would advise a woman to start the hacking and amputation because some man complimented her? Or perhaps if a woman didn't like her nose, you'd support her amputating it?

What if a woman had large labia, but she didn't want labiaplasty. Would you want to force her to get the procedure against her will? If you would not want to force her, then you are allowing for the option. I am simply offering thoughts that are 'relevant' and 'on topic' to the 'option' of purely elective, and cosmetic, labiaplasty.

Women's "private parts" are supposed to be attractive to the opposite gender, not so much to a woman's self. That's the natural way. Are you anti-natural? However, as I said in my posting: "it is your vagina, and your choice, nobody else's." If you look at the very beginning of my original post, you'll see those 'exact' words. In fact I went to extra measure to be careful and sensitive, so as to avoid the "knee jerk," extremist, reactionary tirade, with which you carelessly assailed me.
You leave me wondering, we don't know each other, yet you comment with words that sound like you're attacking me and seem to be accusing me of saying the opposite of what I did say. Was that anger? Are you often angry like that? Do you consciously use prejudice to justify anger and insult? Are you using me as a whipping boy to vex your anger at someone else? A lover, a husband, your father, maybe your girlfriend? Instead of angrily striking out, sometimes it's better to look within.

If a woman made the same comments that I did, would you have reacted the same? Are you a sexist? Note: those are questions, not accusations. Your reply to my original post leaves me with no confidence that you can distinguish between the two. I'm hoping that you'll re-read my post and not judge me angrily based solely on my gender. If you approve of women making themselves less attractive to men, and more attractive to pedophiles...well, what could any reasonable person say to that?

My entire point is this: before making any permanent surgical change to their body, it's a good idea for a person to confirm that that change they're contemplating is sound, and that it will bring results that are worth desiring.

Did you lookup "straw man" yet? How about "anger management?" Maybe "reading for comprehension?"

Thank you for that post Chipcdm. I was considering having this procedure done, but wasnt sure if it was worth it. Men who watch [RS bleep] (like some of my past boyfriends) expect a woman's vagina to be just a slit and lips. I wish all men understood how a real woman should look like down there that would stop many woman from feeling so insecure about these unrealistic standards, like you said, grown everywhere else except down there. Woman really appreciate a man who can appreciate a real vagina, lips and all, you make a woman feel beautiful and comfortable everywhere and she'll be confident enough to rock your world instead of feeling insecure and unsure if you'll be turned on or off by the way her vagina, tummy, or breasts look. Next time my bf says something about a "clean" looking vagina, and how too much inner lips look disgusting, I'm going to bring up your post and stick it back to him by saying, "a real experienced man knows how a real woman's vagina looks like, not a boy who just gets his perspective based on [RS bleep]". Thanks again Chipcdm.

You couldn't have made better points, makes people who don't know what they're talking about look real stupid.

I actully like that comment Mr. & I agree

I really appreciate your post. I read through this whole thread of responses. I feel compelled to share that when I read your post, it came across without judgement or critizicism. I never thought about changing my woman parts u til I sold advertising to a vaginal reconstructive surgeon....then I started thinking about it. That's why I came here...to join the conversation. I think people were kind of hard on you. I appreciated it very much. Thank you.

Just a quick note here. I had this surgery because I've always wanted it done. No man's opinion had distinct influence and when I told my lover that I was having this done - they were completely against it.

Why does no one acknowledge male circumcision? I don't get it.

Your opinions are appreciated. Always interesting to hear another side of the story.

Cheers!

Thanks for your comment. I wanted to share my story so other women could find out more information from someone who had gone through with the procedure. I hope my experience helps others make a well informed decision.

Could you tell me who your doctor was??? PLEASE

I really appreciate your comment, Chip. I have felt so self-conscious and embarrassed by my labia ever since I saw pornographic pictures a few years ago. My husband loves my body and has only said good things (he is wonderful), but I still have felt like there's something wrong with me, especially seeing comments on the internet about other women. I was just researching a labiaplasty, and got a little scared when I saw pictures of women whose doctors actually amputated their labia. I felt so relieved reading your comment, and actually just mentioned it to my husband. He agreed with you and told me that's not something I should be worrying about. I wish that there weren't ridiculous standards for us (women AND men), standards that are so stupid and senseless and just serve to make us feel bad about ourselves.

hey bro. Im a guy too, and is great that ur shearing ur point of view with people however you cant speak for every guy, i think if they have the desire to do it why not? Some guys like it some guys dont and it has nothing to do with it looking like a little girls it is just something they like for themselves, if i told you that your balls hould be cut off case you already had kids and you dont kneed them any more would u? No right? case is not even of my busines, so why would you be an ashole to this ladies who only want to be inform, you might not think you are but they do, they had made a decicion and im shure not for any guy but becase they wanted to. A real men have to know how to be respectful to a women, now you can always give them ur point of you, just remember u have a daughter too and you wouldnt like any body treating her with disrespect when what she is looking for is suport and information would you? This ladies are scare to do this yet it means so much to them for whatever reazon that they have that they keep on moving on, all you did with your opinion was making some one feel bad and for what? They still gonna do it! But i really dont think that was your intencion and you just wanted as you said give them an other point of view, but remember that is yours not men's point of view, and be careful with your words, and if it helps, with all do respect, talk to them as if you were explaining you point of view to your daughter. To any girl reading this, dont let any body tell you that you have to do something you dont really want to or that you cant do somthing that is important to you, because if you do you will always regreat it, just never hurt your selves and be careful, you are ireplaceble, your the most beautiful things in theuniverse, more than stars more than any rose and you should be treated as so, a treasure, and altho the stereotype of a guy is less than great you should know that there are still good men out there just have to look harther and dont settle. Goes for ur little girl too bro, if any jerk doesnt treat her as you would, as a princess, make shure you kick his ass for every guy who could make her happy, cause men like that are nothing but garbage!

Some great points on here

My husband doesnt like stuff down there...he likes labia but not a huge one, he thinks it looks gross as I think the same. Just because a woman doesnt have a hanging labia doesnt mean shes a child...really a child with hair?? What on earth would make you compare a woman to a child...have to wonder what you really think about?? My husband would never say that, nor does he compare me to children, he just likes a clean looking vagina with nothing hanging out. If you look in [RS bleep] all the girls have clean neat vaginas and men LOVE it! I made my decision to get this done as well as tightening and my love life has never been better! I hate the way hanging skin looks. So if you like it well thats your opinion but please know that many men dont like it and think it looks nasty. It doesnt look good in a bathing suit having a bulge and it sure is not comfortable always pinching in your under ware and forget tight jeans! So while you may like it, many people dont so there are a lot of reasons to get this procedure done!