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My husband doesn't want me to get breast implants....
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My husband doesn't want me to get breast implants. I just had my nipples reduced in size as a compromise, but I still want to get implants. I'm a 34AA, I breast fed two babies for a year each, while breast feeding my boobs got to a size large C/small D. If I get them done when he's out of town do you think he'll know? He's never been a "boob guy" in the bedroom.
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UPDATED FROM WantedOldMe
6 months pre
I'll give you a little more insight to the situation
Thanks for all your comments. I wanted to let you know that I have had several conversations with my Hubby about getting BA for some time. He knows I am serious. Over the last several months I have had consults with four PS and my husband was invited to everyone of those consults but declined. He said "I really don't want you to get them, I don't support it, but I'm not going to tell you 'don't to do it'". So, I figured, ok then I'm doing it anyway. I picked my PS, scheduled the surgery. About fours days preop he totally freaked out realizing I was actually going through with it. He said "I think women are pathetic who get BA, it shows such a sense of insecurity, you need therapy, I won't be attracted to you anymore, I'm going to call my (senior citizen) mother and see what she thinks (he never did), blah, blah, blah." So, I cancelled the BA, however went ahead with the Nipple Reduction, and hernia repair. He will never change his mind, I just know it. I only want my pre breast feeding boobs back. I don't want DD's. My PS said they will look natural and only a trained eye would know they weren't real. I've told my husband all of this, it hasn't budged him one bit. I almost believe he wouldn't know if I did it anyway. I would wear high neck T-shirts until they have healed. We always shower on different schedules, when we have sex if I don't take my bra or shirt off he never does it for me. He's never been into my boobs during sex, we always do it [RS bleep], always. (Probably WAY too much info). We have a few kids so its not like we get around to doing it much anyway. I always wear padded bras from VS that add 2 cup sizes, so as long as I wear unpadded bras after surgery they won't look any different in clothes. In fact, I borrowed a set of 200 cc implants from my doctor and have been wearing them for several days in a sports bra and he hasn't noticed and neither has anyone else. I told him I am planning to go on birth control and hopefully that will increase my breast size. Obviously eventually he will see my naked breasts and hopefully by then it will have been long enough that he will have forgotten how they used to look (since he was never interested in them anyway). So ladies, there is my case! Am I crazy or will it work?
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May 23, 2013
He will most definatly know, and if not than obviously you need to goto marriage counseling cause he doesn't pay attention to you!!! Trust me darling you need that support from your husband, and everyone else for that matter!!! You carried and raised children for your husband and you need to get him to understand that you aren't doing of making this decision for him or anyone else.... This is for you!!! Obviously you have insecurities hahaha we all do otherwise we wouldn't be making the trek of getting plastic surgery to fix our breasts!!! Maybe he's insecure about things, remember that this is your body and your decision!!!! It would be great to have him on board with it, but do we live in a perfect world?? NO!!!! I'm sorry you are having these feelings of wanting to hide them!!! And we are sorry that your husband isn't with you on this but you need to think about what's best for you, you only have one life, make use of it!!!!
Good luck and keep us all posted
May 24, 2013
Yep, unfortunately I have to agree. It'd be pretty tough to hide them - plus the fact that you really will need some help and support for at least a few days if not a couple weeks. Even if you go with smaller implants, it's still surgery.. Good luck with whatever you decide!!
May 26, 2013
I am finding this whole story somewhat disturbing. I did not consult my husband to do any work on my body or face. I have had my eyelids done (uppers and lowers) and my (overworked/breastfeeding boobs) breast slightly augmented (240/270cc's) last month. He knew I was going to do it - but it's my body, it's my money and most importantly - it's how I feel about MYSELF. It has nothing to do with him. Not then and not now. Do you feel you need his blessings and go-ahead to do this? Is his approval pivotal to your decision? Maybe start there.
June 4, 2013
I can kind of see where he might be coming from. Maybe even though he isn't a "boob man", he still doesn't want other people looking at you and finding you attractive with them. I also think he probably doesn't understand at all what size you are wanting to have them be. I'm not sure if there is much use in keeping trying to get his approval or have him be ok with it, there is a good chance he might not ever come around to the idea. I do think you need to do what is best for you though and since it is your body, you have the ultimate say so in what happens with it. It sounds like some marriage counseling before and after you have surgery might help, but if it were me, I would probably do it if he wanted it done or not. I think it would be nice to hear why exactly he doesn't want it done, but that will probably not help you change your mind, maybe it will help you work thru the problem though. Good luck!
January 20, 2015
Wow, I'm sorry I have a husband issue but its different in the sense I know he wants me to have a BA but he wont admit it but he isn't pressuring me at all But if I act ad though I'm waffling he gets very encouraging oddly enough this makes me feel terrible. more self conciliation about my breasts
UPDATED FROM WantedOldMe
3 days pre
Hubby is pissed! Surgery set for 11/7
Ladies, I'm freaking out!!! Surgery is Thursday 1pm. 213cc, silicone, armpit incision, under muscle. I'm nervous something will go wrong, or they'll be too big, or too small. My biggest freak out is regarding my DH. He thinks I'm vain, selfish, insecure. So frustrated! I don't want to ruin my marriage but it's my body!
Just ranting!
Just ranting!
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November 5, 2013
No way to hide it. I would not have advised it, anyway:) Perhaps reassure your DH about how much you would like to feel good about your body and then it will make your relationship better? I know that sounds strange, but the better you feel about yourself, the better your family life will be. There is another poster here that had issues with her husband (at first), and from what she posted recently, he loves her new breasts now and is supportive. I believe it is Countrylife07. Check out her review.
November 6, 2013
Wow, I don't even know what to tell you. I don't know if I would go ahead with it, if it was going to ruin my marriage.
November 6, 2013
If a man won't be supportive and compassionate when his wife pursues her dreams and better self-esteem, then he appears to be a selfish, controlling jerk.... Something like this shouldn't "ruin" a whole marriage! If it does, then was is based on the right things anyway? Love, selflessness, support, kindness, etc? Sounds like he's very jealous that you might get some male attention from elsewhere because you will look so hot! Is he jealous and insecure and controlling otherwise?
November 6, 2013
Well I told him 100% I'm doing it tomorrow. We will have to agree to disagree and grow through it. Things are a little tense but we will be fine. He'll get over it sooner than he thinks when he sees how natural the results look.
Excited and nervous now.
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I would have to agree with the other women in the community, that yes, your husband will definitely notice implants fairly quickly. :) Perhaps if you share with him your "wish boobs" he will realize you're just seeking something natural and nothing over the top. Perhaps he is more concerned about you undergoing surgery? Maybe he'll get used to the idea over time. Thank you for sharing on RealSelf...we'll be looking forward to your updates!