Having a Facelift

Hi lovely realself members.
I'm writing this here because I have decided not to tell anyone at all about my surgery. I am scheduled for surgery (full facelift, with fat grafting) in 3 weeks now and I am both very excited and very nervous.
I am 56 years old, and like many up until 2 years ago had aged very well.
It just seemed after that time my face became hollow and droopy...suddenly. I still have my occasional "good days" but they are few and far between...that is what aging is like, mostly, I think, the "good days" become fewer and further between.
Anyway, 2 years ago I really started to notice jowling and the changing shape of my face from heart shaped to square, from looking mostly pleasant, to looking mostly tired. This in turn affected my confidence and I have noticed that I no longer enjoy socialising the way I used to. Aging is ok, looking tired and grumpy is not!
2 years ago I had 2 each side (4) sillhouette soft threads put in my face, I knew at the time it was a short term thing but I was really so depressed about how I looked, and this did give me a noticable improvement which lasted about a year. For the money, though, if you are considering threads I would say if you can save the money and get a full lift. I also had some voluma to my cheeks and that has held up well, worth the investment.
I would have had the facelift then if I could have, but I did not have the available time or $ to go ahead. I am so very very grateful that now I do.
I have kept it all a secret and will continue to do so as I have found people love to gossip and also can be very judgmental. About ten years ago I said to my sister (who spends on expensive skin care, teeth straightening, and is a retired ICU nurse) that when the time came I would get a lift. Her response was - that she would laugh at me. Even the GP doctor I got my referral from was judgemental about my decision and the money I was spending on it. I'm sure if it had been a car nothing would have been said!
I guess I am writing this because although I feel very sure about my decision it is a bit of a lonely decision - when you think that people who know you would think it was crazy if they knew....but I know people who spend and spend renovating their houses and buying fancy cars and yet do nothing about their face....this I cannot understand! Each to their own I guess.
I will update as I go. Will also post some pics if I get brave enough. Thanks for reading. :)
ps: Dr Gerarchi is very easy to talk to and extremely thorough. There was no hard sell and he listened to exactly what my concerns were.

So excited but so nervous too...
I had ulthera six months ago and am posting some pics. It was not right for me. While I can see it lifted under my chin a bit, it also made the skin a lot more " stringy" .
I keep thinking about all the reasons that bring us to this point, of going under the knife. The loss of identity that aging brings. And the social isolation. And how wonderful it is to be able to do something about it.