23 Year Old Considering Rhinoplasty - Argh Should I Do This? - Chatswood, AU

Thank you :) I really appreciate that insight. I'm sorry that youve had a bad experience, i pray that everything will work out. It's so difficult knowing what to do, but i think I need to have a good think and really consider the risks and whether theyre worth it..i think they may not be worth it. What went wrong with your surgery? was it the surgeon's fault or?

Oh wow, thank you, thank you. I cant believe all of this support i am getting. I greatly appreciate your knowledge and kind words. I;m so happy for you that you made that choice, shows how much self love you have, which is something I wish everyone had. I think i am just the type to think about people's comments too much, and then I believe their words and beat myself down for it. it's so damaging. I still do think that my nose can be improved, but I;m not sure if surgery is worth it. the risks are real and i think it could be a mistake..but I just dont know, i;m confused at the moment. youre such a sweety for sharing your experience with me and being so kind. i thank you so much

I agree. Do not have a serious surgical procedure unless it is life threatening. These doctors play on you dreams of "Beauty" but, trust me, an unnecessary surgical procedure is going to cause you a world of physical and emotional hurt in the long run IF IT IS NOT BROKE DO NOT FIX IT. AND EVEN IF IT IS BROKEN, be careful who you choose to repair it.

Do not do this!!! Especially if you are unsure of yourself. These doctors play on your sense of perfection, and trust me, if you find an unethical one (even if they are board certified) you can become deformed for life Trust me, it happened to me. Now my life is more miserable than it was before and my self confidence will never be attainable because I am deformed. and it cannot be fixed. This is like a bad haircut that never grows out Trust Mr. Think twice about surgery. It will change you and you will never be the same. Don't make a mistake you will regret for the rest of your life like I did think about it. I cannot even look at my own face in the mirror (something that every person takes for granted every day) I have no sense of self or self worth. I only see the rrepairable damage this doctor did to me . It never goes away. It never gets better and my life is a living nightmare every single day. Look at the permission slip that you sign before this procedure it says that the doctor and the hospital are not responsible for deformity So, if something goes wrong, that is it No repair, no escape nothing but humiliation and shame You think you felt bad before, well now your life is a living hell with absolutely no hope of repair or fixing what is wrong Even to accidentally glimpse your reflection in a window or to be on facebook or family or vacation pictures is a nightmare, because you cannot stand looking at your own face So think twice about cosmetic procedures. Things usually don"t go wrong BUT what happened to me could happen to you too

Thank you, I think you;re absolutely right, that's what he said..they difference would be small. But i think that was because he wouldnt be willing to make it smaller than what he proposed (which wasnt much). He said if he made it any smaller I would look Asian and it wouldnt suit my face. I might still get a second opinion, i'm just scared now about the risks I keep hearing about, i dont know if it is worth it. confused at the moment. Thank you for your support xx.

Thank you :) I think I may have come across as someone who could not be negotiated with (which isnt the case) but I showed him pics of Jess Alba and said that is what I;m looking for. He said he cant do that. He did show me what he can do, but he said the difference from my current nose would be almost unnoticeable and not worth the risks. He said he would only (maybe) consider me as a patient if I drastically lower my expectations. He then stood up, which meant the meeting was over. I was in shock so I didnt say anything. I was disappointed because he didnt even allow me to discuss it. I think youre absolutely right about the tip refinement, i was thinking about it today and I think that's what I need and what I am looking for - I just needed him to provided guidance but he didnt. I respect him and am thankful that he is protective of his patients (and his reputation) so I dont hold anything against him. I just needed him to educate me and tell me what is possible and what my thoughts are.. maybe a phone call is what I need to do. Maybe i do have self image issues.. I still do think that my nose can be improved..so confused at the moment. What do you think of my before and after photos i did?

Hey sorry for late reply but I kind of understand where he is coming from. Surgeons will typically turn down those who seem to have high expectations or fixation on looking a certain way. That is because the change they do is permanent and do not want to make someone traumatised with being unhappy with the way they look. Essentially they don't want someone to say I want 'the perfect nose' they want to hear ' is like to enhance what I have' does that make sense?

Thats a great idea, I'll do that. I do hope to go to another consult, but unfortunately that means another 5+ weeks of waiting to possibly be told that my nose is ok and it cant be changed.. arghh. Thank you for your support. He claims to perform the most rhinoplasties in Aus every year, so he is pretty experienced. I would change the tip mostly, and also the width..the width and projection are too much i think. I'll post a pic so you know what i mean and if you have time let me know if I'm totally off? xx

Why get a surgical procedure for " beauty". These people are not true physicians.

I cant thank you enough for your kind words, it means alot especially being that i havent told my friends about my intentions and so Im thankful for your support and advice. The vain issue is difficult being that I'm Christian and i'm in conflict with myself, and not wanting to place importance on outer beauty..but I want to be confident..its been holding me back for a while now. I have done research and Dr Shahidi is one of the best in Sydney. Now being that he doesnt consider me a good candidate (probably because of my unrealistic expectations), I may go see Dr Tobias Pincock in Sydney, he seems good too. I might be in a better position this time round to better communicate my goals. I did show Dr Shahidi pics of Jess Alba, but he basically said its not possible..fair enough. You're right, surgery is irreversible..it's a scary leap to take, but I do think now that I want to go forward. I used an app before to do before and afters of what I want, this what you can see what I want..I should take this to my next consult i guess. Youre so sweet, thank you. I hope your complications are not too serious? take good rest and dont stress, it will be fine xx

And you're totally right, thinking of it now, not everyone suits the same shaped nose..I realise that now, so I cant expect to get what i ask for.

I've had a lot of trouble with wanting to be more confident and not wanting to be vain. The harsh truth is that even though I'm not a shallow person I want what's considered a shallow, selfish surgery. But selfish isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as it's not hurting anyone else and it's right for you. I did this for me and had to come to terms with the fact that yes, I'm hurting my body and yes, it's a physical change. This summer I plan on working on my inner AND outer beauty. :) Our society can be quite shallow and vain and it's unfortunate that people get treated differently depending on how they look. But in the end... do what is right for you. My complications were treatable, they're more tiring and frustrating/slightly painful than anything. My doc wasn't able to do everything I wanted for my nose, because A) It wouldn't suit my face B) My nose would collapse (not enough cartlidge) C) Some of it is facial structure and not anything to do with the nose. However, we did get a lot that I wanted done, and it's important to know that even in very beautiful faces, there is always some degree of asymmetrical. I see my lopsided swollen nostrils right now and just laugh, it's something that I can be amused at for now and later on it will be better. It sounds like you're not wanting to place important on outer beauty, but in this world even first appearances count. It sucks but it's not a perfect world. It sounds like you have inner beauty because you even question that and you're so sweet in your response. Focus hard on your inner beauty, and if the surgery helps you feel better about yourself, great :) Most people don't look at our faces as much as we do (I have a friend who had a rhinoplasty and no one noticed, just thought she lost weight or something). You should expect to still look like yourself, but with some improvement. Good luck and thanks for responding. :)

Dr Pain (not kidding about the name) made my life a living nightmare by botching every part of my rhinoplasty, which caused me permanent physical damage to my face which cannot be repaired

Do not do it. God made you perfect. Trust me, do not go against God to please "society". You will be sorry when you get older and your bone and cartilidhe structure has been torn down by "surgeons" you will be in a world of physical and emotional pain later in life. Then the surgeons will want to "fix" what they tore down. They call it a touch up and it is a big addictive money game to them don't do it do not get caught up in this addictive cycle. You will lose all sense of yourself in order to gain "perfection" which does not exist on this planet. Cosmetic and plastic surgeons are an evil force on this planet please trust me that I am telling you the truth. In Jesus name what I am saying is true Trust me, what I say is TRUE.

Wow I really didnt expect this much support. Almost in tears, thank you for caring and helping me. I feel silly saying this, it's so trivial in the scheme of things, but his response was a shock. You seem really beautiful and I hope that your surgery is just what you need. I think that's where I went wrong, my expectations were all wrong. But he want interested in waiting for me to respond, he simply said "Change your expectations or don't have the surgery" and then he sat up and opened the door. It was a bit harsh..I wish he had been willing to talk to me more..not talk at me. Those are really good questions. Thank you dearly and I'm wishing you a speedy recovery xx.

I consulted with several surgeons before I had mine done. With one of them, he did a morph of my nose, where it looked VERY nice and the bulbousness was gone (my main concern), but the nose itself was still very long. He told me this is what we can expect realistically. When I went to my second consult and showed him the pictures the first surgeon morphed for me, the second surgeon said "thats way too conservative, we can do better if you are interested in a more dramatic result." My point is - every surgeon is different. Some specialize in tweaks, some do more dramatic transformations, find one who is reputable and will give you what you want. It helps to adjust your expectations, but it also helps to hear what others have to say!

Thanks for sharing :):) I've read up on Dr Pincock and he seems really good as well. I'm glad you went with your instincts and opted for a doctor you feel comfortable with, I think that's important. Dr Shahidi also has experience in the US, he has colleagues he works with there which is good. I've read a few good reviews on him, so I'll see what I think on Friday when I see him. So happy that you had literally zero bruising! That's really good. I hope you recover really quickly and you are loving the results. Thank you for your suggestions and help, really appreciate it. I'm not sure what to tell my friends and family, I've been open with my mum but that's it, I think I'll figure it out when I get to it. I don't want to be vain either, I don't think I am, I have just been bothered by this for ages and my confidence suffers. Thanks heaps! :):)