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Tummy Tuck 39 yo mum, small vertical scar, stretched skin from pregnancy, muscle repair
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I'm about 90% sure I'm having a tummy tuck, but I...
WORTH IT$13,000
I'm about 90% sure I'm having a tummy tuck, but I need to book my appointment and commit. I have my days where I think I'm being crazy for considering spending that much money on something that no one really sees, but then other days, when I'm working out in my sports bra and seeing the extra skin hanging down during push ups, I'm 1000% sure I want it done.
I never really wore bikinis or showed my belly, even before I had kids and stretched skin, and really right now, the main reason it bugs me is when I'm having sex with my husband, or getting changed at the swimming pool. My husband is extremely supportive and finds me sexy the way I am, but I hate seeing that loose hanging skin. It's distracting for me.
Anyways, I'm still in the flip flopping stage, but I am pretty sure I will do it.
My worries right now include: getting the time off work without anyone knowing why. And the timing, because I am busy with trips until November. Another worry is lifting my toddler, who is 2. I also worry a little bit about explaining this to my daughter.
I never really wore bikinis or showed my belly, even before I had kids and stretched skin, and really right now, the main reason it bugs me is when I'm having sex with my husband, or getting changed at the swimming pool. My husband is extremely supportive and finds me sexy the way I am, but I hate seeing that loose hanging skin. It's distracting for me.
Anyways, I'm still in the flip flopping stage, but I am pretty sure I will do it.
My worries right now include: getting the time off work without anyone knowing why. And the timing, because I am busy with trips until November. Another worry is lifting my toddler, who is 2. I also worry a little bit about explaining this to my daughter.
UPDATED FROM LilouB
3 months pre
Now worried it won't be worth it.
So, I've been given possible surgery dates, but now have this new fear. What if it fixes my loose skin, and gives me a flat belly, but not on my upper abdomen? When I hold my tummy in, it's quite flat as it is. When I let go and relax everything, my belly sticks out quite a bit, especially in the upper belly area. Does this mean that if I have the surgery, I'll have to still hold my stomach in? I was hoping for a flat belly, and not having to worry about "holding it in" anymore. What's the reality of a post TT belly? I worry I've been making it out to be this miracle fix, and that it won't be worth it.
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October 11, 2017
Exact same feelings
Are you going to do it ?
I'm schedule to do a mini TT in November I just have so much mixed emotions just like you!!
October 11, 2017
Yes, I think I'm going to do it. I am going to try and stay realistic about the results. In the end, I know it's going to remove the saggy, wrinkly skin I have, which was my main concern. I really hope your surgery goes well. I think I'm doing mine in January.
October 11, 2017
Thanks for the response
Do you need muscle repair , too ? You don't look like you have a lot of skin for a full TT
You look like you are fit and exercise not fat just some skin
My belly is very similar to yours and I don't qualify for a full TT .
Do you need muscle repair , too ? You don't look like you have a lot of skin for a full TT
You look like you are fit and exercise not fat just some skin
My belly is very similar to yours and I don't qualify for a full TT .
November 10, 2017
I do have some muscle repair needed. I didn’t discuss a mini TT, but my skin has a lot of stretch marks, even above my belly button so maybe that’s why?
UPDATED FROM LilouB
2 months pre
Pulled the trigger but still worrying.
Well I actually did it, I booked my surgery date and paid my deposit. Looks like it’s really happening. I’m still a bit in disbelief that I’m going through with it. Still having doubts and questioning whether it’s the right decision, but I’m putting one foot in front of the other and going for it.
I’ve been wondering if it’s a silly thing for me to care about what my stomach looks like. I’ve never been a bikini person, could always wear Spanx if I had a tighter fitting outfit, my husband swears he doesn’t care. Will all this money and pain, and the large scar be worth it? Will my stomach just go back after ten years? Am I sending a bad message to my kids? Will my friends think less of me? Will people be able to tell my stomach is fake? What’s the point when I’m going to be an older lady soon anyways? Aren’t I not supposed to care about my appearance that much past a certain age? I know some of these thoughts are ridiculous but I’m just being honest. So many thoughts swirling around.... even morbid ones, like am I going to be one of the rare people who die from a tummy tuck? Is it worth putting my kids’ future at risk over a cosmetic procedure?
Ahhhhh! So you can see, things are not settled and calm for me. Yet forward I go.
Thank goodness for the holiday season being just around the corner. Lots of distractions to keep my mind from going into overdrive.
I’ve been wondering if it’s a silly thing for me to care about what my stomach looks like. I’ve never been a bikini person, could always wear Spanx if I had a tighter fitting outfit, my husband swears he doesn’t care. Will all this money and pain, and the large scar be worth it? Will my stomach just go back after ten years? Am I sending a bad message to my kids? Will my friends think less of me? Will people be able to tell my stomach is fake? What’s the point when I’m going to be an older lady soon anyways? Aren’t I not supposed to care about my appearance that much past a certain age? I know some of these thoughts are ridiculous but I’m just being honest. So many thoughts swirling around.... even morbid ones, like am I going to be one of the rare people who die from a tummy tuck? Is it worth putting my kids’ future at risk over a cosmetic procedure?
Ahhhhh! So you can see, things are not settled and calm for me. Yet forward I go.
Thank goodness for the holiday season being just around the corner. Lots of distractions to keep my mind from going into overdrive.
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November 30, 2017
Exact same feelings
I feel the same way , when is your surgery ? Mine is in March
I can’t believe how we can both have same feelings !!
November 30, 2017
You are not alone please keep me posted .
My belly looks so much like yours too .
My belly looks so much like yours too .
November 30, 2017
Oh really? I find there aren’t a ton of bellies that look like mine, so I am always so interested in the before and afters when I do find one.
December 12, 2017
I understand completely. The fear of judgement and the self-judgement kept me from doing this surgery for a LONG time! Like you, I didn't have a "dramatic" starting point and I wasn't sure if it would be worth trading the scar(s) for the wrinkles. My husband was also totally happy with my pre-surgery body -- I'm so glad because that meant I really had to consider what *I* wanted and whether it was something I should go through with. I'm 1 month post op now and I'm so glad I finally did it. My end result won't be perfect, but I already feel so much better. I know it didn't matter to anyone else, and like you, I'm not exactly a beach bum in my 20's and I considered long and hard what my surgery would convey to my child. Ultimately I decided it was better for her to see me feeling self-confident. (I didn't explain my surgery was for aesthetic reasons either... though I'm sure we'll have that conversation as she gets older). Try to make peace with your decision because I'm so GLAD I went through with it - even with the feelings of guilt attached!
January 5, 2018
Dee512tx, wow thanks so much for your thoughtful reply. You are a wise woman and I appreciate the advice.
January 5, 2018
February 5, 2018
My dear we older ladies also care about our appearance! I am 65 and had my TT January 18. So far things are great love it. If I had the money after I had my fourth child I would have done it then! Indulge for yourself and enjoy it for the rest of your life! I certainly am going to!
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