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Extended TT and Breast Reduction...44 Year Old Mom of Twins & Singleton Ready to Look on the Outside the Way I Feel Inside
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I went through 8 years of fertility treatments...
WORTH IT$18,000
I went through 8 years of fertility treatments prior to the successful pregnancy and birth of my twins. I delivered via C-Section. I found out I was expecting again when my twins were 3 month old (naturally and just one time!) I know. I delivered my third child via C-Section exactly 355 days after my first one.
Fast forward 10 years. Add life after 40 and try as I might I just can't love my body the way it is. I knew I wanted a tummy tuck soon after the birth of my children. Time needless to say, was not a luxury I could afford, nor did we have time help or money to proceed. I am now at the time in my life where we can afford to proceed with my procedures and have the help that we need to keep the house running without me for a while. I have an amazing husband is very supportive and also looks forward to these changes. I don't expect to be model perfect however I would love to feel more confident both naked and clothed. I have always tried to take care of myself, eaten fairly well (I love my sweets), but carry weight on my butt and thighs. I want to look on the outside the way I feel on the inside.
I would love to have liposuction on my thighs and a neck lift also. My surgeon says that the liposuction is too much to do with a tummy tuck and breast reduction. He suggests waiting and see what the results are after the other procedures that will also include some liposuction.
I currently have pendulous breasts and wear anywhere from a 38DD-38E depending on the make of the bra. I know I need some boobs to go with my booty. My PS says a full C to a D. I am fine with this as long as they are fuller at the top and not just saggy smaller breasts.
I am thinking that it would be more effective with the 6 weeks that I have taken off to have a neck lift/chin implant done so I can heal from that surgery in the time frame I am off. Has anyone else done this? I am mortified to post these pictures. I realize we are all here for help and information so I am just going to go for it. Thanks for listening.
Fast forward 10 years. Add life after 40 and try as I might I just can't love my body the way it is. I knew I wanted a tummy tuck soon after the birth of my children. Time needless to say, was not a luxury I could afford, nor did we have time help or money to proceed. I am now at the time in my life where we can afford to proceed with my procedures and have the help that we need to keep the house running without me for a while. I have an amazing husband is very supportive and also looks forward to these changes. I don't expect to be model perfect however I would love to feel more confident both naked and clothed. I have always tried to take care of myself, eaten fairly well (I love my sweets), but carry weight on my butt and thighs. I want to look on the outside the way I feel on the inside.
I would love to have liposuction on my thighs and a neck lift also. My surgeon says that the liposuction is too much to do with a tummy tuck and breast reduction. He suggests waiting and see what the results are after the other procedures that will also include some liposuction.
I currently have pendulous breasts and wear anywhere from a 38DD-38E depending on the make of the bra. I know I need some boobs to go with my booty. My PS says a full C to a D. I am fine with this as long as they are fuller at the top and not just saggy smaller breasts.
I am thinking that it would be more effective with the 6 weeks that I have taken off to have a neck lift/chin implant done so I can heal from that surgery in the time frame I am off. Has anyone else done this? I am mortified to post these pictures. I realize we are all here for help and information so I am just going to go for it. Thanks for listening.
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October 30, 2015
I felt the same about posting pictures. Good for you! You have a great shape I think you're going to look great after!
October 30, 2015
Thank you for the positive reinforcement. It's nice to talk to others going through the same thing :)
UPDATED FROM Mots
1 month pre
Taking One Step at a Time/Happy with Quick Response from Dr. Brown
I emailed Dr. Brown in regard to his opinion about my neck lift and the possibility of doing it while I am recuperating from the TT and BR. I have to say that I am very happy with the quick response from him. I am also happy that he is not just interested in making money and more concerned about the health of his patients. He explained that doing surgeries so close together increase the possibility of deep vein thrombosis. Fine. Enough said for me.
I think that I am just so relieved and excited to finally be getting this done that I am thinking "lets just do it all". I need to step back and take things one small step at a time.
Has anyone had liposuction of the thighs after a TT and BL? How long in between surgeries? I know this is one area that I can lose my weight so I am going to get bump up exercising and walking.
I think that I am just so relieved and excited to finally be getting this done that I am thinking "lets just do it all". I need to step back and take things one small step at a time.
Has anyone had liposuction of the thighs after a TT and BL? How long in between surgeries? I know this is one area that I can lose my weight so I am going to get bump up exercising and walking.
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UPDATED FROM Mots
1 month pre
Yikes! One month today...
Oh my gosh...one Month today and I will be recovering from my surgery. I am super excited but at the same timeI feel my first ball of nervous anxiety in my stomach. This is getting real. How many people battle with themselves over whether or not they are being too vain and selfish over this. How many people actually wonder if they might die and leave their children without a Mom. Maybe I just have some crazy emotions going on right now but I can't be alone can I?
I am eating a lot of goodies right now which is NOT good! I am totally an emotional eater and all of this Halloween candy is not doing me a good. Am I secretly trying to sabotage myself because I don't think I am worthy? Good Lord
I do not know! I wish I had someone I could talk to that was going through the same thing as I am right now.
I'll gtry to get a good night sleep tonight and hope things will look better in the morning.
I am eating a lot of goodies right now which is NOT good! I am totally an emotional eater and all of this Halloween candy is not doing me a good. Am I secretly trying to sabotage myself because I don't think I am worthy? Good Lord
I do not know! I wish I had someone I could talk to that was going through the same thing as I am right now.
I'll gtry to get a good night sleep tonight and hope things will look better in the morning.
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October 31, 2015
Wow, we are in the same boat! I am a 44 year old mom of 3 and I am having a tummy tuck and a breast lift on the same day as you, November 30th. I think we have selected the perfect date, two weeks of feeling hellish while the kids are still in school, then a few weeks at home for Christmas with lots of family and friends to lay low and watch movies with.
Now that I have decided to have the surgery I loathe my tummy! I do a few kickboxing classes a week where I have to stare at myself in the mirror and I can't stop thinking about how much better I am going to look when I don't look like I am weeks away from delivering a baby!
I have struggled with the vanity question and taking time and resources away from my family, not to mention the risk. However I think it will be really worth it. I have read a ton of the real self reviews and am encouraged by how happy people are with their results.
I was happy to read your post and I wish you the best of luck! Keep in touch if you want, we can share war stories! So far only my sisters, my husband and my kids know what I am up they are supportive of what I am doing but I think they are tired of hearing about the process.
Now that I have decided to have the surgery I loathe my tummy! I do a few kickboxing classes a week where I have to stare at myself in the mirror and I can't stop thinking about how much better I am going to look when I don't look like I am weeks away from delivering a baby!
I have struggled with the vanity question and taking time and resources away from my family, not to mention the risk. However I think it will be really worth it. I have read a ton of the real self reviews and am encouraged by how happy people are with their results.
I was happy to read your post and I wish you the best of luck! Keep in touch if you want, we can share war stories! So far only my sisters, my husband and my kids know what I am up they are supportive of what I am doing but I think they are tired of hearing about the process.
November 4, 2015
Hmmm...I wrote a nice long reply, argh...I don't know what happened. I will send a message in the morning.
November 5, 2015
AAAAHH count down is on 25 days for me! I am making my entire family go in and get flu shots this week. The last thing I want is for myself or someone in the house to be sick while I am trying to take care of myself and heal. I have my pre-op on the 18th and my husband is going in with me.
I am having a hard time deciding if I want a lift or a lift with implants. I am worried about just doing just the lift and going through all the healing and expense just to have smaller breasts. At my age I am not looking to have them spilling out of a swim suit or a party dress (LOL). I am a decent size C now but would not want to go smaller. I am 5'7 with an athletic build so B's would look funny.
I hope you are doing well and looking forward (as much as you can) to your procedure!
I am having a hard time deciding if I want a lift or a lift with implants. I am worried about just doing just the lift and going through all the healing and expense just to have smaller breasts. At my age I am not looking to have them spilling out of a swim suit or a party dress (LOL). I am a decent size C now but would not want to go smaller. I am 5'7 with an athletic build so B's would look funny.
I hope you are doing well and looking forward (as much as you can) to your procedure!
November 5, 2015
Hi, I am having my op at the end of November 2015. Yes I have considered the surgical risks and the reality of this. I am a mum of 3 including twins and have waited until the children were settled at school before going for a full TT. I was in part, able to ignore the look of my bulging very wrinkly tummy (sort of compartmentalised it) but not the lack of function and strength in my body. I am trying to stay positive and this website is amazing for information and support. I applaud the people that are having to make some tough choices. I am trying my best to eat clean for the lead up to my surgery ( I am sure I can smell sugar from the kids Halloween treats) , boost my immune system and give myself the best chance of recovery. I understand the 'worthy' sentiment, I never enjoy spending money on myself at the expense of the family budget. So to pay them back I am going to be as positive as I can, eat well for good health and when ready work on my fitness/rehab. I hope this will make it i.e. the price and the pain, all pay off. I think from what many people say about the healing, you really have to manage your expectations, some seem to bounce back really quickly but I am looking at this as a 18month journey. I think it is normal to have ups and downs with your emotions pre and post surgery, so I am going to learn meditation with Headspace during my recovery. The people who have shared their experiences on this website are very generous and I am soooo grateful, I really feel am I making informed decisions because of it. My kids weirdly love my tummy, but I am ready to trade it in for smiley scar! I have not told them yet, I will nearer the time. Good luck, let's hope we are all welcoming in a Happy New Year. And yes you are worth it!!!
November 24, 2015
Thank you for your comment and words of support. It is so helpful to be able to share these experiences with someone who understands how you are feeling and what you are going through. All the best
November 19, 2015
Everything will be okay, you are in good hands! I had my Ttuck done with him and it's great! Planning for a breast A. Too :) your gonna love the new you! No you are not being selfish ;)
November 23, 2015
Thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. I have been following you on Realself. You look amazing (but to me you looked amazing before). Good for you. I will continue to follow your story. I really can't wait. I wish this week would go by already. :)
Thank you for sharing your story, and your photos. You are not alone in your feelings about sharing them, but they'll be so great to have afterwards! I hope you find support as well as answers to your questions here.