Some have openly told me they do not support breast implants. I wished I hadn't gained (and lost) 65 pounds for each of my 3 pregnancies (doing this 3 times in just 4 years) but I did. It has been a difficult emotional & physical transition for me to go from loving my body before having kids to hating it since having kids. I have told a few close family members about my tummy tuck next week so that they can help after, but both have said that they would not be in support of my having a "boob job." The problem is, I am having that too. How do I tell them?
How do I tell my family about my decision to get a mommy makeover? (photos)
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Telling the family
I appreciate that you are in a difficult position, but the fact is that this is your body and your decision. You are having this done to feel better about yourself, not to please others. We all deserve to feel good about ourselves. There is no shame in that. Know that you are not obligated to tell them anything about your surgery. If you do choose to tell them, let them know that this is something that you are doing for yourself- as some women get massages, pedicure or dye their hair. It is not right for them to judge. Also know that some are against breast augmentation because they are not educated about it and feel it is dangerous. If that is the reason in this case, encourage them to learn more about it.
It is your decision
you should get a huge improvement from your surgeries and this should mean a great sense of self confidence etc. you may want to talk with a therapist to help you deal with this difficult issue.however, be wary of letting them talk you out of anything since that may cause you to resent them and feel hard on yourself for giving it.
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Mommy make-over - how to tell my family
- Your family - much as you may love them - have no right and no need to know what you do to your body.
- They have no right to say what is right or wrong for you to do.
- Your family sounds judgmental - so...
- How to deal with this? Do not reveal what surgery you have done.
- Tell them you are having necessary surgery to repair the body damage of pregnancy which was severe, affected your entire body and the details are private.
- If they comment on your breasts - tell them you are very swollen from surgery.
- If you have pain, tell them the tummy tuck routinely causes chest and abdomen pain.
- If you have implants, just leave the bra on - there is no need for dressing changes.
- Wear loose pyjamas and a bathrobe when they are around.
- Be sure your surgeon and your surgeon's office know to reveal NO surgical details to your family.
- Always see a Board Certified Plastic Surgeon. Best wishes - Elizabeth Morgan MD PHD FACS