How to make the eyes appear smaller ?
The answer depends on exactly what is causing the eyes to appear big. If the eyelids are retracted (too open), then eyelid surgery would help. If the eyes are too bulgy, then orbital decompression might be the answer. Need to see photos. Best to see an oculoplastic surgeon.
It is just impossible to remotely know what your concerns are without a photograph.
If you are too embarrassed to post a photograph, you will probably need to personally consult with several oculoplastic surgeons. Generally controlling eyelid shape requires eyelids surgery. This might represent ptosis surgery, canthal surgery, or other procedures depending on what precisely is causing the eye shape differences you are seeing.
Eyelid surgery to address asymmetry in eye shape
It is not possible to provide a definitive answer without photographs. However, eyelid and eye symmetry is an issue that is commonly addressed in facial plastic surgery. A consultation with a board-certified facial plastic surgeon, plastic surgeon, or oculoplastic surgeon would be informative.
Are there any cosmetic surgeries that will make my eyes the same shape or at least a little smaller?
Without pictures it is hard to say what the best treatment plan would be for you. Please seek an in person consultation with a board certified plastic surgeon to find out what your options are. Good luck, Dean Vistnes.
Different sized eyes. What can be done?
Without pictures it is hard to be specific, but the upper and lower eyelids can be raised or lowered or a combination to improve symmetry. The eyelids can also be widened, and some asymmetries are secondary to underlying bony asymmetries. I would suggest you call Plastic Eye Surgery Associates as they are based in Houston and are very reputable oculoplastic surgeons. Best regards.