What to Expect from Gastric Bypass?

I am a 36 year old mother of 6. I love all my children and am proud that I gave birth to all of them but I hate what it has done to my body.I was planning on having a Tummy Tuck and Breast Lift done in the new year, however, when I went to see the plastic surgeon a few weeks ago he said he can do the Breast Lift but not the Tummy Tuck at this time, not until I lose weight!He said I only need to lose about 40 pounds or so, but honestly, if I have to lose that much I may as well try to lose the rest of what I have to get to an ideal weight that would mean losing about 100 pounds.The PS gave me some information on Gastric Bypass. I hadn't ever considered it because I always thought it was for "obese" people and I wasn't obese, just fat but I serioulsy have to admit that I fall into the category of obese. I have a BMI of about 40, which puts me in the morbidly obese category!So here is my problem. My husband, he won't even consider researching it, or anything. He says no way!! He thinks I will be out of commission for 6 months. One person I talked to told me she was off work for 10 days. We do know a guy that had it done over about 2 years ago and someone told us that he had to stay off of work for 6 months (and I know he wasn't off work that long) but he is a truck driver and was almost 500 pounds. Pulling yourself into a truck is a far cry from what I do in my daily life. I am a stay at home mom. Its not too treacherous!I have a few questions. I have read and heard what a life changing thing this is, what I haven't read anywhere is what to expect exactly from surgery? What kind of pain would I be looking at? What kind of recovery?