When will sex feel normal after vaginoplasty?
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Intercourse after vaginoplasty
Hopefully things have returned to normal if the have not by now there is a very good chance you would need a revision. It is possible to be too tight after surgery and after 12 weeks you are not showing signs of improvement you might want to consider getting a second opinion.
Hope you are doing well
John R Miklos MD
Cosmetic Vaginal Surgeon
Atlanta ~ Beverly Hills ~ Dubai
Too tight after Vaginoplasty- can't have sex!!
1. Successful, happy sex WILL happen and, after initial "...re-adjustments," will undoubtedly be superior in both "feel" and "friction" than it was previously. Of course, please have your surgeon check you for the (unlikely) possibility that a suture might have been placed too tightly in the mid-pelvis causing the "blockage" you describe, and might have to be removed.
2. Use plenty of lubrication (I advise a good silicone-based lubricant such as "Wet Platinum," or "Pink Silicone,") which may be liberally and lovingly applied by each of you to the other's sensitive & sensual parts. His fingers (similarly coated...) are a good starting point; he can be a good "finger-dilator...(what's not to like!?). When you feel ready (no hurry: there are lots of ways to get off sexually...), put him carefully in.
3. If, after 2 full months post-op & lots of careful trying, you are unable to accommodate your lover, go back to your surgeon. Any genital plastic surgeon worth his/her salt will be prepared to successfully deal with your situation with progressively larger dilators, and probably will already have them in his/her office (I have...) Remember, you once passed a child's HEAD through that area! Vaginas dilate. If you are menopausal, it will be important for you to initially re-estrogenize the area prior to dilation (personally, I do not operate on under-estrogenized vaginas until a 2-3 month pre-operative therapeutic re-estrogenization...)
4. ...And, don't forget about post-operative pelvic floor physical therapy to keep your muscles strong & prevent relapse!
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Michael P Goodman MD
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