Research is starting to feel as stresful as surgery and don't know who to trust.
- Glasgow, KY
- 4 months ago
I'm a 39 year old male in good health and I've always taken care of myself.I always had a full, puffy and round face and I have next to no wrinkles due to an oily complexion and a thorough moisturising routine but in the last few years the skin on my cheeks began to droop and it's made me look very weathered and tired even though I am bursting with energy. My forehead and chin are fine but I can actually feel the weight of my cheeks and the pressure of the droop when I am sitting.If I gently brush the skin beneath my eyes up even just a couple of cementers my cheekbones appear and my face shape looks amazing plus the pressure release feels so satisfying and freshening but as soon as I let it go I look like a square faced old woman. The really damning thing is that I have friends who are a good 5-8 years older than me who have zero droop in their cheeks and they drink, smoke and eat crap.I've been trying to research a surgeon who could possibly give my cheeks a discrete lift but It's like a minefield out there. So many horror stories about botched surgeries and it's getting to the point where I don't know who to trust. The big worry is that there seems to be very little guarantees to the patient if things go wrong or not as expected. I even saw one patient who's surgeon made her pay for repairs to a surgery he messed up and I'm thinking to myself "Why is this process like this? Is there no accountability anywhere?"The thing is I like myself and I generally like my face but getting a small lift in the cheeks would make SO much difference to my confidence but I'm afraid that if something goes wrong I'll never leave the house again as I'm already very self conscious about my cheeks.I don't mean to belittle any other form of surgery but this isn't something like gynaecomastia surgery or a tummy tuck that can be hidden most of the time under clothes, this is the face which is constantly visible and it's the place that everyone focuses on.It's getting to the point where I'm not sure a consultation will be enough to reassure me becasue anyone can say "It'll be fine!" but how can you know for sure?I had a consultation with Mr John Telfer at Nuffield who was very nice but told me that a lift would be hard to hide as cheek scars are usually hidden in crow's feet and that I didn't have ENOUGH wrinkles and so it felt like I was being punished for taking care of myself.So far my top choice right now is Dr Taimur Shoaib as he has glowing reports on his manner and excellent reviews but unfortunately those reviews are mostly for breast augmentations and there are a few bad reviews regarding stuff like chin tucks.I don't know what to do. I can't go on looking the way I do but I don't want to end up in the position where I wish I had never had surgery.Surely in 2016 having a procedure shouldn't feel like such a gamble?