How to proceed when husband is VERY against augmentation?
- South Carolina
- 3 years ago
Hi, I'm a new member to site, and I'm in need of some advice! I am a 30 year old mother of two. I have never had large breasts, but they were perky and mine and I was fine with them. Enter breastfeeding two kids....exit breasts! I stopped breastfeeding my daughter two years ago, and I've been very insecure and unhappy with my breasts since then. I began thinking about breast augmentation at that time, but my husband is extremely opposed. I've mentioned it throughout the years, but never too seriously. We have two kids in daycare, and a lot of other expenses that made paying for this seem out of reach. However, I have recently gotten some unexpected money (the money is technically mine, although the hubby and I have always had joint accounts). I felt like this may be a perfect time for a consultation!! I was afraid to tell my husband about the consultation, and with good reason! When I did tell him he blew up! He told me that I had become someone he was disappointed in, I was vain, I was selfish, and that I was a poor role model for our daughter. This was extremely hurtful. The greatest source of frustration is that I have supported my husband in doing things that I didn't quite understand. I'm not a fan of flying, but supported him in getting his private pilot's license. He has purchased two boats. He takes regular boys trips to go snow skiing in Colorado. And this summer he's scheduled a second trip to climb Mount Rainier in Washington. I would consider all of these selfish and expensive hobbies. However, I've not fought him on them because they make him happy. It breaks my heart that this is the first selfish thing I've wanted to do and he can be so hurtful about it. He hasn't spoken to me in the week since I told him about the consultation. I offered a deal that if he would go to the consultation with me I would drop the subject for at least 6 months. He didn't come. I think if he understood that I don't want size D or DD breasts he'd be ok. I really do think that he would enjoy them once I got them. Part of my thinks I should just go ahead with it. If I'm already being punished I might as well get the real thing right? I have a job, I work hard for my income, and it's my body! But I have two kids, and I don't want to destroy my family over this! He understands that this is important to me, but that isn't swaying his feelings. Has anyone been through a similar situation?