Help unhappy with wife's look and decision to get a Tummy Tuck.
- 2 years ago
This might get lengthy; however I need some help from all of you. My wife has been made fun of by her mother and 2 sisters forever about the size of her breasts being to small. She has also always been very skinny and sexy looking. We had our first kid 3yr ago and our 2nd 1yr ago. She was also 22 when she had our first kid. I also believe that she has always been very immature and not very knowledgeable about the world. She is book smart not street smart. She has talked about getting a ba for a while now and she finally wanted to go through with it. I am completely against cosmetic surgery and feel that you should be happy with who you are as that's what makes us each unique. I have loved her more than anything in the world. I am fairly well off and quit my job after she had our first kid to be a stay at home dad so she could complete nursing school. I paid for her schooling took care of our child and did house chores for 2yr. She completed school and I went back to work while she had our second child and she stayed at home. She hated the stretch marks and her pooch where the saggy skin hung over her jeans. She went in for a consultation and I went with her. I got very agitated with the fact another man was touch her and seeing her privates. I was fighting myself for a few days after it feeling like she had cheated on me as I believe that should be for her husband only. She didn't like that surgeon so she scheduled another consultation which I had anxiety about leading up to and after the consult. And a repeat of the last consult. This time she said that she wanted a TT lipo and ba and she had 1 day to decide if she would do it. We have no help for the kids but we dropped our youngest at her mothers and I paid for the surgery. I don't think she did her research and knew what she was in for. I went to her consult and just stared at my phone because I was so pissed off and was praying she wouldn't do it. I loved her when she was skinny I loved her with her stretch marks and small breasts. I have always viewed her as beatiful. I also didn't want the doctor to take photos which she said she wouldn't do but then she let them anyway. She decided to do it and I was even more pissed. I sat there and worried for 3.5hr for the surgery to complete. I took her home and cared for her even though I was pissed about it. I bathed her wiped her after the bathroom. Lifted her. Did her meds. Did her drains and everything and more than most supportive husbands would have done. With each passing day this is killing me more and more. I hate the fake look and feel of her fake boobs and she looks like Frankenstein with her stomach scar. And her belly button looks completely fake. She is 6 weeks post op and now we are going out. She started wearing booty shorts and tight very low vneck shirts and things that show off her cleavage. Now when we go out almost every guy stares at her tits even if they are walking with their wife or kids. I hate going to the doctors for her check ups we have been 7 times since her surgery and the doc always makes comments about how great her tits look. I forgot to mention at the consult the doc said she didn't need any of the surgery and that she looked great before it. My problem is that I can't handle the way she looks fake now and the scars are disgusting. The fact that she lets her tits hang out for everyone to see and I have to keep taking her back to another man who has her strip down naked and touches her every time. I love her more than anything and don't know what to do because this has made me so unhappy. I literally have trouble getting it up for her now. I want to be supportive and happy with life but this is killing me everyday. I wanted to see what words of advice encouragement etc you all have for me as I don't want this to ruin our marriage.