I've been wanting BR my whole life (now age 47) due to chronic back/neck pain. I asked my dr for a referral 18 months ago and was told that I needed to lose 40 lbs in order to see the PS. I've worked really hard (diet, exercise, lifestyle change) for the past year and half and lost 40 lbs. I finally went to see the PS two days ago and now I'm really depressed, because he told me that in order to have a good result I'll have to have a FNG (I'm 34G, was 34H before losing 40 lbs) because the length of inframammary fold to nipple is too long (18 inches) and the other method would be too risky (risk of loss of blood to nipple) or he couldn't remove as much tissue and I'd still be too big and suffer pain.This is not what I wanted to hear. I've researched BR for about 20 years, and never did I ever imagine I would have to have FNG. I've seen before/after photos of women whose breasts were much larger and more pendulous than mine have a regular reduction. It was like a punch in the stomach when he told me.I've hated my large breasts all my life and the pain, discomfort, embarrassment, and ill-fitting clothing that comes with it. Probably the only "good" thing about my breasts has been nipple sensation. I can't even imagine my life post-op without it, and it's making me reconsider surgery and just live with large breasts and back pain.So I ask anyone who has had a FNG, and I over-reacting? Is living with flat, non-responsive, non-sensitive and possibly odd-looking or mis-colored NAC not such a big deal? Will it hurt my sex life/affect my sex drive? Is the relief from pain worth these side effects? Help, please. I'm feeling really defeated right now.