How to Tell Grandma You're Getting a Boob Job

BethH on 28 Nov 2013 at 5:00pm

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Holiday dinners mean heavy tables loaded with turkey, cranberry and that weird orange Jell-o your mom makes every year (that no one ever eats). But this year, since you've got the undivided attention of all you love -- you're going to make an announcement right before the pumpkin pie and ice cream.
You're going to disclose that you're getting a breast augmentation. That said, a not-so-positive scenario has been playing out in your head for weeks. Will your surgical plans be met with gasps of shock, angry silence, or acceptance? 
Well, although we can't predict how granny, mom, dad (or even your kids) will respond, we can make the process less anxiety-provoking. We checked in with plastic surgeon, Dr. K. Roxanne Grawe, on how to gently share that new "girls" are coming to town.

First, emphasize that after surgery -- you will still be you.

Dr. Grawe says there's two types of patients needing to "break" breast aug news to their family. The first group is younger, likely in their 20s, and are bringing the news to their parents and extended family.
"I think one issue [20-somethings] have is that they're worried that people are going to think differently of them. I had a patient tell me that her family came to her when they heard she was getting breast augmentation -- and were worried she was going to be dancing at bars and taking her top off. There is that connotation."
This means emphasizing that the surgery will not change who you are -- and telling your family, "This has nothing to do with changing my personality. I'm still the same person. I just want to fit into my clothes better. I want to love how I look," says Dr. Grawe.

Underscore you want things back where they belong.

The second group who feel the need to "break" news about breast implants are moms, says Dr. Grawe. "I have patients who don't want their [adolescent] daughters to think they should have to alter their bodies. I think moms should emphasize that having kids changed their bodies, and they want to have it the way it was before kids."  
And last, if your children are really small, it's likely they'll need the same reassurance you've given grandma. That is, even if your exterior looks somewhat different -- you're still the same person on the inside. "I think little kids are worried about their mommies changing, too," says Dr. Grawe.
Want more on how to prep for breast augmentation surgery? Check out the below!
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