Big Brother Botox Drama: What Happens When Your Partner is Unsupportive?

K. Mathews on 2 Aug 2011 at 9:00am

What happens when you want cosmetic procedures but your partner doesn’t want you to do it? This exact conflict is playing out in the Big Brother house this summer.

Rachel and Brendon, a couple who met while competing on the show last year, are back again. This time they’re engaged, although the relationship is not without its squabbles. Viewers of Big Brother’s live feeds have witnessed Rachel complaining about her perceived flaws and her intentions of getting Botox and Invisalign. However, Brendon is adamantly opposed, insisting that he loves the way Rachel looks and doesn’t want her to change.

unsupportive partnerDallas424 has run into a similar predicament. “Every time I try to talk to my husband about it, I get the eye roll and the ‘you are beautiful just the way you are’ speech. I am very thankful he loves me for me, but I am just not comfortable with the way my tummy looks.”

Things are comparable for Shaye from Illinois and her partner. “I cannot convince him that I would feel so much better about myself… He thinks that him telling me that I am sexy should be enough.”

Although the significant others of Dallas424, Shaye, and Rachel may seem unsupportive, perhaps they are actually being supportive in their own ways. Who doesn’t want to hear from their partner that they are beautiful and loved unconditionally? Communicating your feelings plainly might do the trick. As KAMG says of her husband, “This is not about him.”

Even if you don’t agree with Brendon’s attitude toward cosmetic procedures, his desire to talk about the issue before getting married is admirable, as it might prevent him from becoming one of these unhappy husbands. It’s a healthy conversation to have, perhaps even healthier if it doesn’t occur on national television.

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