cynthia J

Coping As a Newly Slim Person

Hi There
Everyone who has this operation will have thier stomach stretch back to some point. It depends how much and how long you push it. You can tell that you are stretching it out when you are able to eat and keep down more. Anyone who has experienced the horrid pain that shoots up your back when you push it too far knows thier limits in thier capacity to eat. As with me I can pretty much get a full Christmas dinner down now without feeling anything more than wanting to unbutton my top button on my pants, but that doe's not give me the green light to go ahead and eat whenever or whatever I want. Now you cannot depend on your operation to keep you in check. It is time for you to take charge and know when to say no to yourself.
As adults we sometimes need to parent ourselves and this is one of those times.
There are foods that we digest much slower than others. To stay full these foods eaten early in the day will help in keeping you full. You know which foods these are as these are the one that we are still burping up 3 days after eating as it takes longer for the acids to break them down. My food is steak or even ground beef. I rairly feel hungry if I have these heavy protiens sitting in my stomach. ones that digest quickly are the high calorie items like dairy and flour. the more you push the limits of your stomach the more you will be able to take in then you end up relieing on just yourself to maintain your wieght loss as your operation has been sabotaged by yourself.
good luck and good life

When I had my operation the surgeon worned me that I would probably have bowel issues for the rest of my life, and would most likely at some point need my gall bladder removed. I never suffered with anything except cronic constipation. I learned which foods triggered my bouts and the foods that would releave them if you know what I mean. Though my operation was over 20 years ago I live a life style directed by my bypass. Alternitive (DEAD) from a stroke or a heart attack. So I think I would much prefer the first. We have do be so thankfull for what we have most good comes with a cost, and I am for one willing to pay it. As for your depression I got that too afterwards. Remember your thinking went from what you always hoped and was taught. it,s in the inside that counts to getting your self worth and selfisteem coming from how others presieve you. I am sure you have heard people say everything about you changes when you have this operation and it doe,s but they do not think that they change too. I never truly realized how much people treated me differently afterwards. I was now suddenly approachable and persude in friendship and relationships. So you now know that if you fail and gain a pound or develope other issues that you deal with people will begin to withdraw and treat you like befor but this time you know the Whats in the iside thing is just a bunch of bull. This is were a host of other issues and concerns begin to develope. Wow that was deep inside my brain lol Back on track back. Take your vitamines, drink lots of water. Trust yourself you know what is best for you. Listen and learn from your experiences and others in life not just on your bypass because you are still going to have other problems in life and they may not be related. Good luck and Good life

1989 was the year I had my operation. I am going on 25 years and still over a hundred pounds lighter than I was. Mostly because of my size I am able to move around and burn energy rather than storing it now. My problem was that there was so much weight there was not a chance I was willing or even able to do much moving . Now I am aware of how easy it is to gain and even though it is a daily fight with temptation. I rise to the challenge and do whatever is needed to maintain the best I can. In my day I was the only fat kid ,now your lucky if your the only slim kid. And in that thought makes obesty acceptable. So Sad. I have issue directly or indirectly with my operation. But you do not cry over something you cannot control you just strive to learn from others experences and make the best choices for yourself to succeed in staying somewhat healthy. My advice.Take your vitamines, Tons of water, walk, stand, play as much as you can. It becomes injoyable and a way of life after a while. Take your vitamines and do your blood test religeously every year whether you want to or not. Results will keep you in check as to what your body needs and how it is doing. And get off the aspartame. BAD STUFF Work towards your reconstruction surgery. Start small if you have to. Self worh and self esteem are HUGE. I know what looking like a sack of skin and bones looks like. No money/ Insurance? Chew gum all through and after losing weight I have no double roaster gobble going on under my chin because of it. Wear Black tights when running and exersicing keep everything tight to you and not flapping and being stretched and pulled. Those spandex biking shorts are the best and can be worn under dresses and skirts. Stay away from heavy upperbody exersicing as when your able to wear sleevless again you will have minimized the heavy purple stretch marks.And if the plastic surgery afterwards is out of your reach then you do not want those breasts even more mis shapen Wear wide side band bras and stay with briefs to minnimize the appearance of rolls of the skin showing. Remember to accept everyone has issues just different ones and you work around them the best you can.

Well let me tell you! I live in Manitoba Canada. When we are sick we go see a doctor. Money? Why should that be a factor when in need. I do not understand how people can survive without health care. I do not see a doctor often but when in need that option is there with no cost. NOT to me or anyone one who lives here. I have had a double lipectomy operation ( tommy tuck) and three breast procedures. A reduction, a lift and an inverted nipple correction at no cost to me. As this wonderful Country I live in considers my emotional well being just as inportant as my physical well being. I had 11 pounds of loose skin removed. Hopefuly it went to a good burn victim for grafting. I would have had my thighs done as they were willing to do them but I decided no as there are so many blood vessils in that area that the operation becomes very dangerous for problems with clotting and infection. It never crossed my mind that things would not go back after losing wieght and was apalled to see what happened afterwards to my body. So sad that after all your hard work that you still cannot get into a bathing suit. Forget getting naked. I was so lucky and I sympathize with your issues. Mabe you should move here! I am so lucky and thankful for the little things that come my way. Mabe some kind hearted millionare surgeon will see your post and want to help like what happened to Kate Gossellin on john and Kate plus eight. Miracles happen all the time. just be ready for the opputunities when they happen.

What a beautiful thing to say. Sometimes you just need an ear and a kind soul to feel and see what another is going through. We all have issues they are just different and it is warming to see a community outside my little world. Thanx again