Intheprocess

Made another appointment with a 4th surgeon, one in Harley street, London this time.

I would tell your mum if you are definitely doing it. She might feel a bit upset if you don't tell her?? She will prob try and talk you out if it, but at least she will feel better that you listened to her at least? Hmm... It is difficult tho. My op is on the 29th July, so will be watching how you go!! Good luck and best wishes again :) x

Hi, I would leave telling her until you are 100% sure as it causes to much stress, if you aren't definitely going to do it! Yes, I have booked with Mr Lucian Ion in July. Can't wait. My mum is being brilliant now, she has just asked her friend to give me a lift to and from the train station :) so you know might not be as bad as you think telling your mum. I am really glad I told mum now, as its nice to have your mum to talk to about it. She knows now that it's what I am going to do and is supported me to a point, told me she doesn't want to hear me complain if it hurts or goes wrong as that would be upsetting to her. I totally understand that and am happy to agree to that anyway. Best wishes with your journey. Xx

Hi' I am glad to hear you are doing well. Wow!!! 4 months! I remember that lovely message you sent me back then, it's nice to hear from you again. Well, my mum and sister are ok, just my dad :) I expected that I suppose. It is like pushing up a river the wrong way isn't it? My mum is quite supportive actually, and I just don't mention it where my dad is concerned! I have told him so he knows and that's it. Thanks for your support and advice again, it really s good to hear that others have experienced the same, I suppose this is normal. I actually read on a surgeons website that its best not to tell anyone especially family! :D I am hoping it just looks like I ve always had that nose when I get it done, my dad is just sad that I am changing the way I have always looked to him. He said "what about all of our pictures" well the only pictures they have really are from when I was a kid as I just ran away from cameras a still do!! I have nt got one picture of me and my daughter on display because of it. I hope that will change. Thanks again for your kind thoughts xxx

That's all s true, I had a good friend at uni shout really loud, "all I can see is a hood and a big hook nose sticking out" and then when I was discussing having surgery with a friend who was trying to talk me out if it, she said, "your nose is fine, I would describe it as a hook nose" ???? How was that supposed to make me feel better. Hence I talk to neither of these people anymore!!! And have kept this practically to myself as much as I can, ths site is great for talking about things tho... Yes, They upset me more than they ever knew as I just took it and pretended I hadn't really acknowledged their thoughtless comment. My biggest critic is me, I want to improve it and I have for a very long time. Like you say it's just so difficult to find the right surgeon, that ticks every single box every time. Thanks again for your advice, it's really good advice, I felt really like "god, this girl knows where I am coming from " when I read this message! :) thanks again and keep in touch!! I ll be watching out on your posts to see how you go. Take care xxx

Just read your posts. Gosh, so sorry to read your total despair in this situation. You wrote me such a nice comment... I really hope you find the right surgeon who can restore your nose and make you feel happier again. I think this site s the place for new suggestions, I can see that Rayah7 has given you some ideas. Good luck and I really do hope you get sorted out.