Tristan Belmont

Very Happy - Charlotte, NC

I Feel Deformed - Gastonia, NC

Im having a tough time with a lot of the same problems. How are you now?

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. IREALLY needed to hear that. I have really been trying to accept my situation these last few weeks. Its been really hard for me though, even when i try to have fun i end up in tears. I guess a therapist is probably inevitable. I can't sleep and have horrible nightmares about waking up after my surgery and my face being deformed. I have also been dealing with numerous health problems for the last few years as well as being anorexic when i was younger. I think that having being anorexic in the past that i am more prone to being overly depressed. This surgery was supposed to be a present and it just added to my list of problems. How did you ever learn to forgive the surgeon? im struggling with that because i feel as if he ended all happiness in my life. I am so scared for my relationship now. It kills me to think that i will never have my dream wedding.

i am in almost the same situation as you. i am so sorry for what you have been though. I began to develope the most horrible bags under my eyes at 17. I was so self concious about it that i started wearing glasses and would never look at anyone in the face. i decided to have surgery to try to fix the problem. i had been sick for a while so my fiance paid for the surgery as a present. it wasnt but a few days after the surgery that i realized something was wrong. i had the biggest darkest circles under my eyes. the doctor took out way too much fat. i look way worse then before the surgery. i ended up paying for about 1200 dollars worth of restylane to be put under my eyes. it looked good for about 5 months and i just spent another 1000 dollars for more filler. my eyes swelled up so much this time that i am so afraid its going to cause me to have bags under my eyes again. the lower eye lid surgery ruined my life. i was not warned of any side effects and even asked if there was a possibility of him taking out too much fat. he reassured me that he wouldnt. i am only 23 and i feel so awful about myself which causes me to be in a bad mood a lot. now i am worried its going to effect my relationship

So glad i found this post. i had under eyelid surgery last july for bags under my eyes. My fiance paid for it because he wanted to do something nice for me since i had been sick for a while. The doctor reassured me that nothing would go wrong and i asked him if there was a chance he could take too much fat out. He said that has never happened before and i would be fine. A week after my surgery i looked in a mirror and was horrified that i had what looked like big bruises under both eyes. At the follow up i expressed my concerns to the surgeon and he said it would take more time to heal and that it was fine. A month after that my eyes still didnt look any better. I didnt think my eyes could look worse then they did before my surgery but i was wrong. i didnt sleep for weeks i was so distraught. I went to another surgeon and he confirmed that my eyes were probably not gonna get any better than they were and recommended that i try restylane. it took 3 viles of it to help my appearance. The restylane has since worn off and i am back to ground zero. i hope one day i can find a permanent solution to my problem. I am only 23