JC1976

Long bumpy road ahead...

There aren't many plastic surgeons in my area. I don't want to have to drive an hour or two away, so that leaves me with about 3 that are highly recommended by my regular doctor. My first choice did take insurance but no longer does large reductions that require a hospital OR. The PS I had the consult with is great. I felt very comfortable with him and his staff and he explained everything very thoroughly especially about the insurance vs out of pocket choice. For insurance to cover the surgery for me they would require a minimum of 500 grams bilateral to be removed. That would leave me way smaller than I would like. I would like to end up a full C or small D. The PS said for my body shape and size he wouldn't recommend anything smaller than that. As far as cost, we have a good amount of savings put back, so the money is there. Once again the problem goes back to my husband's objection to the surgery. He works swing shift and hasn't been home to really talk about it since my consult. Hopefully I can try and go over things with him this weekend. I really like this PS I spoke with and the surgery would be done in the same hospital where I had my c-section when my youngest was born. I like the idea that this PS puts what is best suited for the patient above what insurance says is needed. I am hoping I can do this and use this PS. Once I know for sure I will post an update. Thanks again for the support Iowa!! I need it!!

Hi Iowa! The consult went well. I really like the surgeon and his staff. The only downside is that they do not accept insurance any longer. He said they did not like the rigid set amount of tissue removal most insurance companies require for coverage. In my case, insurance would require the removal of at least 1000 grams total. The surgeon I spoke with said he wouldn't recommend I have more than 600 bilateral for my body size. He said I was an excellent candidate for reduction. The hubby is against me having the surgery, as you know, and that was when I thought insurance was a good thing to try. I just don't think he will ever agree to paying out of pocket for a $6000 surgery he claims I don't need to start with. He didn't even know I had the consult today. I am preparing myself for this phase of the conversation because I know it won't be pleasant. Despite the issues with my husband, I am excited and more certain than ever that I am ready for a reduction! Here's hoping I will know before long if and when I can officially begin this process.

Thanks so much Iowa! I have taken the first step and made an appointment for a consult with a doctor near me on Wednesday! I haven't mentioned that to the husband yet, so guess I'll see how that goes over. I am excited to be taking this first step and to sit down with a surgeon and see what he has to say. I feel like I know so much of what to expect from reading all the wonderful reviews from all of you great ladies on here! I wish my husband did support my decision in this, but I do have support from my parents and friends. I hope my husband will come around, but I am ready to do this even without his support. I will know more after my consult in two short days! Wish me luck!

A belated welcome to you Neng! I have been away from the board for a bit but saw your comment and wanted to say that I understand exactly what you are going through! Your post could have been word for word what I am going through with my husband. He is so against the idea of me getting a reduction that he has even resorted to asking why I want to "butcher" myself like that when I am perfectly fine like I am. Oh and the "most women pay big money to have boobs like yours," is one I hear alot. This is when I can actually get him to stay in the room and say more than 5 words about it. I have been trying for two months to get him to sit down and have a logical conversation about it. No luck so far. I am quickly learning how right Kimmers is. I may not be able to get him to support me in my decision to have a BR. All I can do is try my best to explain to him the pain, discomfort, self-consiousness carrying these girls around causes me. In speaking with my regular doctor about the possibility of me getting a reduction, he is in full support of it, not only for the pain and problems with posture, but because I have a family history on both my mother and father's side of breast cancer. I am hoping this statement from my doctor will, at least, make my husband understand why I am so determined to have this surgery. Even if he doesn't like it or support it. Best of luck to you!! This is an amazing group of ladies here in the community and each and every one are so generous to share their experiences and the need-to-know info us newbies need to get us through our own journey! So glad I found them! Keep us updated on your surgery!

Hi wilsongt! Thanks for sharing your story. I also appreciate the good luck wishes. The way it is looking, I need all the luck I can get with my situation. I have tried for weeks to get my husband to sit down with me and have a serious talk about this. My hope was that he would see how much good this surgery would be for me both physically and emotionally, but so far it is like talking to a brick wall. He has gone as far as to say that he is against the idea of me "butchering" myself. All I hear when I do get him cornered long enough to even bring it up is how I should be happy with my large chest since there are lots of women who would pay big bucks to have my boobs, or how he doesn't understand why I complain so much because my chest shouldn't be big enough to cause my any kind of pain. Basically, he's telling me it is all in my imagination. I really have my doubts that he will ever try to see this from my point of view. I am really at a loss and don't know what to do. I know I would feel so much better if I had the BR. I just don't know how to handle things with my husband. Wish I was as brave as you were and could just do it!