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Made the Decision - Sacramento, CA

Boy. The first thing I think I would do is find another place to buy my glasses! I'm always amazed at how stupid people are with the things they say. From a male perspective I can relate, only I was the one who was passed by, ignored, laughed at by females. I'm 55 and scheduled for rhinoplasty in January. I say 'GOOD FOR YOU'! Nobody, and I mean NOBODY knows what you have gone through, the feelings you've had and so on. You deserve it! Go for it!

Thumbs out! You will feel better in the future financially and otherwise by waiting a while. I will say though that you should move forward in the future. Although I had a successful career I always wondered if certain things would have been different if I had "taken the plunge" when I was about your age. Take yourself on a "nice" shopping spree. The difference between "nice" and "huge" is $$$$$; take that and put it aside for you future procedure. Take the first step. Good luck in college Caitlin!

You know, you WILL get this done...but, maybe the time is not right just yet (I've waited 40 years). One thing you don't want to do is rush things... get more than one opinion so you are comfortable with your Dr. selection. During that time make your goal of saving the $$$$ a top priority. I know that when I was your age if I REALLY wanted something I moved heaven and earth to save for it. In the end you'll feel better because: 1. you know you did your homework; 2. you worked hard, saved and paid for it yourself. Step back, take a deep breath and set your goal for a little further in the near future. You'll thank yourself in the long run AND you'll feel better all the way around. Don't get discouraged and I hope this helps.

Good for you! Don't be too hard on Dad though. I suspect he just wants what's best for you. Remember one thing during your conversation...remain calm (notice I said "conversation" not "confrontation"). That can be tough I know but one thing you will learn as you go thru life is the more calm you remain during stressful conversations, negotiations or whatever the more people will be inclined to not only listen but also take you more seriously. They may not agree with you but they are more likely to respect you AND the decision you make. You also sound like a very intelligent young person receiving a full-ride scholarship. This is your first step...good luck to you!

My goodness. I hear a lot of me in you at that age. Have you checked with the physcian about some type of payment arrangement? Possibly not using all of your savings just enough for a down payment then make simple payments? It may be an option for you. Make sure that the person is appropriately certified. He/she may have "good rates" but don't settle. You are 100% right when you say that if you are to achieve things you need confidence in yourself. That can make all the difference in the world when it comes to your chosen field. I know exaclty what you are going thru. I had zero self confidence in school, high school especially, because of the teasing. I didn't even go to the senior prom because I lacked absolutely no self confidence what so ever. If you have the chance and the means go for it! Angie is right, you don't need consent and it's your life. I always wonder what my life would have been like had I, at your age, followed what I really wanted to do. Now at middle age I'm finally doing it. Don't wait. Your life will be so much better. Good luck.