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• Posted to Devastated After Lower Eyelid Surgery - Washington, DC on 18 May 2011

  hello ernurse...can you please also send me the link you are speaking of? I would greatly appreciate the information!

• Posted to Devastated After Lower Eyelid Surgery - Washington, DC on 18 May 2011

  Oh, I also wanted to mention to you that what they deem mild would not be mild if it was them having to walk around like this for the rest of their lives...OR if their Barbie Doll wives had to walk around with the equivalent of 2 crooked back eyes. Resentment is rearing it's ugly head. I'm having a hard time controlling it.

• Posted to Devastated After Lower Eyelid Surgery - Washington, DC on 18 May 2011

  Thank you so much for your response. I greatly appreciate hearing from you and getting your advice and feedback. I have an appointment later today with the doctor that did the surgery and all I want to hear from him is a solution to the problem. They have been blowing me off for weeks now and I found it funny that when I blew them off last Friday by cancelling an appointment with them, I got a call first things Monday from the receptionist asking why I missed the appointment and can I please reschedule it ASAP. I think I finally have them worried...have been in there 6 times complaining, crying, getting more upset with every visit, begging for them fix it, and each time all I heard was, "it looks good to me, I don't really see a problem with it, you had laxity in that eye to begin with"...which is all BS because I have the before pictures showing no laxity, in fact the doc told me I was a very good candidate for the surgery because i had no white showing under my pupils prior to the surgery. I will be back on after my appointment to let you know how I make out. I'm really not expecting much satisfaction out of the appointment, but am trying so hard to be positive. I only have the option of letting the same doc fix what he messed up and that's really not something I feel comfortable with at all. I really need my money back to I can go to another doctor, but doubt that will happen since I signed all the waivers prior to the surgery. Again, I want to thank you so much for your response and your very positive advice. While it doesn't change my botched surgery, it really does help. I hope you are doing well. After reading your original post, I wasn't happy to know you also had this problem, but comforted by knowing that I'm not the only one out there that has gone through this. I really wish I could find out what my rights are...am I entitled to my money back...can I somehow make the doctor pay for another doctor to fix this mess...can I sue him to get the money I need for the fix? I do plan on getting another doctor's opinion once I hear what the original doctor has to say today. My depression and crying has been so overwhelming that my husband even call the doctor and asked the nurse what is going to be done about this. I'm going in makeup free so the doctor can see just what I am dealing with everyday. The make up makes the droopiness worse, but I want this doctor to see what is the equivalent of remnants of 2 black eyes that I have to face in the mirror every damn day. I'll fill you in once i hear what he has to say and thanks again for your input. I'm sorry that you are going through this and hope for things to get resolved for you.

• Posted to Are You Really "Doing It For Me"? on 18 May 2011

  I really did do it for myself, hoping to feel better and look better. I also had in mind that I would look so much better to my husband...not that I was actually bad looking anyway. I look worse and feel worse. I wish I would have read certain things prior to the surgery...like can I afford to have more surgeries to fix it if it doesn't turn out right? The answer is "no" to that question and it didn't turn out right. I look like I have been in a fist fight where I got punched in both eyes 24/7. I hide in my house and only go out if I really have no other option. When I do have to go out, I spend at least 45 minutes trying to cover up the problem with makeup but I also wear sunglasses so people don't see my eyes which is not always an option because i also need reading glasses. I am on meds to help with depression and anxiety...not at all what i had planned on for life after surgery. I spent all my money (and the time I had allotted) on the first surgery, thinking it was the ONLY surgery. I was ever so wrong and now and ever so regretful. I don't even look like myself anymore and people do make comments that I really don't want to hear. I feel like my life will never go back to normal. Since I signed all the waivers prior to surgery, it's like i have no rights and no chance of getting my money back for another doctor to fix this problem.

• Posted to Devastated After Lower Eyelid Surgery - Washington, DC on 18 May 2011

  I feel so bad for those having had a bad experience with the lower bleph surgery. I am having the same unfortunate experience myself and I cry nearly every day and basically hide in my house. I feel like Portland 393. I just don't look like myself anymore. I wasn't horrible looking to begin with but had very droopy upper lids and big bags under my eyes that really were bothersome to me for years. I wish I had never had the surgery done because it was much easier living with the droopiness and bags than it is living with the results of the surgery gone wrong. I am on meds to cope with my anxiety and depression....certainly not what I had expected as a result of saving my money for the surgery that I thought was going to make me feel like a million bucks. It has had such a negative effect on the quality of my life. I had been so excited for the expected outcome and now I am devastated to the point where I won't even socialize and I try to do everything I possibly can to run my errands where I won't run into anyone I know. What's even worse is that I don't want my husband to see me like this, which is impossible. He has been very supportive throughout every bit of this ordeal, however, I just don't even look like me anymore and I know he is just keeping his mouth shut even though it embarrasses him when we do have to be where others see me. I give him a lot of credit for it, but I can see in his eyes that he feels sorry for me. He doesn't even believe in plastic surgery, but didn't argue when I said I was having it done because he knew it would make me feel better about myself. Now he is dealing with a depressed, crying, stressed out nut case. Sure didn't pay $5,000 to feel like this or go through any of this and the really sad part is, this is for life. I used up all my money to get this done and don't have money for another doctor to do a revision. Instead of the bags under my eyes, I now have 2 very differently shaped eyes, one drooping so bad that putting makeup on only emphasizes it and instead of bags I have huge puffy areas under both eyes, one worse than the other. If I smile, my eyes look like I'm chinese, because it pushes up and nearly closes my eye, so I try to not even smile when I'm anywhere people see me and really, even at home. I also cannot shut my eyes tight enough when shampooing my hair and the water and soap runs into my eyes every time I shower. I wish I had never had the surgery. I honestly wish I had never had it done. It has ruined my life.