KAMG

Nervous but VERY Excited - Maryland

Yeah kids make it tough... but remember this... a healthy happy mom, makes for healthy happy kids!! ;) You should be happy! cyber drink it is!! ;)

KSP2, sorry you are so hurt and angry. I am of a firm beliver that "happiness is a state of mind and if you're not happy change your mind" I understand the anger and frustration, I get it, I am not angry at my husband, because like I said he was the best husband in the world, taking care of me afterwards, but leading up to that day he was a total bastard!! drinking/driving, popping pills, contemplating suicide... FOR WHAT??? because I want to feel better/look better... NO cause he was "losing control" over me!! so I am angry in that aspect, but those are HIS issues to bear not mine!! and I hope for your sake you can forgive and forget, unless of course he was abusive that is unforgiveable.! and you're right it would be cool to go have drinks... :) probably live on the opposite sides of the country!! LOL

Hey at least he is willing to go to a counseling session, mine wasn't. And all men are different, I know that my husband, once a decision is made, he deals with it from there. So I wasn't positive, but was pretty sure that once I did it and we moved forward that all would be fine, but I was also very prepared if he didn't. Now I notice he doesn't shower with me anymore... but we still have sex. It is very difficult, I know, have you asked him his thoughts instead of trying to explain yours? Keep your head up, go to the counseling session and be open minded to at least "hear" is concerns, assuming he expresses any. Keep me posted!

cantdecide, I sooo get it! I was good until HE was involved. It wasn't until I made the decision for myself that I was ok, and even then, I called to pay, and then freaked out! Trish had Dr. Markmann call me personally, I guess I was worried about my husband and the reality of it all and acutally going through with it! Scared me to tears! That being said once I got him out of my head and I had wanted a boob job before I ever met him, just wanted to wait until I was done having children, then after my c-section with my last child, I started wanting a tummy tuck. Yes he loves me, yes I looked good to him... blah, blah blah, but I didn't feel good, I didn't like how that awesome little black dress DIDN'T fit me...or the bathingsuit... it was no longer about him, and he either loves me or he doesn't but this is my body!! sure you could argue that he loves you the way you are, and there is nothing wrong with you... and he probably does and there probably isn't, but it is how YOU feel!! You have to make the decision that is right for YOU. my husband and I had a conversation once regarding another issue... not important, but it went a little like this... I didn't like something he had done... me 'asking' him to stop... made him feel like I was trying to 'change' him... so I then said well, you not wanting me to have surgery (for me) is asking me to change ME... I wanted it before I knew him, and I had never stopped, but my life on hold, did probably 10 years of research, and knew what I wanted... if I didn't do it I would always wonder & probably resent him for it. On the other hand, as happy as I am with my decision, there is everyonce in awhile where I think maybe I shouldn't have, but I am happier more often then that thought creeping in... I don't know if this helps, but it is def a roller coaster ride of emotions, and def not an easy decision. I wish I could answer for you, but I can only tell you about my experience with my husband... he is over it... I figured he would... that is how he thinks... but there was a time where I thought we were finished, but I did what I wanted, and made sure he knew it was for the right reasons, not the ones he assumed!! Good luck, and I am here if you still want to chat or have more questions.

Hey Madison5269, my husband did not take off of work, and my kids were 5,7,14. 16, the kids helped as much as they could too, I didn't tell a whole lot of people, but my closest friends, the one drove me & my youngest to preschool, cause I couldn't drive, the only negative thing I ever heard was from my husband, but he wasn't supportive until he realized I was doing it with or with out him! so he wanted to have control so he choose to be involved, guessing it made him feel like he was calling all the shots.. whatever works for him I guess. I am a very head strong person, so I don't feel I NEED him or his support, of course its nice to have, but his lack of support would of just cause resentment... I haven't changed, maybe a little more confident, but I am a very modest person and THAT did NOT change, so although I feel better about my body, I don't feel different just more like my body matches my personality! if that makes sense!