18 years ago my beloved first son was born at...
18 years ago my beloved first son was born at almost 10 pounds. A second large baby followed by years of weight loss yoyoing has left me with a deflated, sad stomach. I have been wishing, planning and thinking about it for many years and I'm finally ready. I've researched a number of doctors both locally and abroad. I hate to say that a lot of the work that I've seen by local doctors isn't really impressive and there were a lot of boxy looks. So I started looking at other areas. It seems that the Latin countries are really doing this procedure very well. After weighing the options between Mexico and the Dominican Republic, I finally decided on going to Mexico. While the pricing for the surgery in DR was less, after factoring in the plane ticket there was only a nominal savings. Also, didn't want to spend 15 hours on a plane after having the procedure done vs two hr flight by going to Mexico. That was well worth it to me. I wasn't going to write a review but I valued the reviews of so many other women on here that I thought I would share my experience. My date is February 18th with Dr. Laura Carmina Cardenas. So far, her coordinator has been responsive, informative and very helpful. I'm confident I've made a great choice. Dra. Cardenas is also one of the board certified plastic surgeons in MX and comes highly recommended. I'm having an extended TT, lipo and BBL. I'm on the fence about the BBL because I really do like my natural shape of my butt, I just want a little natural enhancement. So - we'll see. I'd really like to get a breast augmentation as well but finances and my propensity to be a big wuss is stopping me. So, I've done the research, got the money, made arrangements for time off, put my family on notice and am now gathering supplies. I'll be staying in the Beauty Care Recovery House for 7 days at Dra. Cardenas' suggestion. She wanted me to stay 10-14 days but I need to come home after a week. I'll be alone so I'm sure I'll be more than ready. I also want to say that my husband has been so supportive and awesome through this whole process. I really appreciate all his support.
Can't hardly sleep
Aaaaannnnddd..I'm officially obsessed. This is all I think about. I can hardly sleep and I'm driving everyone nuts by roaming the hall at night like the ghost of plastic surgery future. This is becoming more and more real. I scheduled time off work and have started to buy supplies. I read through some of the supply lists though and I can't help but wonder if I'm really going to need all that stuff! My father came to America with less suitcases than I would require by bringing everything on these advisory lists. My plan is to take my oldest suitcase, fill it with supplies and old, comfy clothes that I don't really use or wear anymore along with cheap underclothes. I just want to toss everything at the end of my stay that I don't absolutely need along with aforementioned old suitcase, board the plane with my small carry on and go about my business. My other dilemma is blood work. I had my CBC results and my iron completed last month and I'm all good there. But I need to get my other tests done that she requires. The problem is that I don't really have a PCP, just my gynecologist that I pop in to once a year. I'm a bit worried about what he'll say about going to MX. Frankly, I don't want to hear it and have him eff up my vibe. So I'm just thinking about having Dr. Cardenas office do it when I arrive. Sigh - am I just the biggest spazz in the world right now or are these totally normal feelings/actions?
Now that my relationship with mah belly is coming to an end, I've been thinking back about everything that is wrapped up in it. When I was about 8 months pregnant for my son who is now 18, his father left me. He was in and out of his life sporadically until he was about 4 and then he left for good. Thankfully, I met a great man a couple years later and we've been happily married for almost 12 years now. One of the last conversations I had with my son's father was after I had worked really hard to lose a bunch of weight and I was feeling pretty cute. I still had my mommy tummy but otherwise, I was about a size 8. He said to me, "It doesn't matter how much weight you lose or how much you run, you'll still always have that ass in the front." For years, that hurt me. And I guess in a way it still does since I remember it so vividly and how humiliated I felt. Years have passed and I'm older and wiser now and am SO grateful I didn't end up with that horrible man that I thought I wanted so badly. I would have missed out on meeting my husband and having our daughter along with a great father to both children. But, why - does just thinking about him saying that to me still have a tinge of humiliation? For years I carried that shame with me. Wearing two girdles at a time, strategically placing scarves, purses, my hands, children, any obstacle I could find in front of my stomach. Every single time I walked anywhere, I was hiding myself in some kind of way. So for me and I suspect many of us, having this surgery is about much more than vanity. It's about finally putting to rest those hurtful things and those insecure feelings. I wonder if I will recognize my body again. I told my husband the other day that I couldn't wait to finally be able to look into the mirror and see my old self. Except, I don't want the old self that accepted bullshit from bad men and didn't believe in myself. I've worked really hard in my personal and professional life to grow in a way that even I never thought would be possible. I just want my old, new self. I think this is a great step and the last piece of the puzzle for me to finally be able to say that I, indeed, have come a long way baby. Anyway, sorry about the rambling. I am not sure I was prepared at how viscerally emotional this process would be. Still - I'm moving forward and on the countdown. Now...if only Delta would drop their damn flight prices again. Seriously, how the hell does that thing jump $122 in one day?? But I digress.....
It Rubs The Lotion On Its Skin
This feeling is surreal. I'm getting much closer to my date and I just want it to be here already. So far, I've bought a boppy pillow and epi-foam. I've got a shit ton of stuff in my online Walmart cart that I still need to get. My other pressing issue is that I need to get the rest of my blood work done. I already had my CBC done and sent to Cardenas and it is fine. But I still have the rest of them that I have no idea how I'm going to get done. I called and got an appt with my gyn and I'm going to ask him if he will. Honestly, I have no idea what he'll say so I'm just thinking about getting it all done in Mx when I get there. How I wish Dra. Cardenas could just set up the blood work with a local place. I hate having to go grovel to my local Dr. And in other, Murphy's law news, my teenage son has to have shoulder surgery tomorrow. Thanks to my terrible health insurance, my total out of pocket for his surgery will be...wait for it....the same amount as mine. Of course. I considered (briefly) cancelling my surgery but I didn't. Mostly because his hospital will work with me on payments and I have been waiting for this moment forever! Selfish? Possibly. I'm good to go on my vitamins and I'm greasing up my bod every day so I'm hopeful for a great surgery day. Does anyone have any insight on the blood tests?
One more thing...
I ditched all the FB plastic surgery groups I was in. Most of them were for surgeries happening in the DR anyway. Originally that was where I was planning to go but I'm happy with my decision. Maybe I'm just getting old but I'm disappointed that so many women can act so ridiculous and fight over the most stupid things. The last straw came when a woman bitched that she couldn't believe so many married women were talking about having to "save money" for surgery and that they should just have ballers picking up the tab. Um, really?? Oh yes, how irresponsible for married women with families to try to consider their family situation and fit an elective surgery into their budget by **gasp** saving. Sigh....Is that the type of woman my son has to look forward to in the future? Gross.
Blood work tip and other ramblings.....
I was kind of sweating going to my doctor to ask for blood tests. Mostly because he is only my gyn and I rarely see him. I don't really have a PCP so he is the closest thing I've got. It's always a nightmare to try and get an appointment and I would have been left in the lurch if he said no. Anyhoo, I took matters into my own hands and found an online lab that you can purchase the tests from. In fact, I was even able to use my HSA card. I ordered and paid for the tests (about $200) that I needed online and then printed out the order to have my blood drawn at a local lab. I had my results within one business day. Score! Still need my EKG but I'll just do that when I get to TJ. Sent the results off to Dra. Cardenas and we're all good. Feeling more and more real every day.
I honestly can't believe I'm doing this. I mean, I'm glad and all, but here is my typical thought process every day.
"This is going to be the greatest thing EVER!"
"This is going to be the worst thing EVER!"
"What the EFF am I thinking?"
"My kid is going to college next year. WTF are you doing?"
"This is going to be the GREATEST thing EVER!"
"That's it, I'm cancelling."
"I'm going to look so hot."
"I'm incredibly selfish. I'm one of THOSE moms."
"But I'm going to look so hot."
"Yep, I'm doing it."
"Decided. I'm doing it."
And so forth.....It's exhausting being me.
Ok....Must be done. Pics...
Cautionary Tale: Do not ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever get a tattoo on your stomach prior to having children. Or ever. Just don't do it. I have hated this thing since and I that's a big plus to this surgery is finally having it gone.
I Can't believe I just posted my gross gut all over the interwebs Haha!
But, I'm hopeful that I'll have a kick ass "after".
Can Time Go Any Slower??
Come on Feb 19th!
Flight Out Tomorrow
Well, it's here. My flight leaves tomorrow at three. I have to go get a few things tomorrow morning but other than that - I'm ready. Whew. See you on the flat side ladies. Wish me luck!
Beauty Care Recovery House
Real quick. Everyone here is so warm and accommodating. Surgery is tomorrow morning so I'm just relaxing tonight. Food is delicious and the house very nice.
19 Feb 2014
Day of treatment
I'll keep this quick. I'm at the hospital in recovery. Staff and nurses are wonderful, Dra. Cardenas is so regal and knowledgeable. I'm wrapped up like a mummy right now so I'm haven't seen anything yet. My legs are still numb from the epidural and it's kind of freaking me out but I'm sure that will resolve itself soon. Thanks everyone for your well wishes!
Live To Tell About it
Well I'm still at the rh and I'm flying out tomorrow. Wanted to give a quick update. Recovery is no joke but they do everything they can to make it more comfortable for you. I put on my compression garment yesterday and that helped a ton. Kind of hard to distinguish my results right now because I'm still so swollen and bent over but I think I'm going to be thrilled. I can't say enough good things about Dr. C and her administrative and nursing staff. Also, the food here is so good, healthy and helps with the process so much. I miss my family something terrible though so I'm anxious to go home even though I could easily stay here another week. I'll post pics soon....
The Absolute WORST thing about Recovery
You heard it here first.
Damn daytime TV. What...in...the...actual...hell?
This actually explains a lot about current times.
On the Road To Recovery
Welp, I'm home. First off, I'm married to the best man on the planet. He held it down so good while I was gone and continues to take care of me. Have both drains still but they are both below 25cc's so I'll likely be able to take those out by Sunday. The bruising is a ton better and the swelling seems to be going down. I have just been resting a lot and following Dr.s orders. But my back is killing me. Can't wait to start standing up a little more. I'm obsessive right now about staying bent over because I terrified of anything happening to my incision. Advice:
1.Do plan on staying at least 10-14 days after a tt. I stayed 7 but could have used the extra.
2. Don't overpack. Seriously, I hardly opened my suitcase. BCRH has everything you need and i stayed in a hospital gown most of the time. I could have easily gotten by with a change of clothes for travel, toiletries and maybe a few nightgowns, comfy socks or slippers and been just fine.
3. Don't forget to request wheelchair assistance at the airport. There is no way i could have gone through check in, security and boarding standing up all that time.
4. Get the massages by Maripaz. She is wonderful and they make a huge difference with the liposuction soreness.
5. The nurses work hard. Plan on bringing them a little something as a tip.
6. Bring an ipad, kindle, laptop to keep you occupied. The rooms have TV in them but it's nice to have a little variety.
7. Like Dra. Cardenas says, stay positive! Recovery is a roller coaster, your attitude makes all the difference.
A few more things
I can't say enough good things about Dra. Cardenas, Fatimeh, Loan, Carmen, Ronnie, nurses Suzie and Nadi and the others that I have totally spaced their names. Honestly people, everyone did their best to make me feel welcome, comfortable and cared for.
Dra. Cardenas has been absolutely wonderful, responsive and knowledgeable. I can't explain it, but I feel at ease with her, more than I did when I was considering other surgeons. I feel that I'm in great hands.
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