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Super Nervous - Temecula, CA

I am 30 years old, 5ft tall and currently 114 lbs....

I am 30 years old, 5ft tall and currently 114 lbs. I have three children: 3.5 year old twin girls and a 2 year old boy. Both of my deliveries were c-sections. After the twins I had a TON of lose skin and it only got worse when I was pregnant with my son. I also have a lot of stretch marks and the skin on my stomach looks like crepe paper (my thighs and hips are really bad too, with the stretch marks, but there isn't much I can do about them).

I wanted a tummy tuck last year while I was still married but my now ex husband wanted to spend the money on something else. I found out he was lying and cheating in August and filed for divorce, now I'm having my tummy tuck on March 22nd. At first I was really excited about it, but now that I've had so long to think about it (and Google it) I am really worried about the pain and I'm starting to freak out.

I live with my parents so I'll have some help with the kids, but I still feel really alone. Its times like this when I miss having a spouse. *sigh* Anyhow, preop was today...it was okay. I had a lot of questions and I was really nervous. I am going to try to add some of my "before" shots here but my laptop is ancient & I'm having a hard time. These are also old, from last summer when I wanted to do the TT the first time, so I'll try to get some new ones before my surgery.

So my preop was yesterday and I am now paid in...

So my preop was yesterday and I am now paid in full (well, I still have to buy all the medications and my Rx insurance sucks so that'll be another couple hundred bucks...plus I still need to stock up on ginger ale, crackers, medical tape, etc).

My surgery will be at a surgery center about 20 minutes from where I live, I believe I check in at 6am for a 7:30am surgery, but I need to double check that becuase I just noticed that its not written down anywhere. lol

I am having just a tummy tuck (removal of skin & muscle plication). She wanted to lipo my flanks that that would be niffty, but I didn't want to pay the extra money or have the extra pain. If this goes really well then maybe I'll go back for lipo next year. ;)

Anyhow, just a tummy tuck, no lipo even of the tummy. She says some drs do and some don't but she doesn't becuase it can interfere with healing.

So I will wake up with a pain pump and two drains. My first post-op is four days after surgery & the pain pump will be removed then (will there still be any pain meds left in it by that point? And its just lidocane, isn't it? Its not really PAIN medication, per se...right?

My dr said that one drain will be removed after a week or two and the second drain a week or two after that. Yes, that means I will have at least one drain for a whole MONTH! She also said no showers (only sponge baths) until both drains are out. I'm twitching just thinking about it. I don't do well without baths. ;/

My meds are: Emend (anti-nausea), Norco (for pain), Keflex (antibiotic), Valium (woohoo), Lovenox Injection (blood thinner - anyone else on this one??), & then a special soap (hibickens) that I'm supposed to use for two days prior to surgery.

I guess that's about it. I was feeling pretty nervous yesterday. To be honest, I was seriously considering calling the whole thing off. But, apparently that is a normal phase...I'm feeling a teeeeeny bit better about things today. I just wish it was over already and I was was on my way to healing.

I'll add some new pictures today too.

Everyone ends up saying it was worth it. Everyone...

Everyone ends up saying it was worth it. Everyone ends up saying it was worth it. I'm just going to keep telling myself that every time I feel extra nervous. :)

10 days until my surgery people. TEN days!

Six days until my surgery now and I am doing much...

Six days until my surgery now and I am doing much better with the idea. I guess the doctor was right, it was just a normal phase that everyone goes through on this journey. I'm still not looking forward to the pain, but I need to just be grateful that I'm able to do this for myself and focus on the positives: I get to take 3.5 weeks of work (more if I need it), I get to spend that time with my kiddos (at least once I get to feeling a bit better I can sit on the couch & watch movies with them), and (the best part) I'm going to look great! I've never had a flat tummy before in my whole life. When I was in high school I ran varsity cross country. I ran 3 miles a day and I weighed 96 lbs (very nearly underweight!) - and I *still* had a pot belly. This is gonna be awe-some! :)

I think I have everything I need now and probably a bunch of stuff I don't bc my mom went overboard lol.

I have a recliner, one of those pillows with armrests (I might pick up a wedge-shaped pillow as well if I can remember where I saw one for sale at) - those are for after the recliner when I'm ready to try the bed again, and a walker.

My mom also got a hospital potty chair, a wheelchair and she hired a nurse (?!) to come and check on me the night after the surgery. Needless to say, I think those last things are totally unnecessary...what are your thoughts? I mean, what's the nurse going to do, really? Look at me and say "Yup. They cut her open, she looks miserable. Good luck with that." lol What can she really do?? Oh well, I guess an extra pair of hands can't hurt. The wheelchair and the potty chair sound like bad ideas though...I should be up walking as much as I can and if I have a wheelchair and a potty next to my recliner I'm going to sit and vegetate.

But...I guess the're there if I *do* need them.

Well, today was SUPPOSED to be my surgery day....

Well, today was SUPPOSED to be my surgery day. Instead it is the day before my surgery. Again.

Yesterday at 11am the surgery center called me to do my pre-anesthia questionare and were concerned to hear that I had a latex allergery (and apparelty the fact that I am also allergic to kiwis means that it is on the more severe side even though I've never had a severe reaction before...???). SO, they refused to take my case and my plastic surgeon's personal assistant called me at 3pm to tell me that it was a no go becuase the surgery center we had booked at was not latex-free. I was SO upset!!!

Then they tried to reschedule for next week, which I can't do due to work and school...it would have had to be moved to June! The plastic surgeon finally agreed to come in tomorrow morning and do it (I think it was supposed to be her day off). So now I'm booked for tomorrow morning at a different (laxtex-free) surgery center. Arrrrrrgggggghhhh! Crazy.

So I've been nesting like a crazy lady. I have everything done (recliner set up with my laptop and everything I think I'll need nearby). I'm at work right now but in a few moments I"m going to leave here and go get a massage (figured it couldn't hurt! lol) and then I need to go grocery shopping and change the sheets on my bed. Then its lovenox injection, ennema and valium time before bed. Woohoo.

Here's to my last day of having to decide whether or not to tuck my extra skin into my underwear! lol

I will write a much more detailed description...

I will write a much more detailed description later on when I'm not on so many pain meds (lol!) but right now I'm post op day 5 and doing GREAT! I woke up from the surgery not in too much pain and have never had much pain since. The pain ranges from 0 - 8 with most of the time hovering at around a 2 or 3. WAY bearable and not bad at ALL...and I had been SO WORRIED!!!!

Right now the biggest thing is that I just can't stay awake. I am only awake for 15 minute increments which makes it hard to update on here much but I will soon. I promise! :)

I just typed this LONG update and my laptop ate it...

I just typed this LONG update and my laptop ate it. OF. COURSE. :( I'll write it all back out tomorrow, right now too exhausted to do it again. Here are some updated pics though ( 6 days postop).

I have been awful about updating here…I had my...

I have been awful about updating here…I had my surgery on March 23rd and at first I was too out of it and then I was too frustrated to post but I want to get it all down now before I forget so here goes:

Day Before Surgery 1: I was called by the surgery center at 11am to give a medical history. At 4pm I was called by my plastic surgeon’s office to let me know that the surgery center had rejected my case because I have a latex allergy (WHICH I MENTIONED TO MY DR AT BOTH THE CONSULT AND THE PRE-OP!!!)and that they would have to reschedule for the following week someplace else. Um, no. I pitched a fit and ended up getting my surgery one day later than originally planned, I think it was supposed to be my Dr’s day off but I was annoyed and I was trying to work around work and school so…

Day Of Surgery: My 80-something year old grandmother ended up being the one to drive me to the surgery center the day of my surgery. I woke up early and she drove me down there, I spend the whole time trying really hard to NOT think. Just do it, don’t think about it. I brought my iPhone and was listening to my favorite band via headphones which helped. As soon as they took me back to prep me my grandmother left and I was a nervous wreck. Surprisingly I didn’t have a panic attack or cry though, both of which I usually do right before a surgery…I’m sure a lot of people do. It is scary. Thankfully the guy I have been seeing stopped by and held my hand until my surgeon came to get me to take me to the OR and that was really nice. ?

After they took me back and had me put the nifty gown and socks and cap on, and got my IV in I just waited for a bit with my visitor and before too long Dr Kim came in to draw my markings. My friend left at that point and after she was done drawing she had me hop back into the bed.

The next thing I remember is my bed being surrounded by people all of a sudden (Dr Kim, nurses…) and someone saying “This is your anesthesiologist, Dr Justice. So, of course, I had to crack a joke about “Oooohhh, Dr Justice, are you going to dole out some justice?” Everyone laughed and then he said “Well, lets see if this works” and pushed something through my IV. Nothing happened at first and everyone was staring at me. I said “What was that?” and everyone just laughed. I said “Oh no…does that mean I am about to start speaking in tongues or something?” and they laughed harder. Then I have a foggy memory of being asked to move from the bed to the operating table….

…My next memory is waking up in recovery. I heard my name so I opened my eyes (I was sitting up, of course, as they have you after a TT) and my nurse was standing at the foot of my bed. I said “That was it? I’m done?” (and she said yes). I said “That’s it?! I just had a tummy tuck!?” she laughed and said yes. At some point during all of this a nurse came up and told me that I had a catheter in place and that she was going to remove it (and she did, it just feels weird, no pain). I think I asked how long the surgery was but I don’t remember the response, I think it was around 3 hours but I’m not sure. Then I said “I don’t feel ANY pain!” and she said “Yeah, I have you maxed out on your pain meds.” I said “Awesome! Can I go home?” I don’t remember much after that, I don’t know if she just said yes or said if I could get up and get dressed/pee then I could or whatever…but in any case I vaguely remember seeing my Nana, I vaguely remember being wheeled to the car and riding home with my pillow that I’d brought over my belly. I remember walking into my room and falling into the recliner…

…and that’s pretty much ALL I remember for the first two weeks after the surgery! Lol I know that I slept a lot and was semi-coherent (talked to people, had visitors, watched a few TV shows) but for some reason I don’t REMEMBER any of it. I had a morphine pump for the first few days which was removed at my first post-op (surgery was Friday, pump removed on Monday). After that I took two Norco every four hours and Valium. That’s what it said on the bottle but for whatever reason Dr Kim ended up getting upset and said I was taking too much and refused to give me more than 1 refill. I ended up having to go to Urgent Care to get a third refill and then again for a step-down medication because she flat out refused to prescribe me anything else (with the exception of an antibiotic for a UTI that I developed). The Urgent Care doctors saw no issue with giving me more pain meds and they even called down a plastic surgeon to take a look at me. He said that it was one of the best tummy tucks he’s ever seen (YAAAAY!) and asked to take pictures. This is when I began to get irritated with Dr Kim because I had told her over and over and over again before the procedure that I am VERY resistant to pain medication but that I do NOT have an addictive personality and that I was only comfortable going through with the surgery if she was willing to work with me to keep me pain-free. I toss out unused pain pills ALL the time, I do not abuse them but I DO need high doses and I DO need to take them for longer than most people do. It annoys me that even though I went over and over this with her that we still ended up butting heads…even the Urgent Care staff was annoyed with her and called her to ask what was going on.
Which brings me to the second part of the reason why I ended up in Urgent Care: The day after the surgery I noticed a painful lump the size of an orange on my left side and a lot of bruising. By the time I got to my post op it was a HUGE bruise (my whole left side from butt-cheek to knee was black and red and blue). She said that I was doing too much and had popped sutures (I was bleeding externally as well) but that for the most part it was normal post-op bleeding. When I went to Urgent Care about the pain management I showed it to them and they were horrified, it was NOT normal, it was a hematoma (internal bleeding). They told me that the dose of Lovenox she had given me was too high for my size (5 ft & 109 lbs pre-op) in their opinion. Now, opinions vary on this in the Plastics community but she gave me the full 40ccs, and I think it was once a day (?) for four days. My hospital (Loma Linda University Medical Center) said it was inappropriate and Dr Kim called me to tell me that she had in front of her studies that showed that it was (appropriate). So…in either case I was annoyed again because she told me that my bruising was normal when she knew good and well that it was not. Urgent Care said it was a good thing that I came in to have it looked at because I had to be tested to see if I needed a transfusion. (I didn’t. Normal hemoglobin is 12, at 8 you need a transfusion and I was at 10.)

Other than that, healing as gone pretty darn well. I only used the recliner for the first night, I ended up preferring my bed with a ton of pillows to the recliner (I had a feeling I would end up that way). I used a walker for awhile, don’t remember for how long, and I used a raised toilet seat with hand rails for over two weeks (HIGHLY recommend this).

Like I said, I don’t remember much about the first two weeks or so, so I can’t give much advice. I can say that I was and have remained pretty much pain free throughout this whole experience, but I did have to be very pro-active and assertive about getting what I needed. I stayed on the Norco for two weeks(after the first week I went down to one pill every 6 hours). After that most people go on regular Tylenol but Tylenol does nothing for me (might as well be eating Tic Tacs for all the good it does, it doesn’t affect fevers, nothing for me and my father is the same way) and I couldn’t take Ibuprofen or aspirin or anything else I could find on the market because they are blood thinners and I had the internal bleeding. I tried to have a sit down with Dr Kim to resolve this issue, but she seemed like she was in a hurry to get to her next patient and her response was basically “Take the Ibuprofen at your own risk, I recommend Tylenol and I refuse to prescribe anything else.”

So I ended up BACK in Urgent Care. I wanted OFF the Norco and Valium but I still needed something for pain and muscle spasms (this was at two weeks and with zero meds I had both issues). They were more than willing to prescribe me Ultram and Skelaxin. The Ultram is apparently a pretty strong pain killer that works similarly to an opiate (vicodin, etc) but is not one. However, it has some very scary drug interactions and side effects.

Around the end of week 3 I decided to try some Tylenol 3 that I had leftover from my last C-Section. Perfection. I am extremely comfortable, not at all loopy (finally! Lol) and it doesn’t have as many scary risks. Right now I am taking 1 pain pill every 4 hours but I’m feeling great so I’m going to try to wean off that (6 hours, then 8,etc) and if that goes okay then I’ll go off meds entirely.

FYI: I did try one dose of Ibuprofen the other day and not only did it not control my discomfort well, but it did make me bleed (there was blood in my drains).

Another FYI: I apparently have a really bad reaction to Valium. I have been told that I picked fights with friends, got into arguments with my mother during which she had to fight me for my car keys because I was going to go DRIVE myself around, and I said and did other things that I have ZERO memory of. Not. Cool. I doubt I’ll ever take Valium again.

I can honestly say that I have had very little of anything that I would call actual PAIN (although when I woke up from the surgery and was all perky and asking to go home one of the nurses told me that most people wake up at least a bit miserable from this surgery and that I had the highest pain tolerance they’d ever seen). My biggest fear in ALL of this has been that I would be in excruciating pain because I have such a high tolerance to pain meds. BUT, when I am holding still (laying in bed, sitting in recliner, etc) I am usually 100% pain free or close to it. This recovery is very UNCOMFORTABLE (I feel more like I was in a car accident than like I had a surgery. I’m SORE, not in PAIN…if that makes any sense?). By the second week I was up to going on short outings and by week three I was working from home.

That brings me to the present…

Today is 3 weeks and 3 days post op. The soreness is improving, it was improving very slowly until yesterday when, for whatever reason, I had a sudden HUGE improvement. No idea why, it was mid day too…I just suddenly felt a lot better. I had a post-op visit today and had my first drain removed (it felt kinda strange coming out and then BURNED for a few minutes after…nothing unbearable though. I’m not even dreading the second one coming out, no biggie.)I’m pretty comfortable now. A little run-down, still some soreness (mostly around my belly button and where I had the bleed). I can laugh and cough without too much discomfort if I hold a pillow to my tummy (still haven’t sneezed yet *knock on wood*!).

I’ll update more later on but since this is a HUGE update, I’m sure it’s more than enough for now. Pics to come…

I will be 5 weeks post TT tomorrow. I've been off...

I will be 5 weeks post TT tomorrow. I've been off the pain meds since 3.5 weeks post op, not even Tylenol for the past few days. I am still tender if I push on or near the surgery site, but nothing major. It still hurts to cough or sneeze, laughing no longer hurts. :)

I had my last drain pulled on Monday (at 4.5 weeks). It really should have stayed in another few days because it was still draining at 36 ccs per 24 hour period (they like it to be less than 30 for 48 hours before they remove it). But I had developed a painful lump over the drain tube on the inside of my body near my hip bone. We still don't know what it is (maybe an adhesion, maybe an infection) that she plans to asperiate this upcoming Monday if it has not gone away on its own (so far it has not).

Since she had to take the drain out early she put me on bedrest for a week (SO I AM STILL OUT OF WORK!!! *screams*) And I have to wear 2 compression garments with 3 rolled up towels inside to put a LOT of pressure on my lower belly in hopes of preventing a seroma. So far I have swollen up pretty good since the drain came out, but the swelling is firm, not "fluid" and there is no "wave" when I touch my belly...so...*fingers crossed*

I can already tell I will be pursuing a scar revision in the future. I think I may do a scar revision and some lipo next year. Both sides have dog ears...but we'll see how those heal in the next 10 or 11 months. :)

Overall, doing much better. I feel a TON better now that the drain is finally out and I am much less depressed. I can't wait to go back to work and school on Monday (it has been FIVE weeks!!!!!!)

At this point, I do think the surgery was worth it. I am on the fence about whether I would ever use this PS again or recomend her to anyone...She did beautiful work and her prices can't be beat but I don't know if that makes up for her incompetence or her lack of bedside manner. :/ I'll have to give you my final verdict on that in a few months.
Dr. Kim

I'm still on the fence. Her work is beautiful and the prices can't be beat, but I've had some serious issues with her.

2 out of 5 stars Overall rating
1 out of 5 stars Doctor's bedside manner
1 out of 5 stars Answered my questions
1 out of 5 stars After care follow-up
1 out of 5 stars Time spent with me
2 out of 5 stars Phone or email responsiveness
3 out of 5 stars Staff professionalism & courtesy
5 out of 5 stars Payment process
5 out of 5 stars Wait tmes
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Your post-op pics look great. We want updates! :-)
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how u doing now eveything going better ;) keep us posted i live close by u here in hemet
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Glad you are happy with your results and that your ps did a wonderful job. Has your seroma gotten better? Happy healing.
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ALRIGHT! Hey someone ran off with your extra skin lol....you must be so happy! How many times we grab it or hide it just to see what it will look like and now you are there!!! Keep healing and being good to yourself I know the pain of them making you wait!!! Ughhh...
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First of all Congrats and omg I live in Moreno Valley and I'm happy to see that a few of you ladies are so close I need a couple of Dr's so I can compare costs and see who is best for me i staying close to home helps as well so please in box me the info so i can check them out I can't wait to have a flat tummy and be able to wear a sexi dress
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You look awesome! I had hematoma as well. It was smaller that yours though. Hope all goes well tomorrow. Happy healing!
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How r u
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congradulations cant wait to see your new tummy!!
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Hey dear....hoping to hear from you soon!
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very normal feelings :) 1/19/12 abdinoplasty / pannectomy .....removed equiv.of 30 sticks of butter ! best thing I have ever done ! Hang in there....you will be glad you did.....I have never felt better :) Keep us posted !!!!
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It is comforting to read all of your comments. My tummytuck is scheduled for March 30th at 7 a.m. and I am feeling quite nerveous. My husband is very supportive but I don't want to cause any stress on my kids...they love me a lot and are concerned about the surgery. I am sure what I am experiencing is normal and will probably feel better once the day arrives. I welcome any advice from those of you who have already been there.
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Hope all went well!
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I hope all is going well. Keep us posted.
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Thinking of you! Hope recovery is going well! Let us know your progress!
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After you posted on my profile, I had to say hi :) I am thinking right now you should be in surgery....you sound like you have more than everything taken care of! Can't wait to hear updates from you and more importantly, see your pics.
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Well thank goodness there's a latex free surgery center for you to go to!!! We will all be rooting for a great surgery with amazing results! Hope you enjoyed your massage! I had one the night before and it really put my nerves at ease! Good luck neighbor!!!
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Good luck tomorrow!! Sorry you had to wait that extra time. It's already an emotional roller coaster w/out getting canceled like that at the last minute.
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The nurse will actually do a lot for you. She'll be there to assess your situation and knows how to help you get relief or even get up and get to the bathroom (or your potty chair if that's the case). I had a nurse the whole first night and she was wonderful. Don't worry about what she will be doing. She's there to just look after you. I had a tremendous amount of pain and couldn't get out of it and then nurse called my doctor and that turned around quickly.

I didn't have a wheel chair but did have a walker like you do. That was a huge help.

You'll do great!!
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Hi Angela,
I can so understand your pre op nerves. I was a wreck and very tearful prior to my surgery. I think it is a very difficult decision to have elective surgery when you have kids to look after but remind yourself that you are worth it and you'll be so pleased afterwards. I'm in th UK so I think the pain meds etc are slightly different over here and my drains were taken out 1 day post op but I can honestly say it's not been a painful process. There has been discomfort definately but I wouldn't say it is any worse than a C-section. You'll be fine.
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forgot to say I had my surgery on 12th March so only 5 days post op!!!!
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p.s I think having the nurse overnight will be very reassuring both for you and your Mum. I stayed in hospital overnight and was monitored carefully for blood pressure etc and it was great to have the extra help when I needed to get up for the toilet!!!!!
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I think the waiting is one of the hardest parts of this journey! Sounds like your mom is super supportive. My must have was my toilet riser. Wonder if that could work on your potty chair. It's nice not having to go so far down to sit on the toilet. You don't realize how much you use your tummy muscles to go potty. I really only needed it for the first 5 days. The recliner was also very important. Seems to be the most comfortable place to be. Awesome that you have 3.5 weeks off. I went back to work after 2 weeks and I really tired myself out! Just listen to your body is my best advice! Try to enjoy the time off and just heal heal heal! Is Dr. kim a local doctor?
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Yes! Her office is in Temecula off of Rancho Caloforia Road! :)
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That's awesome. There's a lot of post op appointments and having dr kim close is going to be great for you. I was going to use a la jolla doctor but my husband insisted I try to find someone closer. So glad I did. I was freaking out about my belly button last Wednesday, I called dr newmans office and they said come right now. I was only 5 minutes away and they saw me the minute I walked in the door. I'm excited for you!!! Let me know if you need anything!
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Don't worry you will do just fine. I did have a pain pump and yes I am soooooo glad I did. It made it so much easier for me. I was so afraid of the pain, but with the pump it was better. I did end up coming home with a cath in, which made my first night so much easier. I didn't have to keep getting up In the middle of the night. Just remember its just temporary discomfort for a lifetime of feeling good.
Good luck and keep us posted
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