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Ready to Share my Story.... - Shreveport, LA

I decided early this summer that I would take the...

I decided early this summer that I would take the leap and have plastic surgery. I'm married with 3 kids. I give birth to the 14 and 12 year old and my 6 yr old is my step daughter. I had my kids young (I'm only 32). I am excited to start this journey. I'm having a full TT, lip of the flanks, hips, inner and outter thighs and hips and a breast lift with implants.

Before pictures 10-11-12

These aren't great quality. I will post more later.

Preparation....

So I have been trying to get everything ready for the big day...cleaning out closets....redecorating bathrooms....going through my clothes and getting rid of stuff I never wear but keeping things I want to wear but just don't because of how terrible I currently look in them. I can wait to see which clothes I can wear after surgery and actually look good. I'm pretty happy with my size. I'm a curvy size 14 and if I could just look great in my clothes I'd be happy with that. I have no false expectations that I'm going to look like some celeb or anything. I am having lipo on my flanks, inner thighs, outter thighs and hips though so I can I can reasonably expect to be a bit smaller than I am now....it may take months to see those results though because of swelling.

It's almost like I'm doing that nesting thing that we do when we are pregnant and preparing for the new arrival...except in this case the arrival is the new me...rather than a baby.....I'm very organized so maybe it's just that I want a very clean house during the almost two weeks that I'll be recovering..idk...I'm weird like that I guess.

So I have been shopping for all the things I'll need....so far I have spanx (not real spanx...found some awesome hanes brand at target for $18 a piece and I swear by them). I have spanx and I will never buy a pair again after finding these. I got some gas-x, stool softeners, sports bras, pj's that button in the front and some other things that I can't think of right now.

I'm really confused on what size bras to buy. I've been buying 36 DD...I am currently a 36D..im having a lift with prob about a 400cc implant not sure yet....any of you ladies that can shed some light on this it would be much appreciated.

I was telling a friend of mine that I am convinced that having PS is like Grief...there are stages....I am currently in the "why am I doing this?" stage. The one where I keep asking myself if the results will be good enough to justify the pain and financial investment. I am within 30% of my ideal weight but I am still overweight and I have a lot of stretch marks. I know the ones above my belly button won't be gone but I am praying they are mostly down below where my swimsuit or panties are. I have NEVER in my adult life worn a two piece bathing suit. I was also "husky" as a young adult and never dared wear one and well after having kids....it definitely wasn't going to happen. I told my husband that I think it's almost sad that at age 32 my body will look better after plastic surgery than it did in my teens before having kids....oh well...better late than never I guess.

I'm going to the Dominican Republic in March and by darn it I am going to wear a two piece! This will be my first time ever going ANYWHERE tropical. Yes, that's right! Also, it's a trip paid for in full my my work since I have for the first time reached President's Club status at work.....I have worked for this for 2.5 years and I have finally made it. I can't wait to take my husband on this amazing one week trip that will cost us nothing! The resort is even all inclusive and that includes tips! I'm like...what!? I have got to look great by March. I am in an office full of guys pretty much and all the other people that made President's club are guys that are bringing their super hot trophy wives.....ugh...I willl not be the fat girl in a one piece and shorts...no! Lol

Well that's my soap box for now....I promise I am going to post better before pics tonight....

Randomness

So I'm laying in bed reading studying for a certification test I'm taking next month....what book? "The Platinum Rule"....dryyyyyyyy.... Lol

Ok so here is my random epiphany... Today is 10/22...guess what happend today? I started my period!

My surgery date is 11/22...yes ladies.....I'll be starting my period just as this hell if a surgery/recovery begins. Ain't that a *bleep*

Ugh...that is all for now....

Today was my pre op!

Well, had my pre op today & I was super nervous. Last time I met with my PS was July. I was hoping I'd like him as much today as I did then...and I did! He's so nice & patient. He answered all my questions and really put me at ease. I literally came in with a list of like 14 questions... Lol.

17 days left until my surgery. I dont think we can call my surgery a mommy makeover because most people have this surgery to get back their pre baby body. I've never had a flat stomach or ever worn a two piece. I will look better after surgery than I did before babies. I don't want to say this surgery is going to change my life because that sounds kind of stupid and shallow but I kind of think it will in regards to how I feel about myself.

I still can't believe this is going to happen. I feel so extremely blessed.

Before pictures

There's no crying in plastic surgery! Right?

So we are having dinner and I suddenly bite my lip really bad. I mean, REALLY BAD! Bad enough to stun me and make my eyes water. My husband just sees me stop and grab my mouth and asks me what's wrong. I tell him I bit my lip and he says "well that's because you chew so fast". He didn't say it mean but he kind of did. It kind of had a hint of rudness in it. I totally took it like "oh well you eat like a big fat hog". (We ladies do have a tendency to take things that way). 5 minutes later I'm in the bathroom crying. What he said embarrassed me and I guess I just lost it. What the hell? Has anyone else experienced being emotional BEFORE surgery? I'm a week out and I know it will likely happen after but I didn't think it would happen before. Idk, maybe it's just partly because of how I'm feeling.

I paid for surgery in July at which time I weighed 180lbs. 4 months later....guess how much I weight? 180 lbs. That's pathetic. I mean, it really really is. I have been on a roller coaster of trying to lose some weight before surgery. I mean any weight...5 lbs...10lbs. How pathetic is it that there are people that can lose 100 lbs and I can't drop 10?

I've been this weight and this size since 10th grade. I weighed 180 when I got pregnant with both my kids. I weighed 205 when I had each of my kids and subsequently went back to 180. The lowest I have EVER been in my adult life was 157 when my first child was less than a year old which was around 2000. The other lowest weight i ever got down to was back in 2010....I got to about 167.....I was never at either or these weights for long though.

The last 4 months I start a new diet every Monday....let's see...first it was the "I'll eat exactly 1200 calories"...never works because I'm starving or there's that day when someone at work makes banana bread or something.

Then it's "i'll jus skip breakfast or i'll only eat salad at dinner".....the list is endless.....

Bottom line, I just feel like I'm a fat ass who can't control what food she puts in her mouth. The best of intentions with zero follow through means nothing. I guess the only comfort I have is that I have been the same weight for the past 15 years so i'm not worried about gaining weight after surgery and ruining my results.

I just look at myself and I'm sad. I have those overwhelming guilt for spending this money and feeling like "will it do any good"? I really want to wear a two piece and look decent enough that people don't stare. I dont want to be perfect. I dont even want people to look at me and think I look good. I just want them to think.."hey, that chick over there doesn't look terrible".

I see all you ladies before and after pics and I just CANNOT imagine that I will have results like that. I mean, I can truly say I have not looked at anyone's after pics and thought they didn't look amazing. Everyone's pictures are so awesome! Then I think, well if they look great then I will too. I try to find people who kind of look like me or have the same height and weight to try and gauge what I might look like.

Has anyone else felt like the surgery won't make that much of a difference or that you are too big or am I the only idiot thinking it?

Idk...the holidays are coming and those are not typically good times for me. I have my kids and my new husbands family but none of my own. He and i have been together close to 3 years. I don't speak to my mother or my step father and I didn't know my real father until I was 27. we email here and there but since he lives in Germany it's not like we can spend time together. I have been to his house 3 times in last 4 yrs that we have reconnected. Long story but basically im an immigrant. My Mother left him, met some american guy in the army while he was stationed in germany, moved us here and then told me my entire life that he never wanted anything to do with me...which of course was a lie...which is partly why i dont speak to her..among other reasons too lengthy to list here. So you see, I have had almost no contact with my family (aunts, uncles, cousins). I have been here since I was 9 yrs old. I try to talk to them on facebook but it's hard. Im just some person to them I guess. We are blood but have no connection. They all grew up together, went to each other's birthday parties, to each other's communion, to each other's weddings...they were there when each other's kids were born...and so on and so on.

Idk...I do feel lonely because none of them know. I dont have sisters or brothers or female cousins to talk to about it. I wish I had a mom to help support me through this. I have my mother in law but it's not quite the same. I have one close friend that lives 2 hours from here but that's it. I dont have a group of close girlfriends...

*long sigh*...well not sure how all that came from biting my lip but here it is...me and all my thoughts....

Pics the night before surgery

1 day post op

2 days post op

It looks like they got bigger...weird

3 days post op

4 days post op

I am extremely swollen especially in my lower tummy but I can see a huge difference. My ps removed 5 quarts during lipo & a piece of skin & fat 2ft by 8 inches!

4 days post op

9 days post op

Well let's start with the good news....

My boobs are looking nice & they only hurt in the morning. I get very stiff after not moving all night so when it's time to use my arms to get up it hurts but the pain isn't too bad. I think ill end up in a 36DDD. (I was a 36C before surgery).

I peaked at part of my tummy under my binder and it's so freggin flat! I do still have some stretch marks next to my BB but that's ok. I knew he wouldn't be able to get rid of all of them. But at this point I'm very happy with what I see so far.

My doc said he removed a piece of skin & fat 2 ft by 8 inches & I can tell. There were a few button up shirts I had that I could not button & now even after getting big boobies i can button several of them. I see a huge difference in my waist & hips.

He also removed 5 quarts during the lipo. That's 12lbs people! He stopped at 5 quarts because that's max you can do safely during one procedure.

Now for the bad news....
I still have my stupid drain in. I couldn't get it out Friday because my fluid out put Thursdsy was 45cc. Ill def get it out tomorrow though. My husband has been washing my hair in the kitchen sink & helping me sponge bathe. I still feel so dirty. I dream of the awesome shower I'm going to take tomorrow after I get my drain out.

95% of all my pain has been from the lipo! Even now, I'm fine but my legs are black & blue, extremely swollen & feel very tight. It makes standing up very painful but once I'm up & moving around then I'm okay. To give you an idea of how swollen I am....my legs are twice the size they were before surgery. Surgery day I weighed 180...2 days ago I weighed 195! Today 188....so I am seeing huge improvement in swelling. My binder is fitting losser every day. It will take a good month to see the results of the lipo.

I plan to post pics tomorrow after I get my drain out.

I hope you are all doing well & sorry for being MIA. I had a rough recovery so resting is really all I've wanted to do.

Post op day 10

I just want to cry I'm so happy. Even though I still have stretch marks I DONT CARE! My stomach looks amazing & with crazy swelling. It is so tight & I can almost even see some definition. My doc says over the next few months it will continue to improve.

I can't wait to go shopping for my very first two piece bathing suit!

Welcome to swell hell!

2 weeks & 6 days post op

All I can say compare these pics with the ones I posted the night before surgery!! What a huge difference.

I can now fit into my pre surgery pants. They are snug in the lower belly but getting looser in the thigh area. My lower belly is so freggin swollen!

I'm wearing the compression garment from the doc all day & then I sleep in my spanx. The garment from the doc compresses so well that I can't sleep in it. I tried one night & I was so uncomfortable. I see a huge difference in how it fits. After surgery it was so tight on my thighs that it was painful but now it fits well while compressing thighs without pain. It def does a better job of compressing my tummy than the spanx do & as a plus it has a trap door so I wear my panties over it & therefore restroom breaks during the day are a breeze.

That's important since I drink tons of water. Even before surgery & docs orders I was a huge water drinker.

My boobs aren't as bruised anymore but they still look weird. Lol. I had to put band aids over my nipples because they were hyper sensitive. Even having them touch my bra was almost painful. They say that goes away in a couple months.

Other than aches and pains from lipo & some sore boo snow & then I feel great. I'm just patiently waiting for all the swelling to go away, which can take months...ugh...patience is not my strong suit!

I hope you are all doing well :)
Shreveport Plastic Surgeon

My husband & I just love Dr Oneal. Not only is highly recommended in Shreveport but he has an amazing bedside manner. Everyone in Shreveport I've talked to about him says simply that "he's the one!" He's funny, nice & EVERYTIME I see him he is so happy. He's a very positive person & you can tell he loves his job! He has done a great job with me procedures & has been great during recovery.

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Hey hun how's it going? Hope ur well & some of the swellung has done down so that ur loving ur results even more!! Stay in touch.
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How's it going? How ya feeling?
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you look great!
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Wow, I love your results! And your positivity!!! :)
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Thank you!
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U look great. Glad you're keeping it real with your emotions. It's so hard to get an idea of what we're gonna go through. U must definitely keep us posted with your progress.
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Thanks!
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Wow! Excited to see your results, looking great already! Did you lipo flanks too? Which hurt worse? Lipo flanks or thighs?
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I did flanks, hips, thighs (tops, inner & outter). The thighs was the worst. It was excruciating!
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Looking great! Thanks for the update!
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Thank you!
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lookin good!
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Thank you!
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My Spidey senses were tingling. I knew you must have updated. Ho-ly crap, lady, I can see your abs! I sure am proud for you, hon.
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Thanks! I'm still in shock myself! Oh & check your inbox dear :)
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Looking great!
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Thank you!
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Looking good !
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Thx! I get my drain out today & I'll get to see my whole tummy for the first time! Ekkk! I'm so excited!
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Thanks for updating! Your pictures look great! Five quarts?? That sounds like so much!
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I know it does. He said that equals to 12lbs. I had lipo on my flanks, hips & legs & trust me there was plenty to suck out. Lol. I'm gonna post after pics without my binder tomorrow after I get my drain out.
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Hey girl! I'm in Shreveport too! Looks like you are doing great! I'm 7 weeks out and can tell you it's totally worth it!! ;) how are you feeling??
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Hi! I'm much better but this is so much harder than I imagined. Last night was the first night I slept in my bed & when I went to get up it felt like someone was ripping my boobs off my chest & like I was ripping my stitches open on my tummy. I kno I wasn't it's just such a weird feeling for my body to be so out of whack. The lipo I think has been the worst. Ugh.today I am 5 days with no shower & still have my drain. At the rate I'm putting out fluid I'm afraid it may be Monday before I get it out because of the holiday. I'm so upset about it.
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I feel your pain. My drains didn't come out till day 7 and 9 but when they do it makes a world of difference. Unfortunately the lipo discomfort sticks around a while. I had it on my flanks and I'm still a little sore there. That was prob the worst part-other than sneezing and coughing! I think I slept in my recliner for over 2 weeks just because it was easier to get out of. It will all be worth it!!
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Thanks. :)
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